How To Stop Wanting Him Back

It is a new year, and we should be excited! It’s a fresh, clean slate, and I love the energy that comes forth with everyone wanting to show up differently and create new goals. If you’ve been listening for a while, you’ll know that I am all about being the real deal. And if you want to really get a fresh start and create new results, it all has to start with your ugly truth. In this episode, I share with you how to identify your ugly truth, my experiences with my ugly truths, and how to then turn them into your beautiful truths that allow for your amazing results. If you are looking to heal your precious heart that is worthy, deserving, and capable of having the most epic love, then I highly encourage my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. For just $597, you’ll receive over 60 videos on how to do the thought work, such as working through your ugly truths, fall the fuck in love with you, and find someone better.Topics in this episode:Your truth isn’t a fact. It’s a thought. How our lack of l

Let’s talk about letting go, which is one of the most crucial steps in how to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, and to find someone better, and is an excellent topic to cover and wrap up an insane year. Even if I have discussed this topic before, what I’m going to share today is going to be up-leveled, because I have up-leveled, personally and as a coach through self-coaching and working with my coaches. I know it’s not easy, my loves, to move through the pain, and I also know that the only way through it is to lean in.You’re not alone. And not only that, but you also have tools that you can do something about the heartbreak and letting them go. I cover this in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this course, which has over 60 videos, I teach you what you need to succeed, how to stop wanting him back, fall in love with you, and find someone better. To learn more, click here. Topics In This EpisodeThe work is never doneThe tricky thing about coaching, and why I think it’s so importan

This is an emotional episode for me. I think it’s important for me to share with you, by leading by example, that the work is never done. I’m in the most amazing relationship with the love of my life, and I just released an amazing course, helping women fall in love with themselves and call in Mr. Right. But somewhere along the way, as I worked morning, noon, and night, seven days a week, for the lats four months, I abandoned myself, my self-coaching, and my self-love. In this episode, I share with you how I got here, how this relates to finding Mr. or Ms. Right, and how I’m going to prioritize loving myself again.  This is what I teach you to do in my one-on-one coaching. I have spots available for February, so if you’re interested, you can go to my website. I also teach all of this in my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In the course, I share the four modules: what you need to succeed, stop wanting him back, fall in love with you, and find someone better. To learn more about this cours

We have an epic episode for you today, a “clients tell-all” episode featuring three of my clients, April, Heather, and Ina. These three women are at different stages of their dating lives and came to me at different stages. I really wanted to share with you a variety of stories and experiences, so that you could hear from them first-hand the kind of work we have done together, and how it could be helpful for you to work with me as a coach to move through your heartbreak.My course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better is out now! This course, which features almost 60 videos, puts together all of my coaching experience as I have helped women get over their exes, fall the fuck in love with themselves, and find someone better. I felt it was time to create a course that is affordable and accessible to the masses, where I know you’ll get the same results these women have gotten from working with me, one on one. For this insane value, go to my website.Topics in this episodeWhat if I’m not heartbroken? Heali

This week I am excited to bring another guest on the show. If you listened to the last episode, you may be anticipating a conversation with the other woman who was involved in my rock bottom relationship. However, due to legal reasons, she has decided to not come on the show. When you move through trauma and share that experience with another person, there’s nothing like that to bond you with them, so I completely understand her reasons for not coming on the show. With that being said, I still wanted to bring a guest this week, and I am excited to share with you a conversation I had with a client, Leanne. I talk with her about some of the work we’ve been doing together, such as taking a dump on your love stories, and the huge shifts she’s experienced in only three months of working together! She came to me, not as a heartbroken woman, but as someone looking for help in her dating life. I ask my clients for a six-month commitment, so we’re only halfway through, and I am very much looking forward to how much mo

If you have listened to this podcast for a while, you have definitely heard me say that how you are in one area of your life is how you are in all areas of your life. I hear from listeners and clients all the time that their lives our great, it’s just the dating part of their lives where they need some help. In this episode, I share examples from a couple clients and how I helped them unpack other parts of their lives, such as their relationships and careers, and showed them the sneaky self-beliefs that were in those areas that had an impact on their dating lives. These sneaky thoughts show up for everyone, but by working with a coach who can see your blindspots, you can be on to your thoughts, change them, and create the results you desire. If you follow me on Instagram, @clairetheheartbreakcoach, then you would have seen that my course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, is launching on Tuesday, November 24th! As I have mentioned, a lot of work, sweat, and energy has gone into me creating

Something my clients struggle with is the balance between having an open mind and knowing when they should say no to dating someone. In this episode, I talk about loving your “no” and not just being ok with, but owning what you do and don’t like in your dating life and with a partner. If you are someone who has a lot of nos and restrictions, then this isn’t the episode for you. But maybe you’ve found yourself in a similar situation as a client of mine, dating someone who you don’t actually like, but you feel like you should give them a chance because they’re a nice person. Get clear on what you don’t and don’t like, and if you trust that your thoughts create your results, you can find Mr. or Ms. Right and call them in. If you are looking for more of a hands-on guide, I am so excited to share with you that my course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, is coming soon! I believe that this topic of heartbreak is about more than just how you’re showing up in your dating life. In the different se

Have you ever thought to yourself, “I always get my heartbroken”? That happened with a client recently who sent me her thought work using one of the thought models I use with my clients.  Your thoughts create your results. Having this thought of always getting your heartbroken will ensure that you do in fact, get your heart broken. In this episode, I walk you through how to examine this thought and unpack it, so that you can see where it’s not true. And from there, how you can shift your thoughts and you can begin to heal and call love in.Maybe you’re doing this work and it’s not working, or maybe you can’t really see how to change your thoughts. This is where a coach comes in, because they can see your blind spots that you just can’t see. If you are interested in getting one-on-one coaching from me, I’m not currently taking new clients, but you can apply for my waitlist. I am also working on creating a course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, where I share with you the tools to stop want

I recently created a poll on my Instagram account, (be sure to follow me, @clairetheheartbreakcoach) and in the poll, I asked whether or not you should talk about your ex on a first date. The majority of people said no, you shouldn’t talk about your ex on a first date, and I could not disagree more! Talking about your dating history, and learning about the other person’s, can be really helpful for understanding where each of you is, and what you’re looking for. You should have nothing to hide, and neither should the person you’re dating. You’ve got nothing to lose! If you’re interested in taking this work deeper, or if you’ve been listening to this podcast for a while and aren’t creating the results you’re looking for, you can apply to join the waitlist for my one-on-one coaching at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/work-with-me. I also cannot wait to share with you the course that I’ve been working on, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better! This course launches mid-November, and it is filled with

I have some amazing clients. They are all in on getting their hearts healed, falling in love with themselves, and calling in Mr. or Ms. Right. I was recently working with one client who was so committed to finding her person that she invested $3,000 in a matchmaker. Then she turned around and she found her guy on a dating app! In this episode, I share with you how she was able to find her person, and that it doesn’t matter where you find them. What matters are your thoughts. And if you’re so committed to being in that your ideal partnership, start thinking, feeling, and behaving like that woman right now, and you too can call love in. If you love what I’m saying, and you still aren’t sure how to do this work, you can apply for my one-on-one coaching. I would also highly recommend my new course, coming in mid-November, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. This course is going to be amazing! In it, there are at least 55 videos on how to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back and how to fall the fuck in lo

I was recently watching the HBO documentary series called The Vow, and I found it fascinating because some of the principles used are ones I use in my coaching and on myself. In the documentary, something that really stuck with me was when someone said, “The mind can heal the body, but the body never forgets”, and that’s what I want to share with you today. We have all been through traumas and heartbreak. Even in relationships, traumas from previous exes may still come up. In this episode, I share with you when that has happened for me, what it may look like for you, and how to move through it.Right now I’m also in the midst of creating my course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone better. I am an expert when it comes to healing a broken heart and I want to provide you with a very affordable option to help you stop wanting Mr. Wrong back, fall in love with yourself, and find someone better. To sure you don’t miss the official launch date and for all information, join my mailing list.  Topics in this episo

I am back for another conversation with my bestie Jamie McKeown, an incredible health and wellness coach. She has previously been on the podcast before to talk about what to eat on a broken heart and to answer your listener questions. In this episode, we talk about cutting off contact with your exes, which I think it’s safe to say, Jamie and I don’t agree on. She shares why she holds onto friendships with people she has previously dated, and I point out why I coach my clients on ending those friendships and why they don’t serve you if your goal is to find your person. In our conversation, we also touched on some of the topics that I cover in my upcoming course,  How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. As of recording this episode, I am in LA shooting over 50 videos teaching you how to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back and how to fall the fuck in love with you, authentically, before you call in someone better. The course launches this November. To learn more and stay updated on the course, subsc

“I’m over being single.” This is something I have heard again and again from clients that are looking to date and are trying to call in Mr. or Ms. Right. Let’s dive into some of the bad reasons to date and find out why they aren’t serving you. Stop giving your energy to what isn’t working. It’s all about your thoughts which create your results. Do the thought work, love your singledom, and love the fuck out of yourself. If you truly believe your ideal person is out there, you will be able to date for the right reasons, and call love in. I’m currently working on creating my course, How to Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I am so excited about creating this affordable option for you! It has over 50 videos, teaching you how to stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back and how to fall the fuck in love with you, authentically, before you call in someone better. The course launches this November. To learn more and stay updated on the course, subscribe at https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/Topics in this ep

“He rejected me.” This is something I have heard clients say to me before, and is a story we so often believe about our situations as though they are a fact. However, the situation is neutral, and rejection is just a thought you have. In this episode, I dive into ways in which you may be rejecting yourself, putting this into the thought model, and how to create space for Mr. or Ms. Right to enter. I hope this episode helps you know that you are not someone who is rejected. You are loved unconditionally and deserve the best love life beyond your wildest dreams. It starts with believing it is possible, and with that belief, you can create the result.I am currently working on creating a course coming this November called Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I covered a bit about the course in this episode. To learn more, sign up for my email newsletter at: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/Topics in this episodeHow you are in one area of your life is how you are in all areas of your lifeWhat it look

This episode is inspired by the work that I have been doing with a client recently. She was dating this guy and said that she was falling in love with him, but also recognized that he wasn’t emotionally available and showing up for her in ways that were very important. When I asked her why she was falling in love, it really boiled down to the fact that he was doing small gestures for her. Ladies. A sweet gesture is not enough of a reason to be in love with someone who is not showing up for you emotionally. I’m sure many of you listeners can relate to her experience, and in this episode, I dive deep into what it looks like when you’re setting the bar too low, how to establish the values that are important to you, and calling in love in your ideal relationship. Topics in this episodeThe 5 love languages:Quality timePhysical touchWords of affirmationActs of serviceGiftsAttachment stylesYou should never have to guess your partner’s level of interestThe small things are added bonuses.Important qualities to look fo

In this episode, I want to discuss vulnerability and the vulnerability in your dating life. This topic was inspired by some of my clients, and coaching them to realize that getting what you desire, getting to that ideal relationship, requires us to be vulnerable. We have to lean into the suck, lean into the pain, and know that what’s on the other side, and being in our ideal relationship with Mr. or Ms. Right is worth it. In this episode, I share with you some personal experiences with vulnerability, especially in my current relationship, as well as sharing some of the coachings I have done to help my clients have difficult conversations with the people they are dating, in order to get them the results they want. By the end of this episode, I want you to know that when you are vulnerable, and when you choose you, you win. Topics in this episodeDefining vulnerabilityYour two choices:Stay small and safe, out of fearStep into your vulnerability and get results You can create anything you wantFear and discomfort

I received a message from a listener of the podcast, and she said that listening to this podcast inspired her to leave a partner who was not treating her well. She’s been really picking up what I’ve been putting down about how our thoughts create our results. She was nursing the wounds of someone else not treating her well, and so when she entered into a new relationship, she had fears that he would fuck her over. She thought that those thoughts created him to not treat her well. And that isn’t true. In this episode, I share from my personal and coaching experiences how to shift your thoughts, take responsibility for what we can control, and heal from our relationships in order to find Mr. or Ms. Right. The topic of this episode is an example of needing a coach to help you see your blind spots. I hope that anyone that is listening is wanting to lead an intentional life filled with love and integrity. That love starts with you. If you’re listening to this podcast, in need of a coach, and think we may be a grea

Validating who we are from the people we love is normal, and it's okay. We need to allow ourselves that sense of relief, regardless if that relationship will work or if the guy will show interest in you or not. It stings, but the only guarantee that you have is to show up as yourself. Be aware, be committed to check yourselves and the facts, and not judge your brain if it gets too excited. For example, let's say you go on a first date and the guy calls you and you get excited. This is the fun part! You deserve to feel good about it. And lastly, you also have to be ready to go to a place of worst scenarios. As Byron Katie said, "turn around the automatic painful thoughts."It's hard to let you see that vulnerable side of me seeking external validation, but I love showing what's possible and being an example of that. Be with the discomfort, love yourself, be compassionate. You owe it to yourself. And, who knows, someone who's a better fit for you will come your way, in the most unexpected time and place. Just li

Welcome to a very special episode, Heartbreak for Black Lives. I am bringing on one of my nearest and dearest friends, Aisha Kabia. We met 11 years ago when I moved to LA. She embraced me with open arms, and it was the beginning of one of the most treasured and beautiful friendships that I have in my life. We’ve had many conversations over the years about so many different topics, but the one thing we’ve never really talked about is what it’s like to be a black woman in the United States. I wanted to talk about this topic because this is a heartbreaking matter, and I am a heartbreak coach. I am a coach who continues to get coached because I never want to stop learning. I never want to stop growing and contributing to being someone who can facilitate the healing of hearts, and having this dialogue is how we heal. You can feel your shame and feel your guilt. Understand the thinking behind it that created it, and then go do something about it. There are so many options. You can donate. You can educate yourself.

A conversation with my bestie, and sex coach, Danielle Savory provides more light to what women are unaware of: their sexual pleasure. We discussed why pleasure is important.What's keeping us from focusing on ourselves is whatever we're keeping in our minds. This mind-body-connection is vital to how we deal with ourselves and our relationships. When you have the thought that you're not good enough, it becomes the fuel to feelings of being ashamed or unwanted. When you're thinking a thought, this thought is creating something in your body, which can provoke a different emotion, such as tension, the is opposite of pleasure.Becoming a pleasurable sexual woman is a solo journey where we have to develop the sense of pleasure within ourselves, the sense of worthiness, and to learn to direct our mind to our body, without involving a partner.Topics in this episodeHow to become a pleasured womanWhy women feel that sex or orgasm isn’t a necessity anymoreThe importance of pleasure in one’s mind and bodyHow to pleasure y