Thriving Twogether

When's the last time you watched a movie by the Kendrick brothers? Or what does Narnia and Kicking and Screaming teach about families? No family, no marriage is perfect but we can learn to set aside ego and selfishness to lift our families and here's a few movies that will teach you how. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

When interacting with your spouse or your children do you come from a position of vulnerability and love or from the Inquisition position? In other words how you enter situation is how you exit a situation. Your attitude and feelings towards another person help shape how they react to you. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

What does Brian Regan, Blendtec blenders and fusion drinks have in common? In today's episode I talk about harmony over melody and how diversity in unity is vital. Learn about how love is like a blender. And how you can celebrate fusion not bland sameness in politics, religion and in any other hot topic --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Have you ever watched karate Kid one two or three? Then you know about Mr Miyagi and Daniel Larusso. The master is Mr Miyagi who's equanimity calmness and words are fused with confidence and stand in contrast to Daniel's passion, impulsivity and aggression. What personality is most needed and effective in your relationship? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

If you were to see a rattlesnake on a mountain we're out in a field would you pet it? Would you gather it up and put it in your backpack and take it to town and show it to your friends? Of course not. What about your temperature? Are you more of a thermostat? Or a thermometer? Who chooses how you will respond toxic people, difficult situations, and horrible experiences? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

What's the best thing to do when listening? Do we prepare to say something when the other speaker's done? Or maybe we can just interject and tell them how to solve their problem. What is the purpose of listening? I've learned that listening to listen is one of the most selfless wonderful things we can do to help other people. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

The Japanese word Wa means subjecting your needs for the good of the team. In families it's each person subjecting their needs for the good of the family. Others suggest sacrificing egotism for altruism.  For Melissa and me, removing self from the team is like the times we struggled to observe the plastic covering on our dishwasher and stove.We had no idea the plastic was on for months and that it was the reason for why we couldn't get the appliances looking clean. Give family members the benefit of the doubt. See the best in them. Make sure you remove the plastic covering in your relationships --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

How do you know if you love someone? Because you spend time and money and work towards their happiness. Melissa and I discovered The Adventure Challenge: Couples Edition which helps us to invest time and money into our relationship. There's also the family edition of The Adventure Challenge which is very fun too. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Do you remember what Cinderella said at the end of the most recent Cinderella movie? I forgive you. Those words and probably even more importantly that belief is one of the most critical things in marriage. Do you remember how Scotty Pippen responded to the criticism of his migrane game? Did he retaliate or seek revenge or blame? Nope! What's the secret behind the responses of Cinderella and Scottie Pippen? Did you know that Josh Waitskin, the inspiration behind The Search For Bobby Fisher, also had a similar method? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

What is something your spouse would really, really love? -It's hard to stay angry long with someone for whom you're praying. -Sequoia: unlike many trees, they reach out and interlock their roots with the Sequoias around them. -make a commitment to daily let go of unrealistic expectations and become your spouse's greatest encourager. Dreams: Imagineer at Disney World. In the World Book. Humility: Randy's dad's Bronze Star for valor. 50 years and no mention of it. Does a car matter? Arguing about a double charge? Brick walls & Tenacity. His wife and Brown University. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

The Arbinger Institute packed The Anatomy of Peace with transformative tips. Below are my notes.  When hearts are at war we can’t see clearly. How we disagree is more important than if we disagree. Don’t horribleize others.  Justification: Do you need enemies more than you need peace? Create a out-of-the box safe place for others by not blaming others. Care enough about others to be curious. Judging happens when we care more about our self than others. If continuous correction isn’t fixing the problem, then more correction won’t work. Fix your way of  being instead. Invite not incite change. Invite cooperation. Strengthen the relationship if your teaching doesn't seem to work. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

A phenomenal book called Fierce Conversations offers several insights. For instance option Q might be better than my current three options. And where there is anger there is fear, so replace fear with faith. How we enter conversation is how we emerge from them. Learn how to deliver the message without the load. Life is curly. Confront means to search for truth. Multiple truths exist for each problem. Become a crucible: a strong, resilient vessel in which profound change can take place. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

1. His Needs, Her Needs 2. The 5 Love Languages 3. Intended For Pleasure 4. Crucial Conversations 5. The Last Lecture 6. The Love Dare 7. Rock Solid Relationships 8. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life 9. Purity and Passion 10. Anatomy of Peace 11.Fierce Conversations 12. Dealing With Differences In Marriage 13. Parenting The QBQ Way 14. Essentialism 15. The Family You've Always Wanted 16. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families 17. Boundaries In Marriage --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

My son and I enjoy looking at Ferraris, Maseratis and Porsches. Occasionally the showroom contains an Aston Martin or a Rolls-Royce too.  This last time we visited the showroom we noticed that most of the cars had ceramic brakes. The ceramic brakes were noticeable on each high-end vehicle with vibrant colors like canary yellow and fire engine red. When we arrived home my son began his research on ceramic brakes. He discovered ceramic brakes are a great option instead of metal brakes or organic brakes because ceramic brakes help high-end vehicles stop quickly. Furthermore he learned that ceramic brakes don't heat up as much as metal brakes or organic brakes. And they leave less residue. What about cost? They cost quite a bit more the metallic brakes or organic brakes. Ceramic brakes are a great marriage metaphor. Marriage demands a high cost to ensure that we won't heat up with anger not leave contentious debris or residue and will be able to stop our erroneous behavior quickly. I think of several people who a

What did a rib injury teach me over the last couple weeks? I learned to stop, pause, reverse, and listen more. I put aside my own agenda, planning, and even my workouts. I found out what it means to have three Saturdays in a row. Sometimes we go fastest when we stand still. Or as my wife and Stephen R. Covey often have said "to go fast we must go slow." --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

One of the most important things in life is faith. Faith in God faith in yourself and faith in others. But Faith doesn't make everything easy, just easier. Faith is not a direct path but rather faith is like a pinball machine. We're bounced all around we go up and down and sometimes we hit the jackpot and sometimes we fail. But ultimately we win as we trust in a higher power. And as Thomas S. Minson once said, "The future is as bright as your faith." --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Dan, a blogger, taught me about a Formula One Psychologist who taught a team to see problems, say the problem and to fix them. Additionally it's important to see others goodness thank them for who they are and to continuously be gracious with them.  What if we did both? What if we had the courage to tell our teams and families where we can do better to accept correction and also be constantly finding the good and others and telling them about it? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

The Dutch Masters, the Impressionists the Realists and many more used a great idea to be able to revise their work and save money. They painted many paintings on the same canvas. they painted layer upon layer upon layer as they sought to get better and better and better. For them it wasn't a matter of if they were going to be perfect at first or even very good at first. they knew that it would take many many lessons and practices before they could create something Worthy of their best talents. But each time they tried to Begin again more intelligently. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Eternal love elevates, embraces, endures, exalts, enriches, eliminates. Collaborate with don't dominate spouse. Layers of paint. Correcting Errors. Progress creates success. Etenivät not menivät. Incomplete family members should be completely loved. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

I was in the back of the group that was trekking for miles and miles a day. The man in front was kicking rocks out of the way to make the path easier for those that followed. Another friend gratefully noticed the kind gesture and observed that people often remove rocks-- stumbling blocks and obstacles-- for us. What obstacles and stumbling blocks or rocks are you kicking out of people's lives? What rocks are you eliminating for your spouse? How are you making their life better?  Yet other times we may need better shoes/Moccasins to withstand the rocks.  Better shoes are a cheery disposition. A penchant to forgive, casual conversations, deep respect and admiration for each other. Daily work or betterment.  Kick rocks, get better shoes to advance on your trek Removing obstacles from our friend's path is angelic. And appreciating those who remove obstacles from our path is gracious. And we often need to toughen our feet to withstand the rocks on our path