Practice Of Being Seen



These are curated discussions for therapists and anyone interested in deep restorative transformation. Host, Rebecca Wong, relationship therapist, consultant and founder of Connectfulness®, believes that when you truly see yourself you create a ripple effect that allows you to be the change you wish to see in the world -- and that invites everyone around you to do the same. But heres a little warning: the practice of being seen might lead to deeper intimacy, less fear and more creative, bold action. Are you ready to deepen your practice and be seen?


  • Introducing the "Why Does(n't) My Partner ...?" Podcast

    16/03/2021 Duración: 14min

    My colleagues Jules and Vickey and I just launched a new podcast and I am super excited to share it with you, so I'm sharing it here!! In this trailer, we're sharing the story of how we met, how we've come to work together, how this podcast came to be, and what you can expect in future episodes. We're calling this podcast Why Does My Partner (or Why Doesn't My Partner, it's interchangeable) because these are the questions we hear over and over again in our offices. We believe these questions lead to the GOLD of relational healing and the answers under these questions will bring us deep into the skills at the heart of deeper relational intimacy, greater health, and fulfillment. Share your questions with us at: (! If you want to dive in deeper, consider registering for our online Essential Skills Relationship Bootcamp. Open to individuals, couples and therapists. Learn more at ( This podcast is not a substi


    27/02/2019 Duración: 02min

    Hello Friends!  I've archived this show and have started a new podcast that I wanted to make sure you knew about. I'd love for you to check out the Connectfulness Practice podcast, now available on your favorite podcast platform.  After you listen to a few episodes, I’d be grateful if you could leave an honest rating and review in iTunes of how the podcast supports your journey.  Join the Connectfulness® Community for deeper discussions. And follow us on Twitter, Instagram, and Facebook. GRATITUDES: (Christy Haussler) and my behind the scenes podcasting team. Sarah and Chris Faris and (Kidneystone Studio) for our delicious soundtrack music. And our new cover-art design by (Blue Rabbit Studios) with photo by Craig Strahorn.

  • FINALE: Getting Closer to What You’re Meant To Do With Annie Schuessler

    27/11/2018 Duración: 45min

    This is a special conversation about making a pivot in your business in order to get closer to what you’re meant to do. Annie and I each get personal about the pivots we’re each moving through and we talk about the retreat we’re hosting in 2019 for YOU.   Topics Discussed In This Episode:   Owning the work you’re best at Revisioning your business Thinking about your body of work and what legacy you’re creating Mindset issues is that come up when you push the boundaries of your business The Signature Heart And Soul Business Retreat: A retreat for entrepreneurs who are expanding and stepping into bigger leadership: Letting go of what’s no longer working in your business The process of rebranding during a pivot (both Annie and Rebecca’s experiences) Rebecca’s pivot to Connectfulness ( Annie’s pivot to Rebel Therapist (     Resources Discussed: Join us for two FREE virtual retreats that offer a sm

  • Lessons & Layers of Sensitivity with April Snow 
HSP Series part 4

    15/08/2018 Duración: 48min

    There is something for all of us to take away and learn from this conversation. Every single one of us gets to pause and learn who we are in relationships with ourselves and who we are and how we show up in relationships with others and we also have to pause and learn our partners and loved ones.    April Snow is an Associate Marriage & Family Therapist in downtown San Francisco. She believes thriving as a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP) a matter of knowing yourself and making adjustments to care for your unique temperament. If you’ve been listening for some time, you may recall April joined us to open our Highly Sensitive Series back on episode 57. She’s returned to dive even deeper and answer listener questions and curiosities around the Highly Sensitive Trait.    We’re talking about the ways the highly sensitive trait and trauma, especially in a dysregulated state, can overlay. We dive deeply into discussion around the development of one’s inner voice. We ask big questions like: “where do you shine?” and

  • Releasing Shame & Reclaiming Desire with Arielle Brown

    08/08/2018 Duración: 44min

    Many people feel that they can’t be themselves in relationship, either because of society’s pressure on them to be and act a certain way, or the pressure they feel from a significant other who demands them to be something other than their true self. In this episode we’re talking about Releasing Shame & Reclaiming Desire with Arielle Brown so that our intimate relationships can allow for more alignment between our inner self and our outer reality.   Arielle is a Relationship Coach and Intimacy Educator based in the San Francisco Bay area. She helps visionaries craft intimate relationships with conscious design so they can truly bring their voice and their impact into the world. She says the key is connecting and communicating our desires in ways that release shame and self-doubt and transmit our gifts.   Gender conditioning is one of the obstacles all of us face. We can’t share our gifts when we live with the fear of losing love and having to fit ourselves into “boxes of appropriateness.” Often women belie

  • Relational Healing and Racism with John Edwards

    01/08/2018 Duración: 52min

    In this episode, we're focusing on the experiences of immigrants and people of a color in therapy.   My guest, John Edwards, is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Certified Gottman Method Couples’ Therapist in Oakland, CA, with over 28 years in practice. John’s an immigrant from the Caribbean and a gay black man, these personal experiences help him relate to clients who feel marginalized or unheard in society. He knows that there isn’t just ONE way for relationships to work and that everyone has a different story, no matter where they began.    Couples and families of color have to face issues of racism, sexism, and complicated relationship issues in ways unknown to white people. John sees this in his practice and highlights why the majority of therapists don’t understand or relate to the experience of an immigrant or a racial minority.    John shares how deep-seated wounds from childhood can play into relationship issues and how we perceive even the most innocuous words and actions. In his work as a

  • Sacred Spiritual Relationships with Tamara Powell

    25/07/2018 Duración: 40min

    Have you ever thought of relationships as sacred and spiritual spaces? Join us for a conversation that takes a deep dive into concepts you’ve never considered before and open your eyes to new ways to think of yourself and your relationships to others.    My guest, Tamara Powell, LMHC, is a colleague, and past guest of the show. Her favorite topic sacred psychology -the intersection between traditional psychology with a focus on the holistic self, including the spirituality of a person- honors the divine nature in all of us and the connection to a higher power. In her Pensacola, Florida practice Tamara works with clients about anxiety, identity exploration, relationships, LGBTQ issues, sexual issues, and spiritual abuse and trauma. She describes herself as “rebel and a visionary with the heart and soul of a gypsy.”   Relationships can be mirrors, revealing and polishing our growth edges. Tamara explains these spaces as “heavenly sandpaper,” or the spaces in life that rub us and cause us to grow and explore

  • Supporting Transgender People And The People Who Love Them with Sarah Gilbert

    18/07/2018 Duración: 01h08s

    What kind of support exists for people who question their gender identity and the people who love them? Fortunately, there are therapists who specialize in offering support and safe spaces for the discussions and self-discovery in the face of the intense societal pressure trans folk experience. Today’s show tackles these issues and more. Sarah Gilbert, LCSW, is the owner of Transitions Therapy, LLC, a private practice in Manchester, Connecticut. Her mission is to help people author their unique identities. She specializes in working with teens and adults who identify as transgender, as well as those who love them. A part of her practice also involves giving support and education to the family members of transgender people. Sarah believes that when people live in their true identities, they come alive and inspire others to do the same. Sarah shares the metaphor of gender as water that surrounds fish as representative of the subtle gender reminders that surround people even before birth. We are socialized in

  • The Ripple Effect of Childhood Trauma with Laura Reagan

    11/07/2018 Duración: 01h07min

    Chances are that you or someone you love dearly has been affected by childhood trauma. The statistics are appalling as to the prevalence of childhood trauma, and unfortunately, we don’t seem to be changing the trend. Today we’re talking about childhood trauma and trauma informed care.    My guest, Laura Reagan is an expert on how childhood trauma affects our lives. She’s also the host of the Therapy Chat podcast (a highly recommended fave of mine). Laura is a clinical social worker in Maryland specializing in trauma, attachment, LGBTQ issues, mindfulness, and self-compassion.    The CDC’s Adverse Childhood Experiences Study (ACE Study) is a great place to begin broadening our understanding of childhood trauma - it uncovered a link between childhood trauma and higher risk of health and social problems later in life. The overwhelming experiences that impact children can include physical assault, assault by one parent on another, alcoholic or imprisoned parent, death of a parent, feeling unwanted, and sexu

  • Relational Politics with Brandy Brooks

    04/07/2018 Duración: 01h21min

    We all have ideals, opinions, and expectations of our governing leaders---and sadly, often those ideals are not met because we elect “politicians.” Today’s show is about change---real change that can happen when the voice of the people is truly heard by community leaders and when the needs of every segment of the community are addressed and improved. This conversation is a breath of fresh air.  Brandy Brooks genuinely has the heart and the determination to make these changes into reality--for the good of ALL the people.   Brandy Brooks is an organizer and educator who has spent nearly 15 years working on social, environmental and economic justice. Her areas of focus include community organizing and empowerment, community-­based design, land use planning, food justice, and food sovereignty. She currently works as the Leadership Development Organizer for Progressive Maryland. Brandy has served on multiple nonprofit boards and planning committees locally and nationally. She continues to speak at local and nati

  • Sensitive Leadership with Karina Antonopoulos

    27/06/2018 Duración: 40min

    In part 3 of our Highly Sensitive Series, we highlight many desirable HSP qualities in the areas of leadership and intuition. Karina Antonopoulos is a relationship coach for highly sensitive women. Her expertise lies in helping high sensation highly sensitive people find support in improving relationship quality, connection, and communication. She guides her clients in how to read the maps of life, navigate the internal compass, handle roadblocks and diligently take steps towards carving out their own meaningful piece of the world. Karina explains intuition, sensitivity, and the difference in empathy and compassion. The qualities that make good leaders, like awareness, collaboration, and noticing strengths and weaknesses, are inherent within most HSP’s. They can use intuition to be visionaries to see the guidance needed for the future, even though we know the path ahead is not fully revealed. And we also discuss how HSP’s can deal with fear, letting it be a guiding force forward, connecting us to intuition.

  • The Evolution of Sensitivity with Julie Bjelland

    21/06/2018 Duración: 55min

    20% of the world’s population is made up of people who carry a character trait called high sensitivity. That amounts to 1 in 5 people so the chances are high that either you or someone you love is a Highly Sensitive Person (HSP). HSP’s are often overloaded with the chaos of the world and more keenly impacted by both positive and negative experiences. Today’s show dives deep into the HSP trait and coping skills needed for HSP’s to thrive.   My guest Julie Bjelland, LMFT, has a private psychotherapy practice in California. Julie teaches innovative online brain-training courses and has written several books, including Brain Training for the Highly Sensitive Person. She’s a highly sensitive person and is the mother of two HSP children. Julie’s mission is to help HSP’s suffer less and access their gifts more.    We discuss character traits that are common among HSPs, such as anxiety, low self-esteem, negative self-beliefs, and a sense of obligation to take care of others’ needs over their own. And we also expl

  • Your Relationship with Money with Joanne Leffeld

    13/06/2018 Duración: 47min

    How do you feel about money? Is it a subject you’re comfortable talking about? Most of us know money is necessary in today’s world, but we may not realize the sensitivity we carry around talking about this topic. And how many relationship issues are related to our views of money. Today’s show explores the psychology of our relationship with money. My guest Joanne Leffeld began her career as a Certified Financial Planner in the NY metropolitan area. Now in the Hudson Valley she’s created a unique business working with clients one-on-one and with couples. She offers a holistic approach referring to herself as a “Moolah Doula,” helping people give birth to a healthier relationship with money. Joanne talks about how we deal with feelings of unworthiness and “not enough-ness.” She offers a unique view on the “enough vs. abundance” perspective. And shows how we can change our mindset to fight against self-limiting beliefs. We have to expand our beliefs in what we can accomplish in order to change the flow of ener

  • Tending To Our Selves with Dave Conley

    06/06/2018 Duración: 01h40min

    When is it time to turn inward?   When we show up for the people that we love, our attention is diverted from other things. There’s so much in this world that is competing for our time and attention. The result of this attention-grabbing is that our inner center is often left unattended. When we focus outwardly, especially in a helping profession, we tend to ignore the important inner work that needs to happen in order to take care of ourselves. My guest today has done extensive work with how we show up in the world to different people with a fully integrated life. I am delighted to bring to you the wisdom of Dave Conley.    Dave thinks of each individual life as a series of concentric circles. There is the innermost circle of you, and then the circles around represent your relationship to the rest of the world. Dave is going to tease apart some of those most important relationships, and how feeding and nurturing and tending to that inner circle can extend its influence to the rest of your relationships.

  • Creative Spirituality and Sustainable Wellness with Lanie Smith

    30/05/2018 Duración: 47min

    We are humans, we create.   Treat your soul to some self-care today and join Lanie Smith and I as we explore creativity, self-knowledge, and how art and nature combine. We’re talking about the evolution of Lanie’s signature approach to wellness and self-care as a sustainable lifestyle, EcoArt Wellness. Sustainable is the key word here because for Lanie, creating art and communing with nature are as natural as living her life. Lanie is an art therapist, coach and consultant with a passion for supporting other helping professionals tune in as an antidote to burnout and chronic stress. Lanie is on a mission to put people in touch with the process of life through the natural environment. EcoArt Wellness is constantly evolving, so today, Lanie and I get a chance to dive into what that looks like and what it could be in the future. We also had a chance to explore and tease out what it means to be creative, to be spiritual, and to be, well, human.   Lanie has a gift. She can take charged words like “Creativity,” a

  • Vicarious Resilience through Storytelling

    23/05/2018 Duración: 49min

    I had the deep joy of chatting with my friends Eva Tenuto and Hayley Downs to discuss the transformative power of sharing your story. I’m honored to share this episode with you. You may recall Eva, co-founder of the TMI Project, was a guest on our Where Storytelling Meets Activism episode on season one. I connect deeply with TMI Project's mission of “changing the world…one story at a time,” so much so, that I moonlight as a TMI Project workshop facilitator. Since 2012, twice a year, TMI Project has offered 10-week memoir writing and true storytelling workshops specially tailored to meet the needs of the (Mental Health Association in Ulster County, Inc).. A documentary about this partnership, entitled Vicarious Resilience, will be released on May 29, 2018 at The Rosendale Theatre in NY. This short documentary highlights the experience of three participants, Morris Bassik, Barbara Stemke and, our guest, Hayley Downs as they went through the workshop, from the first session to the

  • Understanding Gender Identity with Dara Hoffman-Fox

    16/05/2018 Duración: 57min

    Deep down, don’t we all want to be seen? How do we put into practice seeing each other?  My guest today is Dara Hoffman-Fox, LPC and Gender Therapist. Dara loves to talk about the invisible spaces, and no issue brings that to light better than the expression of gender identity.  I’ve been wanting this conversation with Dara to happen for such a long time. Dara’s doing inspiring work as a Non-Binary Gender Therapist specializing in gender questioning, Non-Binary, and Transgender individuals. Dara has really found a niche in their work and it is ever evolving. Dara is on a mission not just to educate other therapists about the specific and often alienating issues these individuals face, but also to inspire a community of people who are practicing inclusive language and attitudes in every aspect of life.   Dara offers beautiful language to understand our social biases towards binary gender. Yes, there are more than two forms of sexual identity, and there’s also a wide world of gender expression. Along the way

  • Impactful Mothers with Annie Schuessler

    09/05/2018 Duración: 52min

    I’m talking with Annie Schuessler, host of Therapist Clubhouse podcast, about how our motherhood journeys entwine with our work and how we impact our corners of the world. Annie helps private practice entrepreneurs build profitable and fulfilling businesses by leveraging their unique superpowers.  We’re discussing how we strive to stay present with our families, tend to and model self care, protect against burnout, find our rhythms, want to feel, craft our livelihoods, what we give energy to, and how we parent.  And we’re also opening up about our commitment as white mothers to biracial children: we’re listening more, witnessing more, sitting in spaces of not-knowing, pondering different flavors of discomfort, and above all staying engaged in the discussions about race and privilege. Bearing witness helps us discern where our voices are needed, when our voices distract, and notice how wisdom is being called forth. It’s a journey of discovering who we really are, and how we jazz things up when we remember to

  • Brave Worriers, Disarming Anxiety with Elizabeth Cush

    02/05/2018 Duración: 42min

    If you’re like many modern women, you’ve learned to swallow your needs. Maybe you don’t even know what you need. Maybe it oozes out of you sideways in the form of anxiety.  In this episode Elizabeth (Biz) Cush, MA, LCPC, joins me to explore our relationships with anxiety and discomfort and how to tune into what you need even when it’s buried below the surface. As a trauma therapist in Annapolis, MD, Biz incorporates mindfulness and meditation into her psychotherapy work, her blogs and its the theme of her Woman Worriers Podcast.  We explore what drives anxiety to show up so loudly. As women, we have a tendency to set aside our own needs in service of others. In doing so perhaps we bypass an opportunity to know who we truly are. Biz shares how mindfulness and body experiences play into healing. And why slowing down is a necessary step in rebuilding a relationship with your anxiety and regaining your power.   Dive in with us and journey from feeling lost or unseen to uncovering your wants, needs and desires

  • Shamanism and Self-leadership with Dr. Carmen Roman

    25/04/2018 Duración: 41min

    As we look into ourselves we seed the very transformations we desire to manifest in the world. So it’s worth noting, the deep work of healing our own wounds is often so ripe with potential to affect outward ripples of change. In this episode I’m talking with Dr. Carmen Roman a bilingual and bicultural psychotherapist with 25 years of experience working in both Mexico and in California. She combines both cultures and both worlds in the work and specializes in creative expression as a form of treatment for sexual abuse, trauma, and immigration related stress.    Carmen and I talk about the responsibility we all have to be present in the here and now. And how this responsibility, simply breaks down into: our ability to respond. This is self-leadership. This is liberation.  It’s integral that healers, caregivers and change-makers find and cultivate healing spaces for themselves. Too often, we struggle to allow ourselves the space to be held, to dive deeply into and liberate ourselves from the hard, murky, ugl

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