Thriving Twogether

Just because someone told you that you need to sleep in a separate Room because your spouse snores doesn't make it so. I know several people (acquaintances, friends and relatives) who sleep in separate rooms because of snoring. What f you could find a way to overcome snoring through better health habits or through technology through training or any other way? Would it be worth it to discover and find solutions so that you can be together? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Marriage is like a good subway system: Express and Local is needed. Fast and slow; accomplishes and appreciaters; thinkers and doers; risk takers and risk averters. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Ten people took a shuttle to Delta's Terminal 2 in Salt Lake City . Yet one man departed early at Terminal 1 for Delta. Why? A person commented aloud "Terminal 1 is closer to some Delta Gates than Terminal 2." I verified and discovered that terminal 1 is often closer to my departure gates and has shorter TSA Precheck lines. How did I not know this? Maybe I forgot that the opposite of a good idea is often a good idea.* Learn from others. Especially those who walk in different directions, teach things difficult to hear/understand, vote differently, sin differently or look differently from yourself. HT Rory Sutherland --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

1. Sequence or when you ask for spousal input (this should before you decide and before you give your thoughts) indicates deep signs of love: honor and respect. 2. Value your partner's ideas by listening and implementing them often. Rarely (if ever) sell your ideas to your spouse. Rather seek their input. 3. Choose if and when to talk about short comings. Perhaps avoid times of hunger or fatigue when discussing difficult topics. On a trip to New York City I saw a sister-in-law often solicit her husband's opinions. She's a strong woman not overly dependent on her husband nor a lone wolf working independently of others. Rather she is one who works interdependently with her husband. She also considered how much it would mean to her husband to be at his special performance in NYC. So she planned months in advance to be in attendance while coordinating children's schedules. And I saw this sister-in-law's husband consider her. He delighted in getting tickets to Phantom Of The Opera for her because it was

What to do before during and after a recession so your family can be more like Google or more financially secure. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

I have read a blog daily for 13 years. Those hundreds of hours of teaching have had an impact on my marketing, business and life in general. What if you spent just a few minutes every day for 13 years on your marriage? What kind of changes would you experience? What things do you need to do daily to help make long term changes? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Invariably in marriage there are things that need to be trimmed or eliminated, things that need to be completely cut back. What habits hamper you? Additionally what are you consistently doing to fireproof your marriage. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Praying for your spouse is awesome! Melissa prayed for me the other day in a huge miracle happened. How often are you praying for your spouse? And how often is your spouse praying for you? One of the ways we can become more antifragile, more bendable like bamboo, is by receiving the power that comes from divinity through prayer. Antifragile people don't don't just survive but they thrive. They thrive as a result of stress, shock, volatility, noise, mistakes, faults, attacks, and failures. They thrive because they're humbled and receive more divine power in their humility. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

What could possibly matter more than listening? What could matter more than communicating so clearly that you're not only understood but you're not misunderstood? Being trustworthy and trusting others is the very foundation upon which to build so that we're not only communicative but connected. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Do you have that friend in your life that is always a treat to be around? Someone who is so concerned about you and so happy to be with you? Maybe he/she a is an excellent cheerleader? Or an excellent conversationalist? Tony is that type of guy in my life. Tony is cheerful, a cheerleader, and a great conversationalist. He's a delight to be around for anyone that knows him. By becoming more like Tony we will be better spouses and parents and better friends. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Just a few days ago a sister-in-law reminded me of the importance of inspiring not requiring. It led me to think of other truisms like we should make request not demands. We shouldn't tell nor yell and we should certainly teach more than we preach. Kindness doesn't kill, but it most certainly exalts and lifts. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

In order become the best version of ourselves we need to transform. And for others to change and become better and become their best selves they need to change. So what are some key virtues that help people to change? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

It was a night like any other. Then our guest pulled out his flip-phone. My family was in awe! Here in 2019 was a father using a flip phone! We began to grill him, why was he using a flip phone when everyone else seemed to have a smartphone? He went on to explain that although he has the Internet at work and his wife has a smart phone, he didn't want to distract and take away time from his 3 girls. He wanted to spend time with his daughters and wife undistracted! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

In a Finlandia Sauns the temperature can vary nearly a 100ﾟ from the very bottom to the very top. Just like your marriage there are times when it's very hot and difficult and times when it's very enjoyable. Should you get out? Should you stay in? Should you pare back some of your extracurricular activities and enjoy the heat? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

2 different counselors over a period of many years told my wife and I the same advice, take 10 minutes a night to truly talk with each other. This talking isn't about managerial responsibilities or about child rearing but rather it's a way to connect, to be truly intimate. To see into your souls. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

It's often in intense battles and challenges that we see unity and great love. So over the years during a few different triathlons I've seen my family come together over and over again. And I've seen others selflessly sacrifice in order to unify their family and bless others. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Have you ever wondered why your life seems a little incomplete in certain areas? Does it feel like you and your companion need to grow closer together but you don't know how? In this episode I share what two of my best friends and mentors have taught me over the years about growth, development, and improvement. No longer grow apart, grow together by focusing on these 4 key areas daily. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

Relational ruts, selfish sabotage and angry accusations fall away in the wake of helpmates. Companions who care, lovingly build better marriages. H/T Matt Townsend --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support

When a very expensive home is in danger of catching fire, Chubb, a well known insurance company will often send a private fire prevention team to creare an impenetrable perimeter around their insured homes. Chubb knows it's difficult to stop a fire. So they spend tens of thousands of dollars and employ private teams of firemen to ensure their insured homes worth millions don't burn down. How can we create a (positive) marriage fire? 1. By focusing on the good in your spouse and in yourself, the flames of good deeds and solid character multiply as if gasoline is poured on a raging inferno. And thst inferno warms your heart and brightens your face. 2. Daily we have the privilege of changing our mindsets, attitudes and habits much like putting another log on s bonfire. We can fan the flames of love, happiness, peace, and unity until warm fire burns forever. Tip: record the good your spouse does or things you like about them in a diary/journal/notebook. Or think of what you like about him/her as you f

Three couples. Over 88 years of marriage. What are their children like? Are the spouses always nice? Celebrate marriage. Learn how to thrive. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/thriving-twogether/support