Chantal Heide - Canada's Dating Coach

She came in convinced that body count matters. "There has to be accountability!" she said, arguing that a high body count is a red flag. She had studies, she had points—but when we really unpacked it, something shifted. By the end of our conversation, she realized that body count mentality is more about insecurity and control than actual compatibility. So… does body count really matter? Or are we just asking the wrong question? Let’s talk about it.

I had an insightful conversation with [guest's name], a guy who’s practicing my No Kissing for 3 Months rule and the Zero-Fight Relationship approach. He shared how he’s been able to set these boundaries without facing pushback from the people around him. But here’s the interesting part—when women enforce the same boundaries, they often get questioned, criticized, or even pressured to change them. In this video, I unpack why this happens and how it reveals a deeper privilege men have in dating when it comes to setting standards. I appreciate hearing his perspective, and I also share what this means for women who want to date with intention.  

What started as a simple book recommendation request on my TikTok Live turned into a coaching session. A woman asked for a book suggestion, but when I dug deeper, she revealed she was stuck in a toxic relationship. She felt in too deep to leave, but together, we explored why she was staying, how she could break free, and what steps she could take next. I shared my top book recommendations, including Fake Love Need Not Apply (a free book) and No More Assholes, to help her identify red flags and build a healthier future if she chooses to date again. And the best part? My online community showed up for her in the comments, offering support and encouragement. Listen in for valuable insights on leaving toxic relationships, rebuilding self-worth, and choosing better for yourself. If you or someone you know needs this, this episode is for you.

Does our biology determine our morality? In this heated debate, Diyo brings science to challenge a woman's belief that nature dictates right and wrong.   We explore how societal constructs influence our views on morality, body count, and gender norms while examining the tension between logic, emotion, and cultural indoctrination

Discover why so many men today feel disconnected and how it affects their well-being.   Our guest, Beau Pinto, shares observations from talking with countless single men in bars, noting how they seek companionship, face stigma around intimacy, and struggle to form genuine friendships.   Learn how men can build stronger bonds, find confidence in relationships, and overcome loneliness in a culture that often leaves them isolated.

Diyo returns to the panel to share thoughts on how fear can be used as a control tactic and why exploring different viewpoints matters. We discuss body count myths, the impact of manifestation, and insights from psychology and anthropology. Diyo also compares human self-awareness with animal behavior, challenging the idea that only humans experience reflective thinking.   Throughout the conversation, he encourages curiosity, questions fear-driven narratives, and highlights the mind’s role in shaping personal growth.    

In this segment of my Ask Chantal live on TikTok, I’m joined by Therese, Diane, and Diyo (a psychologist expert) to dive into a discussion about the historical roles of women as leaders, hunters, and community builders. We debunk the long-standing myth of male dominance in hunting and leadership, explore how women have always been more than just their bodies or domestic roles, and address modern issues like the fixation on 'body count'—unpacking how it often ties to insecurity and self-esteem. Tune in for an empowering and insightful conversation!

  In this episode, I invited Kristen Thomas, a Clinical Sex Therapist and Relationship Coach, to discuss the recent cheating scandal involving David Grohl, the frontman of Foo Fighters, who was considered a faithful husband for 20 years until revelations surfaced about him having a child with another woman. We dive into the statistics surrounding boredom and cheating in long-term relationships, exploring how men and women experience these issues differently. Christine shares insights on how intimacy plays a crucial role in maintaining a healthy relationship over time and preventing disconnection. Tune in as we unpack the complexities of infidelity, the dynamics of long-term relationships, and practical ways to keep intimacy alive.

In this episode, I sit down with Veronica Wang, a popular Mukbang YouTuber, to dive into her journey with relationships, fear of intimacy, and how past experiences have shaped her approach to dating.   We explore how kissing and sex can create emotional bonds that sometimes lead to toxic relationships and share strategies on how to protect yourself from falling for the wrong person. Join us as we discuss overcoming fears, setting healthy boundaries, and finding the right partner.  

In this episode, I talk to a couple who grew up in a Christian background and were indoctrinated to believe that exploring their bodies before marriage was wrong.   These beliefs shaped their views on sexuality and impacted their relationship. They also held strong gender role beliefs, which led to further challenges in their partnership. The couple shares their journey of deconstructing these long-held beliefs and how they've rebuilt their relationship, emerging as a stronger, more connected couple today.  

In this episode, I chat with a guest who joined my TikTok live and asked if my dating and relationship rules are based on traditional views.   We discuss how these rules are rooted in logic and the importance of taking control of our own actions and choices. Whether you’re navigating the dating scene or in a relationship, this conversation sheds light on why it’s crucial to set standards that are practical and self-empowering rather than relying on outdated norms. Tune in for a fresh perspective on relationships that’s all about self-awareness and logic.

In this episode, I chatted with a woman who joined me on my TikTok Live and shared her inspiring journey of breaking free from an abusive relationship. After following my content for a while, she found the strength to leave her toxic ex. Now, she’s ready to take the next steps and wonders how she can prepare herself for a healthy and fulfilling dating experience. We discuss key insights and actionable tips to help anyone who’s been through a tough breakup get ready to re-enter the dating world with confidence and clarity.

    In this short podcast episode, I am joined by a special guest who shared her powerful story during a TikTok live session. She opens up about how she was brainwashed into believing she should preserve her body solely for her future husband, a notion that stripped away her autonomy and self-worth. Together, we delve into her journey of realization and empowerment as she breaks free from these limiting beliefs and reclaims her body and voice. Join us for a conversation about autonomy, self-discovery, and the importance of owning your narrative.

In this episode, we tackle a recurring and heated topic: the unsolicited opinions of some guys about women's autonomy over our bodies.   Join us as we discuss a recent live session where a male participant insisted that women should be held accountable for their body count. We delve into the underlying issues of control, insecurity, and double standards that fuel such arguments. Our conversation highlights the importance of bodily autonomy, the right to make personal choices without judgment, and the necessity of rejecting outdated, oppressive views.   Tune in to hear empowering responses and insightful discussions on maintaining our self-worth and dignity in the face of criticism.

In this episode, I talk to a member of the LGBTQ+ community who joined my TikTok live to discuss some of my most popular dating strategies. We dive into their curiosity about the "No Kissing for 3 Months" rule, explore the concept of a "No Fight" relationship, and debunk the myth that body count matters. I also share how my dating strategies are designed to be inclusive and effective for all genders. Tune in for an engaging conversation that challenges traditional dating norms and offers fresh perspectives for everyone.

A guy joined my TikTok live and kept yapping about why body count matters. He tried to change my mind, but I stood firm, explaining how women have autonomy over our own bodies and shouldn't be controlled by societal indoctrination or his insecurities.   Tune in as I challenge his views and advocate for women's empowerment and freedom.   This is a conversation you don't want to miss!