Date/able Podcast

Have you ever had a date where it felt like pulling teeth to have a conversation? Or a conflict with your partner where it felt like you were speaking different languages? Join us as we unravel the power of being a super communicator with Charles Duhigg, acclaimed author and expert on interpersonal dynamics. We discuss why communication is the key to chemistry and connection on dates, the three different conversations that can happen at the exact same time (without us even realizing), and techniques you can use to keep the conversation flowing on your dates, messages, and everything in between.Follow Charles @charlesduhigg and get his book 'Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection"Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple

The "S" word...the dirtiest word in dating. No one wants to settle. And we're 100% advocating that you never settle again. But all too often we focus on the wrong things when trying not to settle – and sometimes end up settling even more than we realize. We're discussing the ultimate settling paradox, the actual definition of settling, and the two things to do to make sure you never settle again.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma Health: Get 3 essential ingredients your gut needs at https://gobioma.com/DA

Who carries the weight in your relationship or early dates—the calendar, the check-ins, the emotional temperature checks? We're diving into the mental load that happens in modern relationship – and what brings you closer versus take on unnecessary hardship. We're discussing the difference between emotional support, labor and load, the behind-the-scenes effort that shows up even in early dating, and the shifts you can make so you're no longer the one carrying as many emotional burdens (that you may not even be aware of!)Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.This episode is sponsored by the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOy. If you want safer dating, download Hily from the App Sto

In the world of dating apps, it's easy to get caught up in the endless cycle of messaging without ever meeting in person. Join us as we explore the art of the ask-out – or hinting at an ask-out if you're reluctant to make the first move. We discuss how to make sure your conversation doesn't go into that dreaded messaging graveyard, the balance between being pursued and taking initiative, and why understanding the limitations of dating apps may actually change your perspective of why you may not be getting asked out as often as you'd like. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 202

Have you ever gotten that unwanted sexual message or pic on a dating app? You're certainly not alone, which is why we need to talk about digital sexual consent and what dating apps are doing about it. We're joined by Dr. Mindy DeSeta, a sexologist and advisor for the dating app Hily, to talk about the shocking types of messages that are sent without consent, what types of safeguards and precautions are being put in place to reduce unsolicited sexual behavior, and why consent actually can help heat up a connection on the apps when used intentionally.Follow Dr. Mindy DeSeta @drmindydeseta and check out: https://www.insight-miami.com/Download the dating app Hily: https://hily.go.link/kuZOyTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or

What's the difference between having standards and not being so picky that there's no one that's good enough to date? Join us as dive into a nuanced look of the fine line that allows you to meet people at your level – while also having an abundance mindset that many good people are out there. We discuss the most picky criteria we've ever heard, how to differentiate between genuine standards and superficial checklists, and how to still get the treatment and love you deserve while being open to the people you meet. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https

Do you ever feel like you are unconsciously seeking the unavailable type and you don't know how to break the pattern? We're chatting with Drea who had a history of dating emotionally unavailable partners about how she started dating differently – by recognizing the real red flags to look for and also taking accountability for her choices. We discuss ways you can actually abandon yourself when you settle for this type of relationship, the behavior you no longer stand for, and the on-going journey it takes to heal your past so you can have the future you want.Follow Drea at @thedrearenee and check out her podcast Hey Babe Can We TalkTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO

With so much focus on the early stages of dating, we're often so focused on the lies we've been told about falling in love that we miss the bigger picture. Join us as we decipher fantasy from reality as we explore the idea of finding the ideal type of partner and what it takes to build an actual relationship. We discuss why the whole concept of "finding love" is flawed to begin with, the difference between a growth mindset and a destiny mindset, and the shifts to make to find not a perfect partner, but the most perfect partner FOR YOU.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) i

Is the biggest change in 2025 in dating...the anger? It certainly feels like it! We're chatting with Jared and Jordana, the hosts of the U Up? podcast about the shifts they've noticed in dating over the last decade – and also the big changes in their own love lives. We're discussing the influences around dating that are adding to the negativity, what happens when you aren't where you thought you'd be by a certain age, and how coffee dates are back in for 2025 (you heard it here first).Follow Jared at @jaredfreid, Jordana @jordanaabraham and U Up? @u.up.podcast and check out their podcast U Up? wherever you get your podcastsTake the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW

Are mixed signals a sign of disinterest or just poor communication? We're diving into the confusing world of hot and cold behavior in dating – and what it really means. Join us as we explore why mixed signals might not mean what you think, how to address them directly, and why clarity is key in any relationship. Plus, we're sharing personal stories and insights on how to navigate these tricky situations and avoid unnecessary dating games. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "

We're told to be independent but not too independent...so what's the line between what helps us preserve our autonomy versus what keeps us out of partnership? We're diving into this topic that's near and dear to our hearts as two people who have built our own lives, boundaries and identities...yet still want to open ourselves up fully to another human being. We're being brutally honest about the areas that we struggle with vs what feels more like natural integration, signs of healthy independence, and how to strive for the sweet spot of interdependence with a partner.Are you a Maverick? Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuste

Date them til you hate them. Is this a brilliant strategy or a complete cop out? We're discussing the latest viral TikTok dating trend and why it may or may not help you move on from someone faster. Join us as we chat about why this actually prolongs pain for both parties involved the counter strategy that actually could help you decide if someone is right for you, and why TikTok should NOT be the place we're going for dating advice (unless you want to stay single forever). Plus we're responding to some feedback from last week's episode related to Monogamy not being dead. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEA

What happens when you want to shift the way you date completely? You come up with a plan that's so counter to the way we date today that it may be construed as controversial to some (true story!). We're joined with our guest Raymond who is sharing his new dating plan – and why he got to the place of making one in the first place. We're discussing how to outline a more defined, intentional approach that will either be a game-changing way to date (or at a minimum, a daring experiment), the difference between having a vision of the way you want to date versus being rigid to dating rules, and how to use your own patterns and past experiences to craft the right type of dating plan for you. Plus, join us first for a bit of Julie's wedding weekend recap. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to ou

It may feel like everyone is looking for something casual or non-committal but the reality is that there are people looking for exactly what you are. We're diving into why it's a myth that no one wants monogamous relationships anymore and how you can stay true to your own needs/ desires, sift out the people who are not on the same page, and focus on the ones who are. We discuss how to shift out of the 'there's no one good out there' mentality, where to find like-minded people, and how to get clear about what you really want to manifest it.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan

What happens when you can't seem to find any good people to date? Your app dates are blah and it feels like you just aren't meeting the right people IRL. We're talking to Cassidy Davis, the creator of Chaotic Singles Party, of how she went from tragically single (her words!) to meeting her finance by taking matters into her own hands by inviting 65 guys off Tinder for a house party – and then making these into recurring events. We're discussing how we can all live by the 'if you make it, they will come' mentality (even if you don't want to do something exactly like this), ways to actually connect at in-person events, and why it's a good thing to be a little chaotic in your love life. Learn more about Cassidy and Chaotic Singles party follow @chaoticsinglesparty and visit https://chaoticsinglesparty.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick an

It's hard not to take dating personally. But the reality is that most people WON'T be matches – and if they don't text back, don't want to go on another date, or don't want to enter a serious committed relationship, most times it has nothing to do with you. So join us in this #brunchtalk to discuss why can shift our mindset to approach dating with a lighter heart, the spectrum of taking accountability for personal growth versus viewing everything as a reflection of yourself, and how to use "it's not you, it's them" as a way to lead to more authentic connections. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW T

How do you choose a partner that's a good match for you? We're joined with Eli Finkel, social psychologist and the Director of the Relationship & Motivation Lab at Northwestern University to debunk what matters and what doesn't when it comes to compatibility in relationships. We're discussing why initial shared interests and similar personalities might not be the strongest predictors of long-term satisfaction, the importance of the Michelangelo Effect, and how compatibility can be built even in the early stages of dating. Learn more about Eli Finkel and check out his podcast 'Love Factually" with Paul Eastwick and his book 'The All Or Nothing Marriage": https://elifinkel.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podc

Yup, you heard us right. You don't need to be good at dating – at least the way we're dating today. We're back for all new brunch talk to dive into why after 10 years of doing a dating podcast, we believe that we're actually doing more that fosters disconnection than actual connection in today's dating world. Sure you can't be an utter train wreck, but we're talking about why some of the most common dating strategies fail, the three skills you don't actually need to build, and quick tweaks that instantly get you better results – and real connections. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (S

We're back for SEASON 21 and we're reporting on the next biggest shift in dating, that takes dating intentionally one step further – and also removes the challenges that more 'purpose-driven' dating has caused in the last couple of years. So it's time to wake the f up as we shift into a world of conscious dating that in turn lead to relationships that have a level of depth and connection beyond our wildest dreams. We're discussing the core differences with dating intentionally, how to align your relationships with your highest self, and what it means to be in a conscious relationship (even if you're single AF today). Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! H

Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the perception of interest in dating, how to move forward if someone shares this type of feedback with you, and ways that you can evaluate your own approach to dating based on how you evaluate interest levels.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/ A big thank you to our sponsor Saily by NordVPN: "