My Lotus Moments

[bctt tweet="Culturally, no accomplishment of a woman is as celebrated as the moment she decides to attach herself in marriage." username="hope_in_her"] In the 2nd installment of the Celebration of Love Series, LaChanda and I talk about the importance of loving yourself. If you are without a Valentine- don’t fret! You are not alone. Don’t allow yourself to give in to pressure and stress of the holiday. Create a positive outlook and enjoy yourself during this time! Take a listen as LaChanda and I explore some important factors. Connect with LaChanda all month long on IG @her_voice_her_story as she continues her stories about self-love. [bctt tweet="Embrace the power that you have as a woman. –LaChanda" username="hope_in_her"] Key Take Aways: Learn to embrace your singlehood- do not rush this very important growth stage. Don’t allow the concept of “the 1” to make you stay in a toxic relationship We accept disrespect and more because of societal pressures and expectations. We’ve all been there. Be the best exam

It’s a new year so it’s time to leave the things that didn’t work in the past!   "You can’t address problems until you acknowledge they exist "    Key Take a ways: Face the music and learn what’s on your credit report. Do not rely on others to enjoy your life There are lessons to be learned when you change your perspective Stop Looking for validation Motivation is not enough to reach your goals Men should feel so uncomfortable about projecting negative sentiments about women that they question doing it. But, they don’t… That should be a problem for you. Negative people are draining  People are intimated by the power and voice of a woman of color. Don’t change who you are because it makes others uncomfortable. Perfectionism is fear based  "Start focusing on the positive in 2017 "    Timeline of the show: :38 Bad Money Habits 6:11 Living life to the fullest 16:16 Allowing Men to bash us and be hypercritical 20:30 Negativity and Judgment of others 25:20 Making yourself small to make others comfortable 29:50 P

Download Episode The second episode of this series is not only funny but soooo informative! Dev was dropping gems all through this episode! In this show, we talk about everything from "holidating" to depression! You definitely want to listen to this episode!    [bctt tweet="Single women should never leave their parent's house and go straight to their spouse's house." username="hope_in_her"]   Questions we ask this episode: Do you believe depression is a choice? Which holiday do you believe is worst for single women? Have you ever received or given a bad gift during the holidays? How did you handle it?     [bctt tweet="If they are willing to give to others, they are most likely willing to give to you." username="hope_in_her"] Key Take a ways: Start your own traditions Get to know others through service Don’t get caught up in other people’s representatives. Change can cause grief [bctt tweet="There is nothing worst than showing up and you are the only single person…" username="hope_in_her"]   Timeline of

For single folks, the holidays can be tough. But, don't let that get you down... Devon and I will help you maneuver through the holidays with your head held high! The holidays may have you thinking you need a partner to feel better but, trust me... you don't. Don't rush something for the sake of having a body during "cuddle season."  [bctt tweet="Live your best life now!! Don’t wait until you find a partner to experience and enjoy life. " username="hope_in_her"]   Questions we ask this episode: What are the benefits of being single during the holidays? Which holiday do you believe is worst for single women? Have you ever received or given a bad gift during the holidays? How did you handle it?   [bctt tweet="Learn how to be comfortable with yourself and embrace your single season " username="hope_in_her"]   Key Take a ways: How do you handle situationships during the holidays? Bad Dating experiences are universal- not just in your state Embrace the benefits of being single Single women have to monitor thei

Download Episode Download Episode In the second half of Combating Confidence Killers, Nicole and I continue to break down barriers! We talk about everything from men, interracial dating, fashion and failure. Don’t miss this very special episode! [bctt tweet="Everyone has their own standard of beauty and we should respect that. " username="hope_in_her"] [bctt tweet="You would think being at an HBCU, with people that look like you, they would be more accepting but, that’s not the case. - Nikky Def" username="hope_in_her"]   Questions we ask this episode: Do WOC alter their behavior and habits for the sake of attraction of others? Does dating outside of your race add a level of confidence? When can holding ourselves to such high standards become unhealthy? [bctt tweet="Confident people don’t hate on others " username="hope_in_her"]   Key Take a ways: Why do we find it so easy to make other women feel bad when they feel good about themselves? Black men are just as obsessed with hair as black women are… WOC

If you are overweight or have struggled with your weight like I have then, imagine how rude it would be if a smaller woman was to approach you as you ate and said, "mayyybee... you shouldn't eat that!" How pissed would you be? Well, for people like Nicole, making unsolicited statements such as, "you need to eat (more)!" evokes the same emotion. It's hurtful. "Real women have curves?" We hear that all too often. But, did you know when you make statements like this, you're implying that somehow women without curves are not actually REAL women? These women are sisters, mothers, daughters, and etc. They have the same struggles as their curvier counterparts. As difficult as it may be to find a decent pair of size 16 pants, so is it to find a 00. Please stop insinuating that smaller women "have it easier" or aren't real women because as Nicole stated, "you just may trigger the exact problem they are trying to overcome... an eating disorder." Eating disorder? But, that's a "white girl" issue? To be honest, it's mor

Download Episode Once you've decided that you are a part of an unhealthy, broken relationship you have to decide if you will renew or release the relationship. In the second half of the discussion, Kelli and I continue to explore the steps after recognizing a relationship is broken!    Key Take Aways:  Broken relationships leave you feeling hurt and disconnected. They go way beyond the daily ups and downs of a relationship You have a choice to stay in a broken relationship, deny if you are even in one, or deciding to walk around. [bctt tweet="Forgiveness is a journey that starts with the willingness to take the first step. without willingness, the journey will be impossible. -Desmond Tutu" username="hope_in_her"] Timeline of the show: 1:25 Kelli's personal story connect with Kelli on facebook 3:40 Broken vs typical relationship problems 5:25 Renew or release the relationship? 8:30 Seeking counsel to restore a broken relationship 11:35 How to get in touch with Kelli 12:30 Dangers of living in the past

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What contributes to a broken relationship and what are some signs that you may be in a relationship that's broken? In the first episode of My Lotus Moments, Hope is joined by counselor and author, Kelli H. Smith to address these questions and a lot more!  Follow Kelli on IG: https://www.instagram.com/khs_author  Follow Us: https://www.instagram.com/hopeinher Contact Us: http://www.hopeinher.com/contact/ Show Notes:http://www.hopeinher.com/01 Subscribe and Leave a 5 Star Review: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/my-lotus-moments/id1171252105?mt=2