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PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen and I explore the profound concept of "oneness," touching on its dimensions of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy. We discuss how oneness is essential in relationships with family, spouses, and God, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and mutual understanding. We highlight the very real challenges and rewards of pursuing true oneness; it isn’t like flipping a switch and you will automatically achieve oneness. Oneness is a journey of growth and self-discovery. We invite you to reflect on your own relationships and seek deeper connections in your life. It’s a mission worth the journey.To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of the concept of "oneness" and its complexities.Discussion of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy.The significance of persona

In this episode, our guests are Johnny and Emily Spigelmire and they share their profound journey through Johnny's sex addiction and its impact on their marriage. Johnny opens up about his early exposure to pornography, his secret struggles, and the eventual escalation to extramarital affairs. Emily shares her perspective, detailing the confusion and pain she experienced, as well as her unwavering faith in their marriage’s potential for healing. Together, they discuss their path to recovery, the importance of honesty, and their mission to help others through their podcast, "Beyond Broken Vows." Their story is a powerful testament to redemption and hope.If you are in a marriage that has experienced infidelity or other kinds of sexual betrayal, this episode will help you discover hope and insights for healing and restoration.For more information about Johnny and Emily and their ministry, visit BeyondBrokenVows.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: The impact of early exposure to pornography on persona

In this episode, I chat with Bret Marshall about his incredible journey of faith and personal transformation. Bret opens up about his struggles with emotional expression and sexual sin, and how these challenges impacted his relationships, especially with his wife, Tena. He shares the pivotal moments that led to his healing, including a transformative intensive experience through a past partnership between Be Broken and the Navigators ministry organization. Bret highlights the ABC’s of emotional health: Acceptance, Belonging, and Connection.Bret also emphasizes the need for personal vulnerability, authentic connections, and creating safe spaces for men to share their full stories. His own story is an incredible reminder of the transformative power of God’s presence in our lives.Learn more about Bret on his YouTube channel: @whylivetoday. Topics Covered in this Episode:Bret Marshall's journey of faith and personal transformation.The significance of being known and sharing personal stories.Challenges faced i

In this episode, I am thrilled to welcome Dr. Steve Call, a clinical psychologist and co-author with Dr. Dan Allender of The Deep Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight*. We dive into the book's themes, focusing on how past traumas influence present marital conflicts and how to grow in emotional understanding and intimacy. Dr. Call shares his personal marriage journey, emphasizing the importance of awareness and curiosity in relationships. We discuss practical steps for couples to cultivate awareness, the role of play in healing, and strategies for managing triggers. Dr. Call offers hope and resources for couples to nourish their relationships.To learn more about Dr. Call’s resources and to get the book, visit TheReconnectInstitute.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of the book "The Deep Rooted Marriage: Cultivating Intimacy, Healing, and Delight.*"Exploration of how past experiences and traumas influence current marital conflicts.Importance of cultivating awarene

In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the emotional impact of failure. We both express how deeply we hate failing, describing how it triggers feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame. We explore the importance of reframing failure, emphasizing that God's love still remains constant despite our setbacks. His grace abounds! We suggest that solitude can be a sanctuary for self-reflection and growth, encouraging you to create a “holy space” for healing. We ultimately want to offer you a compassionate perspective on failure, encouraging gentleness toward yourself and confidence in the transformative power of God's unwavering love. We start the episode by saying, “I hate failing.” We end it with, “But God likes me and so do I.” For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:The emotional impact of failure on individuals.Feelings of rejection, isolation, and shame associated with failure.The cycle of shame and loneliness stemming from failure.The

In this episode, we dive into the dynamics of "loners" and "connectors" in relationships. Everyone falls into one of these categories. As we explore this topic, my friend and co-host Stephen Cervantes discusses how loners tend to be independent and process internally, while connectors thrive on dialogue and emotional exchange. We examine how these differences impact communication and emotional connection, particularly in marriages. We share insights on personal growth, emphasizing the importance of understanding and appreciating each other's communication styles; we aren’t out to change a loner into a connector or vice versa. We give lots of personal anecdotes and practical advice, aiming to help you navigate these differences to foster deeper connections and build stronger, more fulfilling relationships.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. To read the Thought on Loners and Connectors, go to DoctorMarriage.org/loners-and-connectors.Topics Covered in this Episode:Disti

In this episode, we invite back our friends and counselors, Matthew and Joanna Raabsmith, to talk about the crucial role of boundaries in restoring marriages after betrayal, particularly sexual infidelity. Matthew shares insights from the perspective of the betraying spouse, emphasizing self-reflection and accountability, while Joanna offers guidance for the betrayed spouse on navigating emotions and setting personal boundaries. We delve into defining boundaries as supportive frameworks rather than punishing limitations, avoiding misuse of boundaries for control, and harmonizing them to foster safety and mutual respect. The Raabsmiths highlight the importance of individual responsibility and how boundaries can create a safe space for healing and rebuilding trust.To download the Raabsmith’s free Honest Connection Guide, visit RenewingUs.com/puresexradio. Click here for the Raabsmith's full biosTopics Covered in this Episode:Importance of boundaries in marriage restoration after betrayalDefinition and posit

In this episode, I chat with author and blogger Sarah Matzke, who bravely shares her journey through struggles with body image, an eating disorder, and marital challenges, including infidelity. Sarah opens up about her upbringing, the pressures she faced, and the lies she believed about her worth. She recounts the painful yet transformative process of rebuilding trust with her husband, JP, and how her faith in Christ played a crucial role in their healing. Sarah's story is a powerful testament to the importance of vulnerability, honesty, and the grace of God in overcoming life's toughest obstacles. To learn more about Sarah and get a copy of her book, visit SarahJeanMatzke.com.Topics Covered in the Episode:Personal struggles with body image and eating disordersImpact of societal pressures and familial expectations on self-worthChallenges faced in marriage, including infidelityThe process of rebuilding trust after betrayalImportance of open communication and transparency in relationshipsRole of faith a

In this episode, I have back on the program Carl Thomas to dig into the recovery journey from pornography and sexual addiction. Carl shares his personal story and emphasizes the importance of community and addressing mental and emotional health. We discuss how recovery goes beyond just stopping harmful behaviors or behavioral sobriety and involves understanding and healing deeper emotional wounds. Carl highlights the stigma around mental health and the need for a holistic approach to recovery. He also provides resources for those seeking support. This episode aims to offer hope and guidance to anyone navigating similar challenges or interested in the recovery process.To learn more about Carl and the Live Free Ministries resources, visit LiveFreeCommunity.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Recovery from pornography and sexual addictionImportance of community in the recovery processPersonal journey and background of the speakerHolistic approach to mental and emotional health in recoveryAddressing underlying emo

In this episode, I sit down with Melissa Macomber to explore the emotional and psychological impact of parental infidelity on adult children. Melissa shares her personal story of discovering her mother's affair at 13 and the ensuing family dynamics. Now, as a therapist, she highlights the lack of resources for adult children dealing with such betrayal and emphasizes the importance of addressing trust issues and healing – no matter how long it has been since the parental infidelity took place. We discuss the broader implications of infidelity on family relationships and the unique challenges faced by children at all stages of growing up. Melissa offers valuable insights and resources for those navigating this difficult journey.To learn more about Melissa and her research, visit MelissaMacomber.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional and psychological impact of parental infidelity on adult childrenPersonal experiences of discovering a parent's affairFamily dynamics and their evolution post-infideli

Today we have back with us Dr. Jennifer Degler, a renowned specialist in sexual health, and we delve into the often-overlooked issue of painful sex. Dr. Degler brings her wealth of expertise to the table, shedding light on the prevalence and emotional impact of sexual pain, especially among women.We explore various conditions that explain certain kinds pain during sex and how to address them. She also highlights the emotional toll painful sex can take, noting that "many women suffer in silence, feeling isolated and ashamed, which only exacerbates the problem."Throughout our discussion, Dr. Degler underscores the significance of still pursuing intimacy in relationships despite these challenges. She explains, "Intimacy is not just about physical connection; it's about emotional closeness and understanding.” She offers hope and practical advice, encouraging couples to seek professional help and create safe spaces for expressing emotions. To learn more about Dr. Degler and her resources, visit Jen

In today’s episode, we have Wendy Crane with us to talk about her new book, "The Scandal of Virginia Grey." Wendy opens up about her personal journey through infidelity, her 20-year marriage to Reese that didn’t start out like a fairytale, and the healing process that followed. She shares the emotional experience of writing her book, which allowed her to confront past traumas and find redemption. We discuss the importance of forgiveness, especially Wendy's unique relationship with Reese's ex-wife. Wendy hopes her story offers hope and understanding to others in similar situations, emphasizing that healing and transformation are always possible.To get the book and learn about coaching services, visit TheSilentAddiction.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Wendy Crane's personal journey and experiences with infidelityThe emotional process of writing her book, "The Scandal of Virginia Grey"Themes of healing and redemption in relationshipsThe significance of forgiveness, particularly in

In this episode, I chat with Norma Q-Brown, our Family Care director, about preparing parents for spring break, especially regarding their children's online behavior and conversations about sexuality. Norma provides practical strategies for parents to foster a safe environment for open dialogue, ensuring meaningful conversations about online safety and appropriate behavior – and not just over spring break. We discuss the importance of ongoing communication, setting clear expectations, and addressing idleness. We emphasize the value of empathy, vulnerability, and guiding children through their spiritual journeys, both in everyday life as well as times, like spring break, when schedules and routines are disrupted. For everything we discussed in today’s episode, visit Bebroken.org/springbreaksuccess. Topics Covered in this Episode:Preparing parents for spring break and its challenges.Managing children's online behavior during unstructured time.Importance of ongoing communication about sexuality between p

In today’s episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I explore the importance of self-awareness in relationships, especially for husbands. We discuss how men can enhance their relationships by recognizing their interaction patterns and understanding their own emotional state and that of their wife’s. Stephen emphasizes the value of men engaging with their wives through simple acts like sharing daily thoughts and curiosity, which can foster meaningful dialogue. We also touch on the challenges of communication, the impact of self-absorption, and the importance of processing disappointment with God first. Ultimately, the episode offers practical tools for men to nurture deeper connections with their wives.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.orgTopics Covered in this Episode:Importance of self-awareness in relationships, especially for husbands.Recognizing patterns in interactions with partners.The significance of understanding one's own thoughts and feelings.Observing and responding to the emotion

In today’s episode, our guest is author and speaker Melinda Patrick. She transparently shares about her journey as a mother navigating her daughter's revelation of same-sex attraction. Melinda opens up about her initial reaction, driven by a desire to "fix" her daughter, and how this response strained their relationship. She shares the struggles, shame, and guilt she faced, and the redemptive work God has done in their lives over time, even though they are very much in the “messy middle” of the journey. Melinda emphasizes the importance of love, listening, and understanding, offering valuable insights for parents in similar situations. Her story is a testament to the power of compassion and faith in overcoming challenges.To learn more about Melinda and her resources, visit MelindaPatrick.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Melinda Patrick's journey as a mother dealing with her daughter's same-sex attraction revelation.Initial reactions of parents when faced with their child's professed

In today’s episode, our guest is Noah Filipiak, a pastor, author, and podcaster who is passionate about applying the reality of the gospel to the real struggles and challenges of life, especially struggles with porn and sexual brokenness. Noah opens up about his personal struggles with pornography addiction, which began in his teenage years despite growing up in a Christian home. He shares how vulnerability, community, and a deeper relationship with Christ were key to his recovery. We discuss the importance of addressing these issues of sexual brokenness openly within the church and fostering supportive communities. A big part of the conversation is helping men understand what the true bullseye is for recovery from unwanted sexual behaviors. Noah emphasizes that true healing comes from understanding one's identity in Christ, not just behavior modification. The good news is that there is hope for truly overcoming any unwanted sexual behaviors through the power of God’s grace and vulnerable community.To lea

In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the ongoing struggles of emotional disconnection in marriage, sparked by one man’s agonizing question: How does a man live a good life while feeling alone and disconnect in his marriage? We explore the pain of feeling isolated from a spouse and the importance of personal growth, faith, and community support. Stephen shares wisdom on enduring suffering, finding joy beyond one’s spouse, and the necessity of a supportive network. We emphasize that personal transformation often happens through discomfort and that God's presence provides comfort and guidance. This episode is a hopeful reminder that growth and resilience can lead to deeper connections and fulfillment, even in challenging times.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: Emotional disconnection in marriagePersonal growth through discomfort and sufferingThe role of faith in navigating relationship challengesImportance of community support and account

In this episode, our guest is Casey Allison, an expert in supporting mothers through betrayal trauma. Casey, a mother of nine, shares her personal journey of navigating betrayal in her marriage and its impact on her family. She emphasizes the importance of healing for both mothers and their children, and the need for safety, support, and faith during these challenging times. Casey’s candid reflections on anger, authenticity, and revisiting her faith offer valuable insights and encouragement. She invites listeners to engage in support, reminding us that healing is possible through Christ and connection.To learn more about Casey and her coaching resources, visit ComeAwakeCoach.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Mothering through betrayal traumaPersonal experiences of a mother of nine dealing with betrayalImpact of betrayal on family dynamicsImportance of healing for mothers and childrenEmotional complexities of motherhood in the context of betrayalNeed for safety and healthy boundariesCommunication strategies

In this special 1000th episode, we take a heartfelt trip down memory lane, reflecting on our journey since the podcast got started way back in 2005. We share personal stories, discuss the evolution of the show, and emphasize the importance of grace and kindness in this challenging work. We celebrate you, the community we’ve built together, and encourage you to reflect on your own experiences and the transformative power of God's grace. This episode is both a celebration of a huge milestone and an invitation for you to share your stories and engage deeply with the mission of transformation.Please share your podcast stories with me directly at jonathan@bebroken.org. To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Celebration of the 1000th episode milestone of the podcast.Reflection on the podcast's history and evolution since its inception in 2005.Importance of grace and kindness in personal and professional lives.Encouragement for listeners to share their own

Originally Aired on February 7, 2024View this episode on YouTube-----How important is trust to emotional health and building strong, mature relationships? It is vital! Yet, many men we have served in our ministry struggle terribly with trust. In today’s episode, Stephen and I are going to dig into this important topic of trust through the lens of one man’s story that begins with him not being able to trust his parents with his thoughts and feelings and ends with him finally living a “love plus trust” story. We will share the distinction between love and trust and how love plus trust takes us even deeper than love alone. We need to learn how to understand trust in its multilayered dimensions if we want to enjoy strong, healthy relationships.For resources from Stephen to help you grow and mature emotionally, visit DoctorMarriage.org.More Resources:40 Days to OnenessGrowth Map: The Pathway to Peace, Rest, and Joy*Untangling Emotions by Groves & Smith*Related Podcasts:Men Helping Men Grow and MatureHealing St