Pirate Monk Podcast

On this episode: Nate enjoys Amelia Island with his grandkids. Aaron has an indefinite future. Our Guest: Mo Isom is an athlete, author, speaker, home coming queen, and LSU grad. She discusses growing up in a home with a sex addict. Childhood exposure to p*rn that started a 10 year addiction. How much can I get away with and not go to hell?. Healthy Sexual Conversation for Women and Families. Links: Books, contact, speaking, other resources   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, p

On this episode: Nate inquires about Aaron’s home repair updates. Aaron preaches about fake fruit. Our Guest: Jason George: minister, podcaster, life coach, husband, and dad. Jason shares his story of growing up in a broken family including abuse, being raised by siblings, early p*rn exposure and addiction. He also discusses being kinda Christian. Even believers can fall back into sin. Healing takes community. Learning good healthy pleasure and replacement. It's important to replace, not just stop doing an unhealthy thing. I’m one step away from stupid. Links: The Griz Podcast, Narrow Trail   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsocie

On this episode: Nate confesses his love for WhataBurger, and Aaron fills his jugs at his neighbors house. Our Guest: Joe Ryan. Podcaster, coach, Italian and Irish, New Yorker, former bartender and comedian. Sober from drugs and alcohol. Joe hosts a podcast: Its Not You, Its Your Trauma. Owning your actions and apologizing. Having Compassion for yourself. Links: Joe Ryan: Podcast, Youtube, Instagram, Contact, Coaching Book: The Body Keeps the Score   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podca

On this episode: Aaron is getting his home repaired. Nate holds Aaron accountable for going to England on The Path Retreat. Nate invites you to go on the Path Retreat too (deadline for signup Mar 31, 2023). Our Guest: Brody Holloway, co-founder and lead pastor of Snowbird Wilderness Outfitters in Andrews, NC. Adrenaline and fear break down walls. Shared experiences are critical for leading and investing in others. Sin management versus holiness. To live in Jesus is to live in the purity effect. Links: Snowbird Outfitters Book: Life Together by: Dietrich Bonhoeffer   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk P

On this episode: Nate is home, energized, and has internet. Aaron announces all the announcements. Our Guest: Wendell Moss: therapist, minister, educator, and speaker. There is not always a side to take - just listen. Sometimes the response to abuse is more abusive than the abuse itself. My feast will never fulfill you. Upcoming Events: 48 hours of Frankness (Illinois), Walking The Path in England (June 11-17, 2023) Links: Wendell at the Seattle School of Theology & Psychology, Wendell at the Allender Center   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Sa

On this episode: Aaron and Justin answer a listener's letter and offer support. Nate has junk internet in Florida. ***Silas training April 15, 2023. Look for more info soon.*** Our Guest: Robert Bruce Angle III, president & CEO, counselor, minister, achiever, striver, @$$hole, type A and enneagram 8. Former director and expert of small groups. We commonly experience love to the degree we can trust. Love: giving and receiving of needs being met. What love does: sees, soothes, is safe, is secure. Protecting weaknesses and supporting strengths. Relationship with God is not about doing. I am not useful to God, but I am delightful. God has designed us to grow through the context of relationships. Three steps in building relationships. Ask the next question, and the one behind that one too. Links: Contact, books, and other resources Our guest this week was booked via The Expert Bookers www.expertbookers.com. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestion

On this episode: Aaron tells an embarrassing story of his maturity. Justin takes his kids to the park. Our Guest: Duane Osterlind, therapist, podcaster, and husband. Duane brings many years of personal and professional experience to the addiction recovery community. When listening to others, the reply is never: “its worse for someone else”. Compassion for the human. We heal through the eyes of others; we need others to see us and lets us know its ok. You can be confused and have hope. The world needs the compassionate and the @$$holes. Links: Contact and podcast   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podca

On this episode: Nate and Aaron discuss the truths behind the 1985 book: Amusing Ourselves to Death. Our guest: Sathiya Sam, coach, author, podcaster, preacher’s kid. “If you are unaware, you cannot repair.” There’s no faith without unbelief. Knowledge is potential; knowledge with action is where real power comes from. He who is most vulnerable, heals the quickest. Learning to articulate your inner life. Prevention: confess a temptation before needing to confess a mistake. Community doesn’t bring change, it sustains it. Links: The Last Relapse Book Unleash The Man Within Podcast: Podbean, Apple   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahs

On this episode: Our THREE hosts: Erin, Nate, and Aaron. Erin takes a break from a road trip. Nate has a prophecy. Aaron gets butt dials. Our guest: Jean Masukevich, mom, yogi, spiritual director, trauma informed. Topics: Enjoy a guided relaxation exercise and meditation. Learning to connect the body to the mind. Listening to your body and responding with love. “What are you running from, and what are you running toward?” Links: Sow That, email   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts,

On this episode:  Nate and Aaron discuss God’s will. Our Guest: Michael Basta, clinical social worker, certified Gottman method couples' therapist. Michael conveys hope for relationships, using science. History can predict the future of the relationship, but it is not set in stone. We can change the future, despite past wounds and trauma. The Four Horseman of the apocalypse, and the nine factors of relationship success. Forming a culture of appreciation. Links: Michael Basta The Gottman Institute Books: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work What Makes Love Last?   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Mo

On this episode: McCreary’s follows Nate around. Aaron watches Hallmark movies. Our guest: Dr. Quincee Gideon, clinical psychologist. Topics discussed: Loading the language: creating language inside a group that separates and excludes. Being safe within yourself. Religious trauma, denial of human experience. Stepping into a larger life that isn’t filtered, or second guessed, is grander, is at peace, and is safer. Feeling generally safe within your body, relationships, and environment. Sharing specifics with the correct audience. Contact info: https://www.quinceegideon.com/, tiktok, instagram   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsoci

On this episode: Nate prepared for the greatest thanksgiving dinner of his life. Aaron loses 12 pounds. Our Guest: Marnie C. Ferree, recovering addict, director of Bethesda Workshop, therapist (CSAT, IITAP). Topics include: Reframing hope. Expertise, in helping others, from experience. It's never a bad thing to re-up with God. “Despite all the pain, anger, grief, I’m living my best life.” The importance of support systems. Women in sexual recovery (too). Bethesda Workshops, resources, and contact: Marnie C. Ferree   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of S

On this episode:   Nate has a full house.  Aaron shares expertise on Autobots and Decepticons. Our Guest: Dr. Juli Slattery, clinical psychologist, mom, wife, author, follower of Christ.  God puts the resources in place when we follow His calling. God has given husbands and wives unique areas of power, and they are based on needs and desires. None of this is control, it is power; Influence, not control. The zone of power is understanding your spouse's needs. Hardness of heart will kill marriage and relationship with the Lord. The 4 pillars of a healthy marriage: faithfulness, intimate knowing, sacrificial giving, passionate celebration. There is always hope; God loves to breathe life into dead things. Books, resources, and contact: Dr. Juli Slattery Other Resources: Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast

On this episode: Nate and Aaron talk about their favorite kitchen gadgets and go-to meals. Our Guest: Author, Relationship Counselor, Speaker, Teacher Topics include: Listening is loving, hearing vs. listening, Emotional safety, evaluating trust. Listening: creating intimacy in a relationship. Learning what emotional intimacy looks like. What does it feel like to be connected? Intimacy specifics for males and females. Reflecting on what you are saying no to when you say yes to something else. Books: Emotional Safety: Honoring Yourself While Creating Trust and Presence to Experience Meaningful Relationships 40 Forms of Intimacy: Integrating Daily Connection Into Your Couple Relationship Three Thoughts Couple Devotional: Engaging the Power of Our Minds and Hearts to Cultivate a Lifestyle of Intimacy If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contribu

On this episode: Nate cleans before the house cleaner arrives. Aaron knew a fella. Our Guest: Andrew Susskind, clinical social worker, therapist, author, podcaster, and blogger. Discussion includes: not just sobriety, finding life. Reclaiming childhood longings. “Social media is basically lite porn,” or other ways we escape. Sexual blueprint, sexual health and sexual discussion. More connection and less shame. The masculinity of yearning. Book: Its Not About the Sex: Moving from Isolation to Intimacy after Sexual Addiction Andrew Susskind’s: contact, podcast, blog, practice.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pira

On this episode: Nate is concerned about getting his @ss kicked. Aaron draws conclusions with Disney’s Pocahontas. Encouraged by the relapses of the saints. When and what qualifies you in ministry with returning guest Tullian Tchividjian. “If we aren’t attracting the same people as Jesus attracted, we aren’t preaching the same message Jesus preached.” The Sanctuary Church, Jupiter, FL Fallen and Free Conference Feb. 17-19, 2023   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider

On this episode: Aaron interrogates Nate. Nate sings a very heartfelt song. The guys talk to guest Andrew Bauman, speaker, therapist, writer, and author. “The owning of your *ssholeness doesn’t lead to toxic shame. It leads to humility not humiliation.” How to define narcissism. Addressing couples work AFTER a lengthy period of sobriety. Andrew J. Bauman Book: How Not to Be an *ss: Essays on Becoming a Good & Safe Man Film: A Brave Lament Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 5

On this episode: Nate feels gratitude. Aaron remembers a super cool smoking trick learned during Shakespearean acting classes. The guys have a deep discussion with George Bitar about healthy couples' communication despite traumatic backgrounds. Learning to discuss disconnection cues and trigger moments in emotionally focused couples therapy work. How to repair and reconnect. Feeling delight and joy in the relationship. Tapping into emotions to point to our needs and values. Providing hope for healing and growth emotionally. https://connectcouplestherapy.com/ Books: Hold Me Tight The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work Other Resources: https://www.thisamericanlife.org/261/the-sanctity-of-marriage/act-one-1 https://connectcouplestherapy.com/are-you-a-pursuer-withdrawer-or-a-bit-of-both/ http://carolinaeft.com/pdf/Where_Does_Love_Go_Wrong.pdf https://www.gottman.com/blog/what-is-the-sound-relationship-house/     If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or s

On this episode: Aaron caps that. Nate shops amazon. The guys interview Chris Bruno, counselor and author of Sage: A Man's Guide into His Second Passage and Man Maker Project: Boys are Born. Men are Made. Nate shares his experiences from the Italian Samson retreat. “The task of the second passage, is to find the boy within the man, and bring him home.” “When we are hijacked in this phallic state, we are not looking for sex, we are looking for connection.” “The more we dissociate, the more it’s a flight from the goodness of God.” "It's not because the sage knows all the answers to all of the things. The sage is not a sage because he has good advice."    To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contribut

You can join us for the Virtual Samson Retreat with Roane, Eva and Roe Hunter on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022 to sign up. Q&A How did Jason Gray get chosen as the musical guest? Any worries about losing the mission of the Samson Society with the scope of ministry expanding? Can we have some focus for single guys at the next retreat? What alternate format meetings have you seen that have been successful? How do you handle a situation where someone abuses your trust or vulnerability within Samson? How can I cast a vision for a Samson group for guys who are not necessarily dealing with sexual brokenness? Is there a place or need for a "group conscience meeting" in the context of Samson? How can I discern when it's time to make a change in my recovery plan? Is there a place for women who need something like Samson Society? Are there materials available for how to be a Silas? Where can fathers whose children also deal with addiction connect