The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

Natalie talks about the benefits of a social media diet, how to use a Stop, Start, Continue to inspire change when we’re self-critical, and why we don’t need to turn simple decisions into life decisions. This week’s listener question is about whether to give up online dating, plus Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

When Tim told Stéphane during their first deep conversation that he has a condition that causes him to disassociate from his feelings and yet he kept feeling compelled to be around her and act differently with her, she couldn’t help but think that they had something special. Unfortunately, once they did get together, it was over before it even really began.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why we’ve got to stop making snap judgements about who’s ‘nice’, how to respond to loved ones whose opinions differ from ours from a place of love, care trust and respect, and why it might not be a good idea to send the card/text to your ex. This week’s listener question is, Why would an ex want to connect on LinkedIn rather than any other media? and Natalie shares what she learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Joanne is still wounded after her brief involvement with her longtime crush ended after they slept together. She thinks that it was her having the STD that he said he was OK with because he was so sure their relationship was going to work out but he said that it's because she's not "geeky enough" due to not playing board games or reading comic books.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Natalie talks about why we need to stop criticising ourselves for not being more self-disciplined in areas where we’ve had to give up something or make a big change, plus she talks about some of the causes of gifting stress and why the commitment-dodging ex is being intense with the new flame. This week’s listener question is about feeling rejected because their partner doesn’t want to cuddle all night and Natalie talks about what she’s learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this 'Why Did We Break Up?' episode, Zoe was devastated after her partner of six years went to visit family for a few weeks, cut contact and secretly started a relationship with an old girlfriend from his school days. During their six years, Zoe sunk her entire inheritance into clearing gambling debt after gambling debt and grappled with anxiety and insecurity due to the instability and his constant lies. After trying to move on but finding it too painful to trust again, she is ready to find out why their relationship broke down.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why so many people feel so triggered during these fraught times, shares tips for calming anxiety about family arrangements during the holiday season, and explains why we have to be careful of being over-committed to goals. This week’s listener question is, How do I forgive myself for being the rebound and the booty call? and Natalie shares what she learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

Why Did We Break Up? is back! In this episode, Hannah felt guilty about having fallen for her engaged co-worker and living a lie, so she broke it off with her boyfriend of four years. Her co-worker, Joe, didn't follow suit and so began four months of deep pain, lies and confusion which culminated in her ending it when she found out that he was going on holiday with the fiancé he claimed to no longer love. Feeling strung along, lied to and betrayed, she wants to know, Why did we break up? Links mentioned in the show About activation http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/activation-when-someone-or-something-activates-old-issues/  and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/intensity-isnt-the-same-as-intimacy/ About being over-responsible Episode 33  and http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/giving-up-the-role-of-being-over-responsible plus http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/advice-wednesday-i-tried-to-rescue-him-from-his-unfair-open-relationship-he-went-back-to-her Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Event

In this episode, Natalie talks about why expecting people to be mind readers is damaging to our self-esteem and our relationships, why people being shady or not meeting our expectations is not about our inadequacies but teaching us lessons on how some people are, and the importance of giving up small satisfaction today for greater satisfaction in future. This week’s listener question is about whether they were wrong to be so honest about their past relationships with a partner who judged them for it, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. Have you heard about my monthly membership program for people who are committed to breaking patterns and being consistent with self-care so that they enjoy more love, care, trust and respect? Each month has a different topic focus and features a bumper deep dive video class along with audio, worksheets, mini ebooks and more. Find out more about joining at: https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/reclaimer-membership  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things that we need to consider if we're going to sext with a stranger, plus she talks about the importance of distinguishing between the experiencing and remembering self, and what to do when someone ignores you and then makes out that it's you who's ignoring them. This week's listener question is about whether her boyfriend living with another woman and raising a family with her is normal and whether her discomfort is "stupid", and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about the things we need to consider when we opt to take a break from our relationship, what intimacy is and five key habits that are a block to it, and how we avoid answering a question by replacing it with something else. This week's listener question is about how do we deal with people who clearly feel superior, and Natalie shares what she's learned this week.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about preferences versus programming, why driving is a metaphor for life and the importance of noticing what's going on around you so that you can broaden your perspective. This week's listener question is about when to recognise that reflection after a breakup has become rumination, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about being motivated to move in with a partner for financial or practical reasons or because you're trialling out whether you want to commit to that person. Plus, Nat talks about why it's not a good idea to seek admiration, approval and validation, and why we don't need to advertise our insecurities and old hurt. This week's listener question is about whether it's wrong to give up on falling in love again or whether loved ones are wrong for pressuring about being in a relationship in the future, and Natalie shares what she learned this week. If We Give Up On Love, We Give Up On Ourselves http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/if-we-give-up-on-love-we-give-up-on-ourselves/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

The original episode that went live on 27/09/16 has been replaced. In this episode of Why Did We Break Up? Natalie shares some universal lessons that apply to all breakups.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie shares tips for ensuring that you don’t undervalue you when it comes to salary or charging the right rate/price with clients, knowing when to fold, and means ‘mean’ goals versus end goals. This week’s listener dilemma is about how to deal with shady friendships and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. Links from the show The Vicious Cycle of Undervaluing Yourself http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-vicious-cycle-of-undervaluing-yourself/ Knowing When To Fold http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/knowing-when-to-fold The Justifying Zone http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-justifying-zone Betting On Potential—Are you gambling on a relationship capacity that doesn’t exist? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/betting-on-potential-are-you-gambling-on-a-relationship-capacity-that-doesnt-exist/ The Blinkest app (note, I am not affiliated with Blinkist in any way) A couple of posts about boundaries and friendship http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/we-have-to-let-our-friendships-evolve/ and ht

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Sandy and Rick got off to a flying start after being introduced via a mutual friend. They saw each other a few times a week, seemed to thoroughly enjoy each other's company, and were making plans for future dates. Then Rick received some bad news one night and asked to hang out with Sandy. While there, he got way friskier than she was comfortable with, so she slowed things down only for him to leave rather abruptly. They spoke again a couple of days later and then poof, he was gone. Sensitive to the fact that he was going through a rough time, she called him a few more times but he never returned her calls. You might want to check out my posts on ghosting and u-turns: What’s the Craic With Ghosting? (And no, it’s NOT the same as No Contact!) http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/whats-the-craic-with-ghosting-and-no-its-not-the-same-as-no-contact/ We Need To Talk About: ‘Ghosting’ In The Early Stages of Dating http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/ghosting-in-the-early-s

In this episode, Natalie talks about how to start building your self-esteem, why you shouldn’t get too hung up on your ex moving on before you or with someone you think is ‘better’, and why there’s no need to tell someone you don’t like them. This week’s listener question is about whether we have a right to feel heartbroken over a relationship that never happened, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. 100 Days of Baggage Reclaim book: www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/100daysbook Articles on Baggage Reclaim related to ‘Why them and not me?’ When you’re afraid they’ll become a better person in a better relationship, without you http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/what-keeps-you-up-a-night-pondering-whether-theyre-a-better-person-in-a-better-relationship-without-you/ He’s with someone else – Why her and not me? http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/hes-with-someone-else-why-her-and-not-me/ 'Why him/her and not me?' Not everything is about us! http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-himher-and-not-me-not-everything-is-ab

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Molly and Steven met in their late teens at the start of their careers and 14 years, 2 kids, marriage and a business that they had to declare bankruptcy on, Steven has announced that he needs some time out to be on his own and figure out who he is, only to rent himself an apartment and begin a series of flings followed by two girlfriends. Feeling rejected, replaced, and rather confused about what is going on, Natalie helps Molly see what is really going so that she can grab her freedom and build her life on her own terms. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about finding making new friends daunting and shares tips for being more open to it, plus she shares 10 questions for discerning whether your partner is emotionally available, and shares a couple of comments from listeners about what they learned from holidaying on their own, something she talked about in episode 42. This week’s listener question is about how to broach the subject of taking things slowly with sex, and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week. You can download the, Is Your Partner Emotionally Available? questions at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/46-download The episode about recognising your own availability is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/28 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

In the latest episode of Why Did We Break Up?, Katie is still reeling after ending a 21-month affair with a married man who doesn’t seem to grasp why him not leaving his wife is a deal-breaker. Natalie helps Katie make the link between this affair, the breakdown of her marriage and earlier experiences in life so that she can use the pain of the fallout of this relationship as a vehicle for huge growth and healing. The blog post that Natalie refers to in the episode about being the favourite child (or wanting to be) influences our disposition to be involved in an affair http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/being-the-favourite-child-or-wanting-to-be-influences-our-disposition-to-involved-in-an-affair/ Also, the post on there’s no such thing as an honest cheat http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/theres-no-such-thing-as-an-honest-cheat-and-other-thoughts-on-cheating/ And another on why affairs are like being double-crossed in a heist http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/why-affairs-are-like-being-double-crossed-in-a-heist/