The Baggage Reclaim Sessions

In this episode, Natalie talks about the unnecessary apologising and backtracking habit, how getting your stuff in order can help you to clear out mentally and emotionally, and the importance of feeling all your feelings. This week’s listener question is about what to do about somebody who hogs the conversation leaving you to be a ‘good listener’, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. The picture of stuff that I bagged up from the corner of my dining room and the comments https://www.instagram.com/p/BJH-LQVB909/?taken-by=natlue Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com  Instagram | Courses | Events | Blog | Membership

It's the year 2000 and Steve and Danielle meet via mutual friends at a club in London. She's fresh out of a relationship with someone she calls "cold" and "emotionally abusive" and he feels as if he's over his ex who left him abruptly during a vulnerable time a few years back. He feels protective of and curious about this woman who he deems "out of his league". Sixteen years, two daughters and a marriage later and they're now divorced. Steve is taking the blame for why Danielle ended the relationship and has proceeded to date other men right under his nose. It's time to answer his question: Why Did We Break Up? Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about going on holiday/vacation on your own and shares stories and tips from her own adventure. Plus, she shares ten tips for conflict resolution when you’re in a relationship, and explains why it’s never the people who are actually bad at their job that have Imposter Syndrome. This week’s listener question is about how to break the cycle of casual relationships when you’re ready for something more serious, plus Natalie shares what she learned this week. From the conflict resolution segment: What’s the baggage behind it? www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Get Out of Stuck Guide (for working on beliefs) http://store.baggagereclaim.co.uk/product/get-out-of-stuck-ebook-and-worksheet-pack/ Be notified about when The Breakthrough is open for enrollment http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/the-breakthrough Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this special edition of the show, which also marks the one-year anniversary, Natalie introduces the new offshoot, Why Did We Break Up?, where she explores one breakup in depth and answers the question of why they broke up. This episode features Yasmine and Russell, two thirty-somethings who 'met' online and arranged to meet up really quickly, only for her to be very turned off by what she saw. Despite her awkwardness and making her excuses, she agreed to keep their arrangement to meet up the following day as she felt a mix of pity and curiosity. Two months of 'friendly' meetups and they slept together, and BOOM, it was the beginning of the end. The Instagram of me recording in the closet: https://instagram.com/p/BJSXemDhNfA  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about why a relationship needs to have purpose and direction if you want it to grow (or for you to feel happy), how to deal with narcissistic co-workers, family and partners, and the importance of redirecting the energy that you use to make you unworthy. This week's listener question is about what to do when you disapprove of your friend's choice in a partner and their impending hasty wedding plans and Natalie shared what she learned this week about dimming her light.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about resistance to taking time off and fear of using holiday allowance, trying to make every relationship fly by being in love or seeing a future with every date and partner, and why we shouldn’t get too carried away by ‘graduation goggles’. This week’s listener question is about distinguishing between ego and boundaries and Natalie shares what she learned this week about managing expectations. What’s the baggage behind it? is at www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2   Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

Natalie shares some of the themes of her 38th year, talks about why being self-critical creates a vicious cycle where you end up being around people that validate and increase negative feelings, and why setting a time to worry can break a worry habit. This week's listener question is about whether to confront a friend that seems to be pulling back and Natalie shares what she learned this week. The 8 types of inner critic www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/20  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why being too passive can send the wrong message in a relationship, shares 5 questions to help you figure out your values, and talks about why passive-aggressive gifts really are not a gift at all. This week’s listener question is about how to overcome feelings of jealousy and revenge and Natalie shares what she learned from facing down the big challenge of driving on the motorway. Curbing Your Obsession guide - http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/my-books/curbing-your-obsession-quick-guide-pdf-epub/  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

This week, Natalie explains why decluttering exes and dates from your phone makes good relationship and emotional business, talks about the problem with family secrets, and revisits "You complete me". This week's listener question is about plus-one etiquette and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The Huff Post piece by Jennifer Aniston http://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/for-the-record_us_57855586e4b03fc3ee4e626f My post on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/baggagereclaim/posts/10154221634428950 Episode 2 where I talked about "You complete me" http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/2 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie talks about pretending to like something when we don't as a means of fitting in or to come across as more appealing to a potential mate. She also explains the 7 types of tricky family and why she's been getting a bit twitchy about turning 39 in a few weeks. Episode 25 about birthdays is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/25 My cousin's B&B http://www.therunawayjamaica.com Soulful PR https://janetmurray.co.uk That time when I got very stressy at conference http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/lessons-from-a-short-lived-comparison-binge And the keynote that resulted https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LdKIUrAi9ao  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In this episode, Natalie follows up ep. 33 (baggagereclaim.co.uk/33) where she talked about personality and character not being the same by exploring one of the subjects within this--why someone being charming as their dominant trait can pose certain types of problem. In the second segment, she explains the importance of identifying your money story if you find that you get triggered about money or are experiencing a recurring theme. You can grab the Unsent Letter Guide at baggagereclaim.co.uk/downloads In the third segment, she explains why even when someone can do something, it doesn't mean that they have to. This week's listener question is about what to do when you're single and your loved ones keep prying into your love life.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 33, Natalie talks about the importance of distinguishing between personality and character, why some of us are over-responsible' and how we can start to address it, and why we don't need to keep trying to make somebody see something from our perspective or keep trying to make them explain or apologise. This week's listener question is about what to do when a one-night stand followed by some fun dates peters out but you've developed feelings, plus Natalie shares what she's learned this week. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 32, Natalie talks about gratitude and why shifting the focus of what you think about can have a big impact on your day plus she explains deal-breakers and why we all need to have some things that no matter how much attraction or feelings that we have for someone, that would cause us to opt-out. She also talks about how to know what you're responsible for and helps Prue distinguish between expectations and boundaries in this week's listener question. She also shares what she learned this week. I made a mistake at the end of the episode and the link to the 30-day project, Embrace Healthy Boundaries course is http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/happyboundaries Use the code PODCAST to get 30% off the course. Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 31 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie explains why procrastinating isn't about laziness, talks about the myriad of emotions you experience when an absent/estranged parent is ill, and why some so-called mutual agreements really aren't mutual. This week's listener question is about reclaiming your dignity after sex on an early date doesn't turn into a relationship and Natalie shares what she's learned this week about fear of change. The book Get Things Done by Robert Kelsey http://amzn.to/1ZF7Qwl that I mention in the first segment about procrastination.  Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 30, Natalie dedicates the show to answering listener questions. Can I stand up to my disrespectful colleague? This listener was told to "shut up" by someone who she thought was a friend and they did it in front of everyone too. 
 Should I send a 'keep me in mind for the future' letter to my ex? Her widower workaholic long-distance boyfriend has broken it off to date a woman closer to home and her therapist has suggested that due to the circumstances, that she should send him a letter telling him to get in touch if his situation changes. 
  I can't get a job and I feel like a failure in comparison to my 'successful' siblings. This is one of those situations that really exemplifies the vicious cycle of a self-fulfilling prophecy. Living with her dysfunctional family who patronise and insult her plus going out with a 'successful' younger guy plus 'successful' siblings plus her friends having jobs is convincing her that she has every reason to think that she's a failure.  Do I think too much? A commen

In episode 29, Natalie talks about finding the middle ground between expecting people to be 'perfect' and not having standards and boundaries in your relationship. She also shares on her recent experiences with hypnotherapy and how that influenced her taking a break, plus she talks about people who are judgmental and critical but it can be difficult to put your finger on because they're also so 'nice'. This week's listener question is, 'How do I stop being piggy in the middle with my parents and my sister?', and Natalie shares what she's learned this week. The New Year episode that I refer to in the second segment (re some of the reasons for going to hypnotherapy) is www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/17 Email: podcast@baggagereclaim.com Instagram | Break The Cycle Online Course | Blog | Membership

In episode 28, Natalie talks about life plans, emotional availability, and why it’s not fair when people shame us for not wanting to be friends or not being ready to move on just yet. This week’s listener question is about boundaries and ultimatums and Natalie shares what she’s learned this week about ‘overreacting’. In the first part of the show, Natalie builds on episode 27 where she shared what she learned about her need for a life plan and explores why we might not have one and includes suggestions for increasing awareness of our priorities. Download Creating Your Personal Life Plan by Michael Hyatt http://bit.ly/mhlifeplan The backstory to me thinking about life plans in episode 27 https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27 More on ‘mise-en-place’http://n.pr/1ptmytV In the second part of the show, Natalie explains emotional unavailability and the key fears behind it as well as ten key questions for understanding your own availability. Download “10 Key Questions To Open Up Your Awareness About Your Emotional A

In episode 27 of The Baggage Reclaim Sessions, Natalie talks about No Contact and Low Contact at work, fear of failure and why she’s glad she stopped looking for what she used to look for. This week’s listener wants to know if the guys she’s dating are “too emotional” and Natalie shares what she learned about drifting and the need for at least a little bit of life planning. In the first part of the show, Natalie gives a brief overview of No Contact and Low Contact and shares her own experience which was part of the inspiration for her book, The No Contact Rule. She offers up 7 tips for navigating low contact at work which you can also download: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download More about The No Contact Rule Book: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/NC You can also download 10 Irrational Fears About No Contact: http://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/27download In the second part of the show, Natalie explains how having a parent or key influencer who pushes you to the best and who tells you that failure isn’t an

In this episode, Natalie questions whether we can really blame someone's inability to commit on whether they're just not that into us. Mr Unavailable and the Fallback Girl http://bit.ly/mrfbg In the second segment, where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explores our relationship with time, namely why some of us have a habit of being late and why some of us are so scared of it. Post on the blog about lateness: http://bit.ly/1fymR1H In the third segment, Natalie talks about the myth of 'overnight success' and why it's important not to discard other people's journeys. This week’s listener needs some tips on sticking to her boundaries and values. 30-Day Project: Embrace Healthy Boundaries http://bit.ly/EmbraceBoundaries Natalie also shares advice from her 6 and 8-year-old daughters on being clear on NO. The book I mention is the wonderful, The Little Girl Who Lost Her No by Amy M. Starkey http://amzn.to/1L7xeIT  Email: podcast@baggagere

In this episode, Natalie explains the key reasons for the breakdown of a relationship and how bottom line, they're all the same reason—incompatibility. Understanding Why Some Relationships Don’t Work Out http://bit.ly/18WdqFx In the second segment where each week Natalie helps listeners to better understand their emotional baggage and grow in self-awareness, she explains some of the reasons why we get being triggered by birthdays. I discuss how to uncover what the baggage is behind an issue in episode 2.  In the third segment, Natalie talks about how we can all be a bit more tolerant when it comes to our minor irritations with loved ones and how we sometimes forget that we have our irritating ways too! This week’s listener needs some tips for calming herself down where she gets into a state of thinking and feeling awful things about herself. Download  7 Steps For Calming Yourself Down When You’re In A Negative Self-Talk Spiral: http://bit.ly/7stepscalm Check out the How To Self-Soothe Quick Guide I mentioned: