Pirate Monk Podcast

"Porn is like the junk food of healthy sex and relationships." Aaron and Rob interview Ian Henderson, founder of the Naked Truth Project. about how he got involved in this work of opening eyes and freeing lives from the damages of porn. While Naked Truth is based in Manchester, UK, they work with people all over the world.  The "open eyes" aspect focuses on education to combat the normalization of porn by presenting in schools and elsewhere to raise awareness of the dangers of porn.  The "freeing lives" portion focuses on those who have already been trapped in addiction, and also help for their partners.  The work goes well beyond just stopping the behavior, moving individuals to healthy growth and reclaiming what was lost.   To sign up for the Virtual Samson Retreat on Dec 8-9, 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-virtual-retreat-dec-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a no

Nate and Aaron interview Andrea Ashley, host of the Adult Child podcast, about the trauma of growing up in a dysfunctional alcoholic family, the maladaptive coping mechanisms she chose, such as alcohol and unhealthy dating relationships, and her path to recovery.    If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

Nate and Aaron interview Juris S, author of Happy, Joyous and Free: One Man's Journey and Guide to Ultimate Spiritual Health.  Topics include: bullying, alcoholism, and integration of faith and recovery.   For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a ministry of Samson House, a 501(c)3 nonprofit. To enjoy future Pirate Monk podcasts, please consider a contribution to Samson House.

"I want to empower my partner to show up freely, not disempower her by withholding data that might affect the choices she makes and how she shows up." "If you don't have a shared understanding of the past, you cannot have a shared trajectory for the future." "The human brain is wired so that even a perceived threat to a primary attachment relationship registers as a survival issue." We welcome Jake Porter of Daring Ventures to the show.  Topics include: secondary addictions, couple-centered recovery, the importance of attachment, and power imbalance in the relationship. (jake@daringventures.com)   For more information and registration for the International Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for fu

We welcome back a great friend of the show, Michael Cusick to talk about trauma, whether addiction exists, and attachment in all areas of life.  You can also check out more about Michael's Restoring The Soul Weekend Intensive.   For more information and registration for the International Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com. The Pirate Monk Podcast is provided by Samson Society, a

"You cannot become masculine until it's given to you." Aaron and Justin have a fun conversation with Roe Hunter, therapist and son of previous guest, Roane Hunter (Episode 330).  We get to hear the other side of the story as they discuss topics like forgiveness and repair, family recovery, the critical nature of brotherhood, and the transition to manhood.  (Note: the episode that Aaron referenced with Scott Dente is actually Episode 115.) For more on Roe's practice, visit https://lifeworks.ms/roe-hunter-lpc-csat For more information and registration for the International Retreat in Italy, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat in Eva TN, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   Th

Nate and Aaron have a fascinating conversation on topics of Story, Attachment, and Attunement with Adam Young, therapist and host of "The Place We Find Ourselves" podcast. For more information and registration for the International Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"We have this work to do with God around our stories, around our hurt and our pain...Every person is in the pain management business whether they know it or not...If I don't have a relationship and walk with God where I can process that hurt and pain in a healthy way - an appropriate, truthful, redemptive, kingdom way - then I process my pain in unhealthy ways...We learned to use sex as a primary pain management tool of our life...using sex to seek emotional equilibrium." Nate and Aaron drop some big news about a couple of exciting happenings within the Samson House community that you won't want to miss. Then they welcome guest Tony Ingrassia of The Power of Purity ministry, who shares his story of the practical importance of the gospel in community.   For more information and registration for the International Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfo

"We want to Re-Solution people with Biblically-based, research-informed answers to their  hurts and struggles." The guys open the show with a great discussion about the importance of knowing and sharing our stories in community. Then guest Ben Bennett shares his story of faith, multiple addictions and the solutions that he has found.  You can learn more about Ben and his ministry at resolutionmovement.org.   For more information and registration for the International Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit 

"We're shoving more knowledge into our heads and we're becoming more and more stupid. There's just no inner wisdom." Nate, Chris and Aaron have a great visit with guest Eli Machen, one of the pioneers in sex addiction recovery, as they discuss sobriety and its role in recovery, understanding the truths we already know, and how to rebuild trust in relationship. You can access Eli's videos on the Show Up 365 channel on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/Showup365.   For more information and registration for the International Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022 For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Soci

"I don't know of a more discombobulating, imprisoning power on the earth than shame. To me, shame is personalized demonization." "Here's the good news: When you really get the proper diagnosis, Grace becomes all the sweeter. You're never going to shock the Father. You may know 4% of your sin - He's taken on the other 96% as well." We've got another Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin on the topic of emotional triggers, followed by an interview with a man who played a key role in the founding of the Samson Society - Scotty Smith.  Nate and Scotty have a great conversation about Shame, Grace, and Healing. You can connect with Scotty at https://twitter.com/scottywardsmith and https://www.thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/scotty-smith/. For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future gue

We start the episode with a Pirate Monk roundtable with Nate, Chris, Rob and Justin going deep quickly using a couple of probing questions. Then Nate interviews singer/songwriter Jason Gray about his story of vulnerability through his speech handicap, divorce, and the importance of our language.  Stay tuned at the end as Jason shares a couple of challenging songs with us.  Jason will be joining us in person at the Annual Retreat in Eva TN on November 5-7, 2022.  For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available

"The antidote for shame is chronic exposure to love and acceptance."  "I get under emotional distress and I want to go back to the maladaptive coping behavior that I learned early on that works for me. And it's the emotional distress and the emotional dysregulation that we've got to begin to work with." - Roane Hunter Nate and Aaron speak with Roane Hunter, CSAT and co-author of Sex, God & the Chaos of Betrayal about a range of topics, including Roane's preferred term for addiction: "distress reduction behavior".  Roane, along with his wife Eva and son Roe, who are also both CSATs, will be the featured speakers at our Annual Retreat in Eva TN on November 5-7, 2022.  For more on the Hunter's practice, visit https://lifeworks.ms/roane-eva-hunter For more information and registration for the Annual Retreat, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-national-retreat-2022.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future gue

"You can say, 'I look at porn 20 times a day', but that is inconsequential to me...The big question is 'Why?'" "You better damn well trust that therapist that you're sitting across from...You've got to feel safe to investigate shame." "In the context of relationships, we're all responsible to get our own needs met. That doesn't mean we go meet our own needs - we've seen how destructive that can be - but we do have to learn how to ask for those needs to be met." Kaka Ray returns to the podcast to discuss the importance of growing up your brain - it doesn't just happen but must be intentional. You can find out more about Kaka's practice at tnnfb.com. For more information on the International Retreat in October 2022, please visit https://samsonhouse.regfox.com/samson-society-international-retreat-italy-2022-wknd1.   If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this pod

Nate is away, so Aaron spends an hour with Burlap to Cashmere's Steven Delopoulos talking about his story growing up in NY and NJ in a very Greek family, the nature of God, songwriting, storytelling, and his latest passion project related to Simon & Garfunkel.  For more about Steven, visit his website. If you have thoughts or questions that you'd like the guys to address in upcoming episodes or suggestions for future guests, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

In today's episode, Eddie Capparucci returns to talk with Nate about his most recent book, Why Men Struggle to Love. They discuss some of the relational blindspots that many men have in making connection. For more on Dr. Capparucci, please visit Abundant Life Counseling-Coaching. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

“Open men's hearts, heal the pain, and change the world.” In a world filled with talk of toxic masculinity, author and speaker Dan Griffin (dangriffin.com) talks to the guys today about what he calls "Conscious Masculinity" - where men make enlightened choices to pursue what it means to truly connect with the full spectrum of what it means to be a man. If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"There aren't a lot of safe places in our world.  There aren't a lot of places where people can come and say whatever they want to say and be loved." - Chris Inman In this episode, Aaron catches up with recovery coach Chris Inman to explore the benefits of doing the work to discover our own story and share it with safe people.  Chris shares how he has experienced the importance of uncovering his own story and is now committed to helping others discover it for themselves. If you'd like to talk with Chris further, you can reach him at chris@np-recovery.com.  If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

Today, we talk with Daniel Wiens, who has been the key person driving the growth of Samson Society in Italy about his story before getting into details of the International Samson Retreat October 7-9, 2022 in central Italy.    If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.

"When you confess your sin, you're not going to get stoned to death." Building on our recent discussions with churches that really get recovery, today we talk with John Elmore about the re:generation recovery ministry which began at Watermark Community Church in Dallas TX.   If you have feedback for the podcast, please drop a note to piratemonkpodcast@gmail.com.   The music on this podcast is contributed by members of the Samson Society. For more information on this ministry, please visit samsonsociety.com.  Support for the women in our lives who have been impacted by our choices is available at sarahsociety.com.