Clarity On Fire

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Anonymous, a sensitive and empathic person who people at work often pick on (sometimes very publicly) because she’s an easy target. What’s the best way to handle bullies in the workplace?   Unfulfilled in Ohio, a highly credentialed professional whose job is literally and figuratively killing him. He’s never been an entrepreneur but has two potential opportunities he could explore. If both would be equally fulfilling, but one makes some use of his credentials and the other doesn’t, how does he decide which to do? Is it possible to start two businesses at once?   Marina, who is thinking of re-entering the workforce after staying home with her kids (and getting a Master’s degree, NBD) for the last few years. How can she let her

Did you know that the median age of a woman being diagnosed with ADHD is 38 years old? Wild, right?!    Not only are so many girls with ADHD overlooked as kids and teenagers, but the boys who get a diagnosis at a young age are expected to “grow out of it” once they become adults.    There are countless misinterpretations about this disorder. So it’s no wonder that most adults with ADHD feel confused, overwhelmed, and worst of all, ashamed that doing this whole “adulting” thing is so much harder for them than other people.    That’s why we’re so grateful that Kristen Carder has made it her mission to help adults with ADHD learn the truth about how their brain works, accept themselves, and get access to the resources and community they need to build a life that works for them.   Listen in as we get into…   The most common misconceptions about ADHD vs. what’s really true An overview of the symptoms of ADHD, and how they show up in adulthood (some of these will surprise you!) Why you don’t need to be consistent

Last month we did an episode many of you told us you really liked where we dove into our newest thoughts on some big ways to have a career you love.   One of the tough-but-true points we made in that episode was that your ability to have a healthy career (or relationship, or anything) that you love hinges upon your emotional maturity … or lack thereof.   We promised we’d be back with a full-length episode about emotional maturity, and here it is. This one is SO jam-packed with helpful info you can put into practice immediately!   Listen in as we get into…   Why you might struggle with fear or conflict, or become extremely emotional or shut down when things go wrong  How we end up in relationships (including ones at work!) with emotionally unavailable or dismissive people Why you struggle to trust yourself and your intuition How you can develop more emotional maturity and resilience, including how to not freak out when things go wrong, trust yourself more, have great boundaries, and create a really strong se

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Allie with the ADHD, who recently got an ADHD diagnosis and is wondering … how much of the things that stress her out are “real” stressors, and which are “just me trying to function” stressors?   Juliette, who’s reluctantly ready to go back to the working world after a sabbatical, but is freaked out by how many high-profile companies seem to want you to sacrifice everything and make work your top priority. Is there any way to go back to the working world and not end up in a toxic hellhole?!    Nihilistic Nelly, who’s realizing that her worldview is actually kind of depressing, and doesn’t want it to be that way. How can she go from automatically thinking, “What’s the point, the world is terrible?” to actually having hope and f

Need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up?   Then today’s your day, because we’re back with another Message from the Universe episode! And oooh, it’s a good one. ✨

Back in May of last year we did an episode that quickly became a classic: 6 ways to love (and keep) your job for years and years. It hasn’t even been a year yet, but we’ve been mentally adding to that list ever since! So, in this month’s brand-new Side Chat, we’re back with a sequel to that conversation. No need to listen to last year’s episode first, though you’ll definitely want to after hearing this new list! Listen in as we talk about… Why focusing on figuring out what job you want really, truly DOES NOT MATTER, The one trait you need to develop that will make or break your life & career fulfillment, What your childhood blueprint is, and why you’ve got to examine it before making any kind of life or career transition, And a lottttt more! Come leave a comment after you’ve listened to share how this episode resonated with you! APPLY TO WORK WITH US 1:1! How awful would it be to keep quitting jobs, over and over, thinking you just haven’t found the right one yet … when really, the solution is to work o

A year ago, Kim Scott found herself in an all-encompassing funk.   Nothing was going right. Issues with family were popping up, friendships were coming apart at the seams, and she was totally unsatisfied with her job.    She vaguely remembered a time, too long ago, that she had mojo — when she was vibrant and alive and full of energy — but hadn’t connected with that version of herself in so long, it was hard to believe she’d ever existed.   In this month’s new interview with a normal person, my former client Kim and I got into how she went from totally groove-less to getting her groove back in less than a year.   Listen in as we talk about…   How she lost her groove in the first place and found herself overwhelmed by problems, Some major signs that you’ve lost your energy and zest for life, The most important thing to do every day if you want to deeply enjoy life again, Some really fun and inspiring stories about what’s happening for Kim now that she’s turned things around.   Come leave a comment after you’

We’re baaaack! Did you miss us?

Yep, you read that subject line right — starting today, we’re taking a hiatus from the podcast!

Like many of us, Jamie Hillman spent years following the typical life roadmap that was supposed to lead to happiness.    Go to school? Check. Get a job? Check. Generally figure out how to be a functioning adult? Check.    But somewhere along the way, she started to question… Where is this roadmap even taking me. Who created it in the first place? And (most importantly), if I’m doing everything “right,” why do I still feel lost?   All that questioning led to an overconsumption of books, articles, personality assessments, podcasts — anything she could find that would help her finally get some answers to the big life questions that kept plaguing her.    Eventually, she realized that no expert could answer these questions for her … she’d have to go inward to find the answers unique to her and the life she wanted to create.    As Jamie developed her own intuition and self-trust, she wanted to help other women go through the same process. So … she wrote a book about it! (Check it out: 7 Signposts: Find Your Directi

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Early Entrepreneur, who’s torn between taking it slower in her business-building efforts so that she can enjoy her lifestyle, or amping up the hustle so that she can make money faster. Isn’t there an inevitable amount of extra work it takes to build a business, anyway? Is it even realistic to think she could grow a business while enjoying a good lifestyle?   Shelby, who’s gone from being adamantly against the idea of marriage, to now being in favor of it for herself in the future! But how does someone who’s been vocally critical of something turn around and tell her friends and family that she’s changed her mind?     Nonplussed with myself, who’s recently achieved a lifelong dream after years of work (and many years before tha

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it’s time for part TWO of our book club conversation about Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily & Amelia Nagoski.    In part one (listen to this first!) we learned about where burnout comes from, how to process stress in a never-heard-before way, and how to navigate the controllable AND uncontrollable stressors in your life.   Now we’re on to part two! Listen in as we talk about…   The system that keeps all of us (but especially women) stuck in a stress cycle that never ends (and how to break free of it). The 3 big things that can free you from burnout. Some truly wild facts and figures about sleep and physical health that will change the way you think about your body and your need for rest.    Come leave a comment after you’ve listened to share what resonated with you most from our conversation about Burnout!   LAST DAY TO APPLY FOR COACHING!   If you’re burned out and need a change but can’t imagine h

Calling all fellow bookworms, library nerds, and general lovers of literature — it’s time for another book club episode of the podcast!    Whenever there are five Fridays in a month, we devote the extra Friday to a book that we can’t get enough of … except you’ll notice that today is Tuesday.

If you have no idea what you want to do with your life and career, well, you’ve come to the right place.    Our specialty is helping you go from stuck, overwhelmed, and confused to clear, confident, and full of direction and fulfillment.    But once you have that direction, you might need help with the technical details — especially if what you want next is a new job.    That’s where our friend Emily Liou takes over! Her specialty is helping people actually find and get a great job, even when they don’t have all the skills, experience, education, or go-to network.   We brought Emily back (for a third time!) because for the last 6 months we’ve been collecting a bunch of questions from listeners about job searching and career pivoting, and we just knew she’d have really good answers for them.    So, listen in as Emily and the two of us answer questions like…   Where’s the line between spinning and being honest in a job interview? How can someone increase their salary without having to take on a leadership role

Sometimes something becomes such a hot topic that it even reaches Millennials in their 30s who don’t have TikTok.

One of Kristen’s clients came to her recently in a bit of a frenzy, saying:   “I have SO many things that need work — my career, my marriage, my health, my friendships — and they’re ALL important. How do I pick one thing to focus on? And what if it takes forever and then the other things start to suffer even more?? Or I miss out on opportunities because I was too fixated on one thing?!”   If just reading that gave you anxiety, take a deep breath.

Have you ever felt so distraught about your life that you had no other option than to don a sweatshirt, throw the hood up, cinch it tight, and lie on the floor and proceed to sob uncontrollably?   I call it The Hood of Despair. Try it out sometime! I highly recommend it.

Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.   This month we answered questions from:   Coach Curious, who’s attracted to the possibility of becoming a coach (like some of you might be, if you’ve been following us for a while!), and wants to know what makes for a good coach? What kind of training is best? What are the pros and cons?    Sarah, a woman in her 40s who’s in a committed relationship, but is reluctant to tie the knot. How do you know if someone is your forever person? What if there’s someone better out there?   Bozzieboo, a 57-year-old woman struggling to bounce back after a series of major emotional hits. She stepped away from the workforce for a while, and now wonders whether it’s worth it to start over at this stage of life.    Come leave a comment after you’ve listened to share how our advice for

Need a little clarity, guidance, or just a fun pick-me-up?   Then today’s your day, because we’re back with another Message from the Universe episode!

A couple months ago, we told you the best way to successfully make it out of your comfort zone is with a slow-and-steady approach.   Annnd because we love to contradict ourselves (but not really, because didn’t someone say once that the best way to understand life is through paradox?