Connexions Classroom

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt. In this episode, Jodi talks about the importance of accepting vulnerability, being emotionally honest, living in personal responsibility, and being humble. These principles bear the fruit of connection. If you want the fruit of connection, you must do the work required to grow the plant that bears the fruit. In this episode, Jodi describes a language tool that will help you grow your very own “connection plant” by living in honesty and responsibility. That tool is all about using the word “AND.” See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt All of us, no matter our age or background, have experienced loss. It is a part of the human experience. How do we manage our experiences of loss? We can choose to block them and disconnect from self and/or others, or we can learn to grieve our losses and thereby experience connection to self, others, God / Higher Power, and Reality through our losses. Loss is meant to connect us in vulnerability, validation and connection. The rawness and “weakness” of the experience, and the lack of control over the loss, are invitations to connect. In this episode, Jodi explains why grieving is vitally important to living in connection with self, others and God / Higher Power. She teaches how to open oneself and be vulnerable in order to grieve one’s losses. After listening to this episode, you will be empowered to create connection in your painful experiences of loss that will inevitably come to young and old as a vitally important part of our life experience.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt In this episode, Jodi explains in detail what it means to be connected vs. disconnected. With those definitions in place, Jodi tells another installment in her continuing saga of road-trip vacation experiences. In every experience, we each are constantly interpreting the experience and assigning meaning to various emotions, people, and other parts of the experience. Doing so in Truth means empathizing with self and others by staying open, emotionally honest, and connected with self. Or, we can become reactionary (go into drama) and disconnect from self and from the experience. Jodi tells about how she experienced both connection and disconnection within herself and coming from others around her in the experience. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, Jodi tells a story about an out-of-control experience she had in the jungles of Guatemala, where fear and panic drove an overwhelming desire to control her experience. She explains the mechanisms of control. In next week’s episode, Jodi will explain how to surrender control.Jodi finishes telling a story about an out-of-control experience she had in the jungles of Guatemala, where fear and panic drove an overwhelming desire to control her experience. Surrender is the antidote to the illusion of control. Jodi explains how to surrender control, and shares how she endeavored to surrender her fear/control in Guatemala. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, Jodi tells a story about an experience she had while boating. She incorporates most of the principles & concepts discussed in previous episodes of the podcast, including how perceptions drive control, which creates the need to surrender, and how drama creates fear, and drives me to get angry, how co-dependency plays out as drama, and so forth. If you’ve been listening in to all of the past episodes, this episode will tie the concepts together for you. If you’re new to the podcast, listening to past episodes first (especially those covering the topics listed above) will support you to get more out of this episode.Jodi finishes her boating story and speaks in detail about the differences between contention and confrontation. Confronting is, in fact, a very loving, necessary, healthy behavior, in order to connect with self and others. Confronting is not automatically contentious. Contention is about drama, whereas confronting is about sharing. See acast.com/privacy f

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt All of us want to create intimate connection with others, and true connection requires connection to oneself first. In this episode, Jodi explains the ways we connect to ourselves through emotional honesty (integrity & accountability for what you feel) and self-care. She explains what prevents genuine connection, and gives examples from her own life, about staying connected to her emotions in the reality of vulnerable and uncomfortable experiences. Jodi answers questions from listeners and talks about some of the strategies she uses to care for herself physically, emotionally and spiritually. Connection is prevented by: Undealt-with trauma conflicts (drama) [Episode 26: Drama] Lack of education Resentments Control issues (out of control / being controlling) Taught not to feel emotions Fear / anger / blame If I don’t learn something different, I will repeat what I learned in childhood. I need to be taught how to connect. Much of the disconnect is because

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt In this episode, Jodi discusses the crucially important topic of self-care or self-love. When I love myself and care for myself, I hold beliefs and live a lifestyle where I see myself and all others as truly equal in value. Loving myself is, in fact, the only avenue to genuinely loving others. Self-care involves practicing principles of impeccable emotional honesty, vulnerability, validating, and surrendering. Through self-care, I learn about myself and I learn to love myself unconditionally. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

What is the difference between connection and control? It may seem simple on paper however the majority of us struggle with seeing controlling mentalities and behaviors in our lives. Connection means being honest, responsible, and humble (HRH). Control is the exact opposite. When we lie to "make" child feel better about themselves we are attempting to control them and are disconnected. Connection cannot exist it with lies, irresponsibility, and pride. When we control we are acting very selfishly because "I want them to like me" rather than "I want to share the Truth with them and be connected." The Truth will set us free if we so choose. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt Every moment, we are either connected (in Reality) or disconnected (in drama). When someone is in drama, they are not experiencing the accurate reality. To have the greatest opportunity to come back into reality, the person is in need of 3 things: Validation of their emotions Curious questions about their experience The Truth — Feedback (invitation to come back into reality) In this episode, Jodi gives multiple examples of how to invite someone to come out of drama and into the Truth through validation and feedback. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In this episode, Jodi differentiates between factual honesty (being truthful about external facts, such as “I have a blue car”) and emotional honesty (being truthful about my motivations and emotions, such as “I do not like the blue color of my car”). Boundaries are how we are emotionally honest with self and others. Emotional honesty means coming to know yourself. Knowing yourself enables you to create boundaries, which teach others (and self) how to interact with you in ways that are honest and safe.“Emotional honesty is what allows you to perceive your world accurately." Jodi answers more questions, including why “little white lies” don’t have a place in emotional honesty. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt. This podcast is a mixed bag of excellent questions on a variety of topics. How do you become comfortable with speaking up, when you don’t know for sure whether it’s healthy or in drama? What is the difference between co-dependency and addiction? How do I help my children understand these concepts (for example, drama). I tried to explain drama to them, however I felt like the content was a bit heavy. Would you please discuss how to give vocabulary and ideas that would be easier for kids to understand? What is the difference between setting boundaries, vs. lowering your expectations? How do you start knowing yourself? How do you tell if your perception is the truth, vs. your truth? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt. Vulnerability is difficult for us to manage as humans. However, it also gives us the opportunity to be validated and to connect in healthy, safe, bonded relationships. In this podcast, Jodi answers the following questions: Why is seeking validation so difficult? How do I overcome the obstacles that make it difficult? What is the best way to rebuild trust and safety in a relationship? How do I get a child to open up and share, and be willing to be vulnerable? My child is a “stuffer” like me. How does validation change when you take it to a social media platform? Can there ever be too much validation? Or validation for unhealthy behaviors? I think people turn to social media to be validated, even when they should be held accountable instead. How does the new social dynamic change the nature of validation?  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt. In this episode, Jodi answers four listener's questions about shame as it plays out in relationships. Questions from Listeners: Can you push shame onto someone else? If it is the truth that you cannot make someone feel something, wouldn’t it also be true that you can’t shame anyone? How are Faulty Core Beliefs (shame) linked to triggers? How do thoughts drive emotions? How do Faulty Core Belief thoughts drive fears? How can I change them into positive thinking and positive emotions? What are the steps I can take in re-establishing trust when someone has hurt me? Is it wise to trust someone who has a history of lying? See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt. In this episode, Jodi answers 5 questions from listeners. This week’s questions are about taking responsibility for Faulty Core Beliefs / shame. Questions from listeners: Do we need to remember the event(s) that created our Faulty Core Beliefs, or is simply recognizing Faulty Core Beliefs in our lives enough? If I’m in a conversation and I feel like I’m not managing messages from The Voice (my shame / Faulty Core Beliefs / triggers), how do I exit the conversation, get centered and come back? What is the best way to share information about The Voice (shame) and Faulty Core Beliefs, from a loving perspective? What if I share and someone become defensive or threatened, and they shut down and don’t want to hear it? What can I do? Why do we diminish (shame) ourselves to others, and then allow others to have power over us (shame us)? How do we hold boundaries, be vulnerable, and take responsibility for our own thoughts and feelings? Cultural & generational s

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt In this episode, Jodi answers more questions about shame: How do I love with expectations? How do I not allow someone else’s shame from affecting me and/or my child? How do I recognize perfectionism and not let it hinder my growth?  See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt In this episode, Jodi teaches the definition of The Voice / shame (and its cover-up, which is pride and arrogance). After giving an overview of The Voice (shame), Jodi answers 3 questions from listeners: How do you repair and help heal a child that you have been unconsciously passing your shame (messages from The Voice) onto? How do you put this information into childlike language that a child can understand? How do you validate someone who is mad at you for something you’ve done wrong? How do you heal from extremely toxic (shame-based) relationships, when they don’t have awareness of their behavior? Please ask Jodi your questions, and she will answer them on future podcasts! For more detail about shame, listen to the following podcasts: Shame is NOT Guilt! “The Faulties”Jodi answers more excellent questions about addressing shame in relationships with self and others: How do you do your best at something without The Voice (shame)? How do you re-evaluate safety when you re

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt “Knowing oneself … is all about being curious about you.” In order to love yourself, in order to validate yourself, in order to heal your Faulty Core Beliefs, you must know yourself. How do you get to know yourself? Are you curious about who you are and why you do what you do? In this episode, Jodi discusses how to get into the Truth about yourself and others, validate yourself, stop judging self and others, become curious, and come to know (and become) who you really are. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

In our modern society, we put a lot of emphasis—possibly more than ever before—on taking care of oneself. Most often, when we speak of “taking care of oneself” we focus on caring for the needs of the physical body, such as hygiene, diet, exercise, sleep, and so forth. A more complete version of self-care is self-love. To love oneself means practicing self-care for one’s soul as well as the body. This type of self-care and self-love (which is the only way to truly, honestly love another person) is a solo act; no other person on the planet can do it for us. In this episode, Jodi explains how we can enter and live in this Reality of personal responsibility and love.Caring for oneself is a personal responsibility, as many of us would agree. Yet, it’s so easy to be unaware and unconsciously attempt to “make” someone else take care of me, my wants and/or my needs. This week, Jodi explains the component of responsibility in relation to self-care. See acast.com/privacy for privacy a

Episode 45: Commitment, Character, & Change by Jodi Hildebrandt See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.

Hosted by Jodi Hildebrandt In this episode, Jodi defines and discusses the principle of emotional honesty. Emotional honesty creates secure attachment to self and in our relationships (such as with parents, children, spouse, friends, etc.). We must become emotionally honest within ourselves before we are able to be emotionally honest with others. While we can attach to self and others without emotional honesty, we will not feel safe and relaxed in those relationships. Becoming emotionally honest is the only way to experience deep, safe, complete connection within self and with others. To build trust in a relationship, both individuals must be emotionally honest. To be emotionally honest, you must know yourself fully. In this episode, Jodi explains how you can know yourself, learn to be emotionally honest, and experience true connection with self, others and God or your Higher Power. See acast.com/privacy for privacy and opt-out information.