Wire Talk With Karen Stubbs

How do you discipline your kids without damaging your relationship? Today Karen and Emily are talking about what it looks like to set boundaries, correct behavior, and still be your child’s safe place. From toddler tantrums to teenage independence, they share wisdom that will help you the next time you’re doling out discipline. Episode Recap:We’re afraid to discipline because we worry it will damage our relationship (4:52)My daughter confessed something small to me after YEARS (5:26)My child is hypersensitive to discipline from dad, what can I do? (7:39)My husband is too harsh with our teenage son (12:51)Our son doesn’t respect me the way he respects his dad (16:28)God commands us to discipline our children (21:17)Scripture: Proverbs 3:12 (NIV) “Because the Lord disciplines those he loves, as a father the son he delights in.”Discussion Questions: What helps you stay calm when you need to discipline your child?Do you and your spouse have the same discipline style? Do your children respond differently to discip

Between toddler tantrums, potty training battles, and endless power struggles, the preschool years can feel like the wild west of parenting. Today Karen is answering your preschool questions with her trademark practical tips, reminding us that structure, consistency, and patience go a long way. Above all, your daily walk with the Lord is what will sustain you during these exhausting and beautiful years!Episode Recap:My husband and I are at our wit’s end with our strong-willed 4 year old’s tantrums (6:11)Take a deep dive into the temperaments to learn how to discipline your child (7:00)My husband’s job keeps him away from home often, how can I help my young children cope? (10:30)Help! Potty training is driving me nuts! (14:54)How do I help my 3 year old regulate his emotions? (17:40)Giving in to a tantrum makes it worse 100% of the time (19:00)Everything is an argument with my four year old, any advice? (23:22) Your walk with the Lord truly does make a difference (27:49)Scripture: Galatians 5:22–23“But the fru

What if a better marriage starts not with more work, but with changing the way you think? This week we’re sitting down with author and speaker Ted Lowe to talk about his book Us in Mind and the simple things that separate happy couples from struggling ones. From celebrating small wins to practicing empathy and taking thoughts captive, Ted unpacks practical ways to renew your mind and see your spouse differently. Whether your marriage feels stuck or just needs a little spark, we hope this conversation leaves you encouraged and equipped to do the next right thing.Episode Recap:How are great marriages different from struggling marriages? (6:42)Happy couples think in a way that unhappy couples don’t (8:42)“Madly in love” couples focus on what they do love about their spouse, not what they don’t (12:00)What you think about yourself affects how you interact with your spouse (17:08)Why do celebrations make such a big difference in our marriages? (25:12)Empathy is huge for happy marriages (30:01)Two words that change

When one mom asks a hard marriage question, we know hundreds more are wondering the same thing. Today, Karen and Emily tackle your vulnerable questions about jealousy, mismatched sex drives, and resentment at home. Karen reminds us that fighting for our marriages is worth it, even when it means doing the hard work like going to counseling, seeing a doctor, or having the tough conversation. We hope this episode will encourage you to keep investing in your marriage no matter the season you are in! Episode Recap:I struggle with jealousy when my husband is around other women, is that normal? (5:11)My husband doesn’t initiate sex, what should I do? (8:20)As a SAHM, I’m super frustrated with the home workload (10:34)Communicate when things are calm, not just in the heat of the moment (17:03)My husband and I disagree about SO MUCH - how do we compromise? (18:16)My spouse will NOT apologize. What are my options? (23:39)How do you stay connected when you’re outnumbered by kids & have busy schedules? (24:18) Script

Marriage doesn’t have to feel heavy or complicated, sometimes we just need a gentle nudge to see where we’ve let things slide. In this conversation with Arlene Pellicane, author of Making Marriage Easier, Karen and Emily unpack the four practical shifts that can strengthen your relationship: play by the rules, speak kindly and listen well, practice gratitude, and take fun seriously. Whether you’re in the trenches with little ones or looking ahead to the golden years, this episode will encourage you to invest in your marriage today!Episode Recap:Arlene’s background and marriage (5:43)Ask yourself, what can I do to make my marriage easier? (7:59)What does it mean to “play by the rules” in marriage? (9:47)Divorce is highly predictable based on how couples speak to one another (11:05)How does giving thanks make marriage easier? (14:37)The source of our happiness is God, nothing else (17:36)Our phones are essentially a third person in modern marriages (18:15)Don’t forget to have FUN together! (21:57)In marriage, y

Moms, you don’t want to miss this conversation! Karen and Greg pull back the curtain on nearly four decades of marriage—the good, the hard, the early years, and the season they’re in now. Their honesty will inspire you to invest in your own marriage now so you can reap the rewards later. This heartfelt episode will make you smile, and maybe even tear up, as they remind us that we serve a good and faithful God who wants the best for us and our marriages.Episode Recap:How Karen and Greg back met in 1984 (4:00)What Greg thought marriage was going to be like (6:40)What were some of your biggest differences as newlyweds? (7:50)How did you stay connected during the early years of raising kids? (10:09)We always prioritized us over the kids. (13:22)How did serving in the military impact your marriage and family? (14:45)What has been the hardest season of your marriage? (18:48)How did your faith carry you through that season? (22:54)What have you come to love or appreciate about one another more recently? (29:10)How h

No matter where your kids are in school this year, every mom will take away encouragement and wisdom from this conversation about homeschooling. In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with Wire Talk producer (and homeschool mom of four) Katie Leipprandt, who shares the truths she’s learned over 15 years of parenting and schooling at home. From choosing relationship over results, to leaning on community, to remembering your “why” when days get hard, Katie’s wisdom applies to every mom—no matter how your kids are educated.Episode Recap:How did you get started homeschooling? (4:00)I wish someone had told me to prioritize relationship first (7:33)How has your ‘why’ changed for your homeschool? (11:30)What does a typical day look like homeschooling four kids? (14:30)How do you differentiate between your “mom hat” and your “teacher hat”? (18:00)What would you say to the homeschool mom who is already overwhelmed? (21:43)How do you teach a child who doesn’t want to do the work? (26:32)How do you juggle multiple ag

School today looks a lot different than when we were kids, and moms often feel stuck between supporting their children and not piling on more pressure. In this episode, Karen and Emily sit down with longtime educator and principal Jerome Huff to share how parents can help their kids thrive during their middle and high school years. We loved the reminder that your child’s school still needs you! Your prayers and presence can make a lasting impact, not only on your child but on the entire school community.Episode Recap:“Principal Coach” Jerome Huff joins us today to talk about helping our middle and high schoolers thrive (2:20)How coming from a single parent home influenced the way he ran his schools (5:45)How schools have changed over Jerome’s time as a principal (8:30) What do you wish more parents understood about what teachers are dealing with day to day? (16:30)High schools need parent volunteers as well! Ask, “what can I do?” (23:18)The role the Holy Spirit played in Jerome’s approach to being a principal

If you’re parenting an elementary-age child, this episode is for you! Today Karen and Emily sit down with elementary school principal Amber Lamb to share practical ways you can partner with teachers, encourage independence, and help your child navigate friendships during these formative years. With 20+ years in education, Amber offers encouragement and practical tips to set your family up for a strong and connected school year.Episode Recap:Elementary school principal Amber Lamb joins us today (4:15)What has changed in the school world since you became an administrator? (6:45)Fewer parents are coming into the building now (8:30) How can parent involvement make a difference at this stage? (11:15)I wish more moms understood education is a journey (14:45)Put your “kids lens” on when talking to your kid about what’s going on at school (21:15)Go in to talking with your teacher with positive intent (29:02)No contribution to the classroom is too small! (30:26)Encourage independence and be curious about your child th

Starting preschool can feel overwhelming, both for moms and our little ones! That’s why Karen and Emily are joined today by veteran preschool director Lisa Lucas, who brings 20 years of wisdom to this conversation. Lisa shares how preschool has changed over the years, what kids really need to be ready, and how moms can ease the transition with a few small habits at home. Whether you’re a first-time preschool mom or just looking for a reset, this episode is packed with tips to help your family thrive this school year! Episode Recap:Preschool director Lisa Lucas and Karen go way back! (2:45)How the preschool environment has changed over the past 20 years (7:00)Preschoolers are capable of a lot more than we think (14:40) Solid sleep habits and good nutrition make a world of difference (17:20)How can I ease separation anxiety? (19:40)How can moms support their preschool teachers? (26:30)The small chane that will make a BIG difference in your school year (29:51)Scripture: Luke 2:52 (NIV) “And Jesus grew in wisdom

As we turn the corner into a new school year, we’re bringing back part two of one of our most-loved mini-series: the State of Motherhood. In this candid conversation, Karen doesn’t hold back! She challenges us to take ownership of our world, root out laziness, and remember that all the hard work of motherhood is worth it. Whether you're clinging to the last days of summer or knee-deep in school prep, we hope this episode reminds you that everything we do, including being a mom, is to be done unto the Lord.Episode Recap:Focus on progress over perfection as a mom (3:45)Go back and listen to part 1 for Truths 1 & 2 (5:00)Truth #3 - Take ownership for your mom life (6:30)Stop playing the blame game (12:50)Truth #4 - Stop being lazy (18:05)It’s all worth it (31:51) Resources:Want Karen to come deliver some tough love and major encouragement to the moms in your community? Reach out: https://birdsonawiremoms.com/book-karen-to-speakGrab Peace for the Anxious Mom as your Bible study for the new school year: www.bo

As July comes to an end, many moms are turning their eyes toward the school year ahead. That’s why we’re bringing back one of our most-loved mini-series: the State of Motherhood. This honest two part conversation dives into the good, the hard, and the unfair parts of motherhood and offers the loving kick in the pants we all need to reset our perspective. Whether you’re wrapping up summer or bracing for new routines this fall, we hope this episode helps you gear up for what lies ahead! Episode Recap:Check out all our new curriculums (6:30)Join our private Facebook group this year (9:20)The amount of complaining we do doesn’t change how hard motherhood is (19:21) Life is not fair (24:02)You are doing a good job and you are going to get through this (38:42)Resources:Find all Karen’s FREE curricula in the BOAW Moms app: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/free-curriculumPurchase brand-new curricula in the store: https://store.birdsonawiremoms.com/collections/available-for-purchase-1Reach out to https:/

Today Karen and Emily dive into the dynamics of marriage and parenting by reminding us that we are not our husband's Holy Spirit! Karen shares her own story about letting go of the urge to control her husband's spiritual journey and offers practical wisdom for managing the emotional ups and downs that come with doing life together. Lean in for practical advice about navigating differences with your spouse, remembering that it is God who ultimately guides our faith journey!Episode Recap:1:49 We diminish God’s power when we try to control our husbands6:10 How do I let go of my husband’s lack of a quiet time? 9:05 Allow the Holy Spirit to do its job, your job is to love and respect your husband10:15 My husband is harsh when he disciplines, what do I do? 14:10 How can I get my husband to take more initiative and help me more?17:30 Be specific when you ask for help18:45 My husband’s moodiness brings me down! Scripture for Reflection:1 Corinthians 3: 6-7 (NIV): "I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has b

Today Karen and Emily are talking about one of the biggest challenges moms face—knowing when (and how) to say no. With stories from their own families and practical advice for every season, this conversation will help you evaluate what’s best for your family right now. Whether you're navigating sports schedules, volunteer asks, or the push to "do it all," this conversation will give you permission to prioritize wisely and protect your peace, so you can say yes to what matters most.Episode Recap:8:02 How can I say no to one more thing? I feel guilty! 11:00 Travel soccer used to be fun but now it’s expensive and overwhelming…what do we do?15:05 I’m struggling to prioritize time with my husband, any tips? 17:30 You need to determine for your own family what are your non-negotiables18:26 What steps can I take to prevent over commitment? 20:22 - Your best yes looks different from other families Scripture for Reflection: Philippians 1:10 (NLT)“For I want you to understand what really matters, so that you may live p

Discipline is one of the hardest parts of parenting—and one of the most frequently asked-about topics from Wire Talk listeners. In this popular re-air, Karen breaks down discipline into three practical stages and shares wisdom from her book Survival Guide to Motherhood. Whether you're parenting toddlers, school-aged kids, or teens, grab your headphones and get ready to reframe your mindset with the powerful biblical principle: pain now equals peace later.Episode Recap:8:14 Discipline starts with your mindset 9:36 Pain now equals peace later12:24 Discipline has to be consistent.13:34 The three stages of discipline each require a different focus from moms16:17 The “B”s of discipline with young kids are: Be Consistent, Be United, Be Clear17:05 In the middle years it’s time to teach the “why” behind the no18:11 You have to slow down and make time to teach your child20:20 During the “coaching” stage, parents have to let consequences play outScripture for Reflection: Hebrews 12:11 (NIV)“No discipline seems pleasant

We can’t shield our kids from everything—but we can prepare them. In today’s episode, Karen answers your questions about navigating tricky situations that stem from outside influences. From toddlers to teens, the answer isn’t control—it’s conversation. Listen and learn why awkward talks now might be the most powerful gift you can give your kids!Episode Recap:3:39 - My preschooler is coming home using potty words, how do I address it? 5:41 - My neighbors’ kids are obnoxious and I don’t want my kids around them…9:46 - My teenager’s friend (the son of a friend of mine) uses foul language in his texting, should I address it with her? 13:34 - How do I balance our family values and God’s command to think about praiseworthy things with my daughter’s taste in popular music that isn’t God-honoring?20:05 - These conversations are awkward and hard but if we don’t teach our children, who will?Scripture for Reflection: Deuteronomy 6:6–7 (NIV)“These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them

From disappointment in marriage to disrespectful teens, today’s episode tackles some hard moments moms are facing. Karen answers questions about how to parent through anger, restore broken relationships, and course-correct when obedience and respect have gone off track. With stories from her own life and wisdom rooted in Scripture, Karen reminds us thar God is in the business of redemption—and it’s never too late!Episode Recap:4:36 - My life is not at all going as I had planned - is there a Bible Study for that? 10:44 - We missed the boat on disciplining our boys well in their younger years, how do we course correct now? Is it too late? 15:45 - You answer to the Lord and you don’t need to apologize to anyone.16:46 - My husband is an extremely permissive parent - what can I do?19:40 - My 14 year old son hates me (I think in many ways, it’s deserved) what can I do? Scripture for Reflection: Galatians 5:22-33 (NIV)"But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentl

What if understanding your child’s temperament could transform the way you parent? Today Karen and Emily sit down with author and temperament expert Kathleen Edelman to talk about wiring, communication, and the power of speaking life into our kids. Kathleen shares tips for how to spot your child’s core temperament, explains why it’s so important to know your own, and reminds us that God intentionally chose each of us to be the mother of our unique child. Episode Recap:4:05 - Kathleen Edelman joins us in the studio today to talk temperaments6:15 - God chose YOU, with your unique temperament, to be the mother of your unique children. It was not an accident. 8:00 - Where did this idea of the 4 temperaments come from?10:50 - You can watch the body language of your child and pay attention to their words to discern their temperament14:00 - Temperaments are innate, personality evolves18:44 - You have to understand how God uniquely wired you to be able to speak your child’s language well 22:00 - What are common mista

Do you ever feel overwhelmed by anxiety, resentment, or fear in motherhood? You’re not alone. Today Karen and Emily open up about navigating hard seasons—from managing a home alone while your husband is away, to struggling with trust in God when fear creeps in. They dive into real questions from moms who are tired, discouraged, and looking for peace. Grab your coffee, because this one’s packed with encouragement, truth, and a little tough love. ;)Episode Recap:7:05 - The world is loud and stressful, but we can have peace because God is with us9:18 - I feel overwhelmingly resentful toward my husband because the weight of family life is all on me - how can I get through this season?10:30 - Some seasons are just HARD and you have to persevere12:20 - Self pity is of the devil. Ask God to meet your needs.17:16 - My husband is SO moody - help!18:50 - What are the various temperament colors?25:00 - It is easy to forget the strengths of our spouse and only focus on their negatives.31:00 - My 17 yr old struggles with

From dentist visits to bedtime clinginess, today’s conversation is all about helping kids face fear with confidence. Karen answers your questions about navigating anxiety, new experiences, and tough transitions. With practical ideas and plenty of encouragement, this episode will equip you to walk with your child through fear and toward courage.Episode Recap:2:05 - Emily is more than halfway through her pregnancy6:50 - How can I help my 3.5 year old face the dentist without a meltdown?10:12 - My outgoing, bubbly 5 year old becomes totally silent at school - what do I do? 12:00 - After an active shooter drill, my daughter is terrified to go to school16:00 - My child is overly attached to me, how can I help her gain independence? Scripture for Reflection: Isaiah 41:10 (NIV)So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God.”Questions for Discussion:What does fear look like in your child’s behavior—and how do you usually respond?What are some situations where you’ve helped your child face th