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A how-to and what-to-do program where skilled hosts welcome guests and callers to practice empathy, mindfulness, and effective communication. Do you want tools for connection, conflict resolution, and compassion for self and others? We explore skills, knowledge and resources to empower you to connect across differences. The post Talk-It-Out Radio – November 11, 2018 appeared first on KPFA.

Host Timothy Regan welcomes Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer and Organizational Consultant Roxy Manning, Ph.D. We explore detailed wisdom and actions that each of us can draw upon when observing or participating in the aggressions of daily life. We define aggression and microaggression, and then place ourselves in 3 roles: the observer, the actor, and the receiver, using one possible situation, and we discuss inspiring choices and actions that are available to us in each of these roles if we want to create a world around us founded on equity, inclusion, and dignity. Roxy Manning, Ph.D. The post Facing Aggression in Daily Life with Skill and Compassion appeared first on KPFA.

Host Nancy Kahn talks with special guest, Kangs Trevens, an Oakland-based counselor and facilitator of Trauma-Informed Nonviolent Communication about de-escalation and grounding skills that every person could benefit from. Join us to learn essential skills that support safety and contribute to reducing harm during difficult and overwhelming human interactions without the default being calling law enforcement. Kangs Trevens is a Trauma-Informed Nonviolent Communication trainer, mediator, activist, empathic counselor, and gender abolitionist. He hopes to see an end to the prison industrial complex and other punitive systems. He has been learning, teaching and living the principles of Nonviolent Communication and a variety of trauma-informed modalities since 2008. He has 11 years of experience as a mental health counselor working in residential treatment settings for substance use and addiction, where he supported staff and clients in managing and navigating difficult interactions.  He specializes in but is no

Timothy Regan meets outside in the gathering dusk among the crickets with Forest Bathing Guide, Wildlife Tracker, and Relational Educator Caitlin Williams, to explore the Nature of peacemaking through our senses.  Join us in the forest! Learn about Caitlin and her work at KnowingWild. The post Forest Bathing and Peacemaking: Interview with Caitlin Williams appeared first on KPFA.

Racism is in the air we breathe, the water we swim in. We all are conditioned by it and it affects the interactions we have with one another. The UNtraining supports us in being aware of our conditioning and letting go of it. Host Marlena Willis talks with Robert Horton, cofounder of the UNtraining, and Kathleen Rice, an UNtraining teacher. Robert Horton is co-founder and co-director of the UNtraining. He is a white man with a passionate interest in undoing racism and a belief that this process begins with oneself. Robert has been working with Rita Shimmin since 1994, studying her approach to multi-dimensionality which she calls Racism, Diversity and Risk of the Self. The UNtraining is based on their work together. Robert studied Process Work with Arnold Mindell and has practiced Tibetan Buddhism for more than 30 years.   Kathleen Rice initially joined the UNtraining in 2000, hoping to find the magic trick that she could use to get other white people to work to end racism and white supremacy. That’s not what

Host Nancy Kahn holds a timely discussion with guest, Randi Bryant, a corporate diversity trainer and author. They address current events related to the abuse of power across race and gender, and share communication strategies they have found essential in holding successful dialogues of this nature. Nancy and Randi talk about the #MeToo Movement and the recent controversial Supreme Court nomination. Listeners are invited to call in to the show at 7:40 pm (dial 1-800-958-9008) to describe any current challenges you are facing in organizations or institutions across race and gender oppression or sexual harassment, and receive support and communication coaching. About Randi Bryant: In 2001, Randi founded and still operates a corporate training company, educating companies, executives and employees on topics including anti-discrimination, communication in a diverse work environment, and how to capitalize on a diverse workforce. Randi has grown it from a small start-up consultancy to an award-winning compa

Join host Timothy Regan, with special guest Martha Lasley, Certified Nonviolent Communication Trainer and Leadership Coach, for this episode. We provide the definition of a particularly difficult form of communication called a “Microagression,” and provide several examples, and then demonstrate how you might free yourself from the freezing effects of them. We offer you ways to respond that brings more relationship back into our world: more consideration, kindness, empowerment, clarity, honesty, and inclusion. This episode is for you if you want to build your power and capacity to respond to insidious divisiveness and aggression with language that builds bridges instead of walls between people. The post Microagressions: What They Are, How they Work, and How to Respond appeared first on KPFA.

Buddhism teaches that craving is the cause of suffering. Certainly when we abuse drugs, alcohol, food, sex or other substances or behaviors we create suffering for ourselves and others and are not the most effective in making the world a better place for all. Host Marlena Willis talks with Valerie Mason-John, also known as Vimalasara, who herself used the Buddha’s teachings to overcome addiction. She shares her experience with others on how Buddhism can support recovery. Vimalasara (Valerie) Mason-John co-authored the award-winning book Eight Step Recovery – Using the Buddha’s Teachings to Overcome Addiction. She is president of the Buddhist Recovery Network and is the cofounder of a secular mindfulness program for addiction. She is also the author of the new revised edition of Detox Your Heart – Meditations For Emotional Trauma. She is a leading African-Canadian voice in the field of Mindfulness for Emotional Trauma and Addiction. The post Craving and the End of Craving appeared first on KPFA.

Host Nancy Kahn talks with guest Max Rivers, author of the new book Loving Conflict. Mr. Rivers discusses how to practice embodied Nonviolent Communication in primary intimate relationships, how to use conflict to unlock intimacy, and ways to return to effortless love using a process he and his partner developed called the Teamwork method. Mr. Rivers covers three stages of relationships: the infatuation stage, the differences stage (conflict stage) and the mature relationship. Nancy and Mr. Rivers talk about how the skills of mediation can improve primary relationships and help surface the root cause of conflict so that more needs can be met. Listeners are invited to call in to the show at 7:30 pm (510-848-4425 or 1800-958-9008) to ask focused questions or provide comments related to the show’s topic. Max Rivers is the lead mediator at TheMarriageMediator.net where he pioneered marriage mediation. He has developed a six-session process to help couples learn how to use Nonviolent Communication to navigate thei

Timothy Regan explores a list of key conditions that help human beings communicate with compassion and honesty, especially when passions are high.  He welcomes callers to add to the list. He then shares some tips and approaches of several groups who are bringing strangers and opponents together to connect and collaborate across our politically and interpersonally fractured United States.  Examples include:  “Better Angels,” “Livingroom Conversations,” “Urban Confessional,” and “The Empathy Tent.” The post Some Conditions Necessary for Healthy, Empathic, Nonviolent Dialogue appeared first on KPFA.

Host Marlena Willis talks with filmmaker, Ana Joanes, whose film, Wrestling Ghosts, is about the tools we can use, including Nonviolent Communication, to become better parents. It follows the epic journey of Kim, a young mother who, with the help of her partner Matt and the support of therapists, works to confront her traumatic childhood to build a stronger bond with her sons. Victor Lee Lewis, one of the featured healing practitioners in the film and who works with Emotional Freedom Technique, which uses tapping on acupressure points to clear out trauma, will also appear as a guest. The film will premier at the LA Film Festival on September 27 and then have showings in Oakland on the September 29 and Santa Cruz on September 30. Ana Joanes is a documentary filmmaker dedicated to inspiring conscious action and systemic change through film. Her previous works include Generation Meds, an exploration of our fears and misgivings about mental illness and medication, and Fresh, which celebrates the farmers, thinkers

Host Nancy Kahn talks with guest Kelsey Blackwell, author of Why People of Color Need Spaces Without White People. Kelsey shares her perspective on why dedicated spaces for People of Color contribute to healing from “embodied inequality.” Kelsey Blackwell is a writer, embodiment facilitator, and coach specializing in wellness, racial justice, mindfulness, meditation, and natural living. Nancy and Kelsey discuss how they have experienced both White people and People of Color express resistance to People of Color meeting separately, and explore possible reasons for the resistance. Tune in to hear a larger exploration of embodied practices that addresses trauma and the impact of oppression that people can incorporate into their lives. Listeners are invited to call in to the show at 7:30 pm (510-848-4425 or 1800-958-9008) to ask focused questions or provide comments related to the show’s topic. Kelsey Blackwell is a body intellectual, writer and dancer who works at the intersections of spiritual practice, social

Host Timothy Regan and the 44th group of KPFA Radio Apprentices explore the basics of Nonviolent Communication to create their new team and their community here at KPFA. This episode takes you to the table during a real class offered by Timothy just the other evening. Hear helpful principles in listening, dealing with anger, and imagining what might be possible if more people chose to connect rather than defend. We are happy that this is happening at KPFA! The post Practicing The Basics of Nonviolent Communication with the KPFA First Voice Apprentices! appeared first on KPFA.

Meditation can contribute so much to our lives – giving us gifts of clarity, calmness, equanimity, the capacity to love more deeply and much more. Host Marlena Willis talks with meditation teacher and author, Spring Washam, who has been a leader in bringing meditation to youth and to people of color and in integrating the shamanic teachings of South America with Buddhist practice. Spring Washam is a meditation teacher and author of A Fierce Heart: Finding Strength, Courage and Wisdom in Any Moment. Spring is considered a pioneer in bringing mindfulness-based healing practices to diverse communities. She is one of the founders and core teachers at the East Bay Meditation Center in Oakland, CA. She is also a shamanic practitioner and has studied indigenous healing practices for over a decade. She founded Lotus Vine Journeys, an organization that blends indigenous healing practices with Buddhist wisdom. She currently travels and teaches meditation retreats, workshops and classes worldwide. The post The Gift of M

Host Nancy Kahn reviews the history of Nonviolent Communication (NVC), purpose/intentions behind the practice (underlying principles and assumptions), its application in our relationships, and the relevance of this inner practice in our lives. Nancy includes examples of how to apply this practice to the news we hear coming from the Trump administration to the experiences we have at work and at home. Nancy guides callers in applying NVC principles to their relevant personal, workplace, or societal issues. She models core skills, such as empathic presence, clear and effective self expression, and self-connection, that NVC helps us develop. She invites listeners to call in​ at 7:20 pm (800-958-9008 or 510-848-4425). The post Nonviolent Communication: The Background, Purpose, Application, and Relevance in Our Lives appeared first on KPFA.

Host Timothy Regan uses the power, language and empathy of NVC to create a sweet public space for listeners to touch and express the essence of what matters to them right now. When we check in with our feelings and understand our needs, we return to our power and our creativity and our resilience. Timothy extends his kindness so that callers feel heard and seen for who they are. He expresses understanding for their feelings and needs and shares teaching moments as well in this tender and beautiful space for the human heart. The post Space and Time for Sweet Mourning and Celebration appeared first on KPFA.

Host Nancy Kahn and guest, Dr. Meg Jordan, a global medicine hunter and chair of the M.A. program in Integrative Health Studies at California Institute of Integral Studies (CIIS) discuss the benefits of Nonviolent Communication (NVC) Across Differences in Health and Wellness. Dr. Jordan is a world-traveled medical anthropologist, holistic RN, educator and journalist specializing in integrative health and behavioral medicine. Dr. Jordan realizes that good medicine is the one that works for the person, no matter if it’s alternative, complementary or conventional. Dr. Jordan incorporates the practices of NVC Across Differences into the Health and Wellness Coaching Programs at CIIS, recognizing that the healing process requires the ability to transform judgments and self-judgments into universal human needs/core values. Dr. Jordan’s work as a behavioral medicine specialist helps people adjust their immediate environments as well as their inner psycho-emotional terrain to make lasting, positive changes. Listeners

Often, to contribute in the world in the way we want, we must unburden ourselves from the weight of regret and shame over things we have done to harm others and the pain and resulting reactivity that comes when others have hurt us. Host Marlena Willis shares and explores ways that nonviolent communication and meditation practices can support us in making amends to others and in healing from the harm others have done to us. The post Cleaning the Slate appeared first on KPFA.

How to meet your Impact with dignity and healing: Using a live and intense example with guest Warren Hooley, indigenous activist, educator, and Nonviolent Communication trainer from British Columbia, we offer you a radical and healing way to respond if you are faced with anger and blame because something you said or did stimulated pain in someone or a whole group of people. Especially if you care about your impact, and your intention was not to harm anyone. This is tough territory, and we want to share some inspiring insights with you. Timothy Regan hosts collaboratively with Mr. Hooley. Warren Hooley is a half-Okanagan-Indigenous, half-Caucasian man from the Syilx (Okanagan) Territory in Penticton, British Columbia. For the past 5 years, Warren has passionately chosen a path of intensive facilitation training, delivering workshops across BC and performing as an Inspirational Hip Hop Rapper/Beatboxer. Today, currently living in Vancouver, Warren reflects on ‘why’ he has chosen to do youth empowerment work. He

Host Nancy Kahn talks with guest Jair Valley, a dynamic 21-year-old African American artist and full-time professional​. Jair talks about ​a​ recent experience of implicit racial bias in his workplace and the process he is actively engaged in to reclaim his dearly held values for wholeness and compassion. Starbucks recently shared materials with the public on the nationwide training they provided to all employees and defined Implicit Bias as the automatic association of stereotypes or attitudes with particular social groups, and they referenced the source Banaji & Greenwald, 2013. Patricia Devine, a psychology professor and director of the Prejudice Lab said, “ There are a lot of people who are very sincere in their renunciation of prejudice, yet they are vulnerable to habits of mind. Intentions aren’t good enough.”  (Nordell, “Is This How Discrimination Ends”, atlanticmonthly.com)​. A sample of Jair’s art: his self-portrait This show ​offers insights and practices into how to recover from the impact of r