Afrobrit Ramblings

A chat on my gratitude for 7 years God had my back. A challenge to you as I reflect not to give up hope. He's Got You

Time and seasons come and go; life changes. We are ill prepared for the challenges we have with autoimmune illnesses particular to fibromyalgia due to trauma. Our bodies become the voices of the wounds we have not dealt with. As we deal with them, the wounds heal and we become more empathetic to the human condition. Joni Erickson challenged me this week do not let your disability define you. In 1967 after a shallow dive she became a quadriplegic. At the age of 70 this year, her organisation supports people worldwide with their disabilities. Redefine yourself with the disabilities we live with!

When suffering with fibromyalgia it is necessary to have peace. This means you have to audit who is speaking life into you, understands you and most of all believes you. Emotional turbulence is not good for your system and you have to stop being a garbage truck. Everyone has drama and if you overload yourself with others garbage may tip over affecting your health. Do the audit and remove people from your life

Living with depression and fibromyalgia means that the bottom will fall out again. Just as you are mid-stride a doctors report, chronic fatigue or a loss can throw all the work you have achieved. You now have tools; the decision you make will see carry you through, have a medical review and press the reset button and love yourself.

I have been away for a while due to health concerns. Just when you think you have got it together the bottom falls out. As you know fibromyalgia has different presentations over time and with childhood trauma lurking around the flashbacks can cripple you. Dealing with physical and emotional pain is debilitating. Let's talk, get some help. Don't give up as you are succeeding in different areas in your life, make sure you big up yourself for those achievements.

Brokenness is always seen as a bad thing, however getting to the aha moment is the journey. Acceptance doesn't happen over night. This allows you to see that life and growth is not linear. We rarely take into account our goodness. We get absorbed in the messages we receive from a point brokenness. Change your narrative to celebrate your goodness; or you will continuously react from the broken places.

A plea for us to mentor the younger woman. The rate of femicide is going up at a rate that is alarming. We have to step in and mentor and integrate the old ways and new world.

Do you get up fed up? Embrace your feelings of frustration or anger. Identify the cause and create a plan to deal with the irritant and give yourself a break! You are stronger than you think and vulnerability is not wrong

Hidden among us are women suffering abuse. It is easy to tell people leave and question why they don't. The government is not going to save us women. Let us go to our communities and have these conversations; men and women. Let us stand in holding pattern together with our sisters as they heal. There should never be another story of a woman maimed or killed due to abuse. Lord I am tired.

Gratitude is important in life. Are you giving it much thought? What are you full off on thanks or are you on autopilot?

In a world where the continued message is get rid of toxic friends, I invite you to look into yourself. Be your friend. Discovering and forging true friendship is a journey many struggle with. Let us not alienate a true friend because they have something going on, but let's use the 3 C's to strengthen who is there for us for who we are.

Welcome to the Afro Brit Ramblings show. This podcast is for women who have gone through trauma from abuse experienced Infertility, living with Depression and Fibromyalgia. My intent is to discuss l topical issues with a cross cultural twist. Thank you for coming on board and if you ever want to co-host inbox me and I'll get back to you so we can arrange a time.

Many times as women, we go around bleeding from our wounded places. Have you ever taken the time to question your attitudes and limited beliefs about relationships. Whether single, married or in between let's get ourselves healthy in the way we approach relationships

Many times when we go through difficult times, we lose sight of ourselves. Our colours change, to blue, grey or black. As a woman that loss can shock you. Here is a tale of finding the sensual Nimo. The adventure has given me a lot of lost confidence. Enjoy and I hope it inspires you as you are fearfully and wonderfully made.

It's important to set intentions for the New Year and the willingness to follow through. Small bite size goals should help you reach bigger goals. Enjoy my rambling

A year of Hope. Reflecting 2018

A season of Hope

Christmas will try anyone's nerves, but those with fibromyalgia know how the added stress can be detrimental. Plan, Pace and Prepare yourselves and stay safe. A flare should be avoided at all costs PS don't forget to order your meds.

Many times we go through periods of silence and don't know what to do with ourselves. There is a time to speak and a time to be silent. The winter months force us to take time out to reflect; while the autumn months shed what is not necessary. Embrace these seasons in your life.

As the seasons change in your life, one needs to shed things that don't serve you anymore. We hold on to people due to obligation, need that is unhealthy and sometimes we just want them in our lives. The weight and value of your relationship is based on time, communication and availability. In crisis you will learn who is for you and who is with you for what you have