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Originally Aired on May 1, 2024View this episode on YouTube-----HELP REACH THE YEAR-END GOAL TO IMPACT MORE LIVES!We have a goal of $118,000 to reach even more individuals and families in 2025 through this podcast and all our other ministries.To partner with us, give at Bebroken.org/donate or call 210-822-8201.-----In this episode, we're hanging out with the dynamic duo, Linda Stewart and Linda Noble, who share their journey and collaborative work in the world of sexual education and theology of the body. They tell about their work with the Identity Project, aiming to help parents and families chat about sexuality and relationships in a faith-filled, positive way. The Lindas talk about their own lightbulb moments at the Theology of the Body Institute and how they're now passionate about giving parents the tools to paint a beautiful picture of God's design for their kids. They're all about tackling the big questions and easing those parent jitters with resources like their books and workbooks.

In this episode, our guest is Stephen Thomas, who bravely shares his journey through struggles with pornography and same-sex attraction. Stephen opens up about his Christian upbringing, the shame he felt for his early porn use, and the pivotal role of community, faith, and vulnerability in his healing process. He recounts how early exposure to pornography led to a cycle of hiddenness and shame, and how opening up to his family and seeking therapy marked the beginning of his recovery. Stephen's story is a powerful reminder of the grace of God and the importance of authentic connections and support in overcoming deep personal struggles.To learn more about Stephen and his coaching services, visit StephenThomasConsulting.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal journey of overcoming struggles with pornography and same-sex attraction.Impact of upbringing in a Christian household on sexual identity and shame.The significance of vulnerability and honesty in relationships.The role of community and support in

2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000(We are currently at nearly 40% of the goal!)This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need?To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!----------In today’s episode, my guests are Mark and Jill Savage, a couple that understands struggle, betrayal, and restoration. They talk about their incredible journey, betrayal, and the journey to rebuild trust. Mark opens up about his midlife crisis and infidelity after 28 years of marriage, while Jill shares the deep pain and the process of healing. They emphasize the importance of personal growth, accountability, and transparent communication. Mark's transformation began with a personal "resurrection" moment one Easter Sunday, leading to consistent efforts to regain Jill's trust. Their story is a testament

In this episode, I welcome Kim Hansen Petroni, an expert in betrayal trauma healing. We dive into the challenges many women face when dealing with emotionally lifeless marriages or divorce. Kim shares her personal journey and professional insights, emphasizing the importance of safety, grief, and reconnecting with God and self. We discuss the common lack of support from the church and the critical need for understanding and compassion. Kim offers practical tools for healing across physical, emotional, spiritual, and relational aspects. This episode is a beacon of hope, reminding women that healing from betrayal and a stronger sense of self and community are within reach.To learn more about Kim and her resources, visit NotaCasseroleWidow.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Betrayal trauma healing, particularly for women in difficult marriages.Personal experiences and professional background of the guest in psychology and counseling.The impact of betrayal trauma on women's emotional and spiritual well-being.

2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need?To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the theme of temptation, especially regarding male sexuality and the internal conflicts it sparks. Through a role-playing exercise, we illustrate the dialogue between the mind, body, and spirit during moments of temptation. We highlight the struggle between seeking pleasure and maintaining spiritual discipline. Stephen emphasizes the importance of standing firm and seeking peace, while I underscore the role of the Holy Spirit and community support in overcoming temptation. This episode offers valuable insights and practical tools for managing desires and fostering a healthier relationship with yourself.For d

2024 YEAR-END FINANCIAL NEED: $118,000This ministry continues to reach men and women worldwide through the generous and faithful partnerships of listeners like you. Would you prayerfully consider partnering with us to meet our year-end financial need? To make your year-end gift or become a monthly partner, visit Bebroken.org/donate. Thank you!----------In this episode, our guest is Ben Locke, author of "In Our Suffering Lord Be Near: Prayers of Hope for the Hurting." Ben shares his amazing journey from being a dedicated soccer player to facing severe injuries, abuse, and emotional trauma. These experiences led him to a deep exploration of suffering, mental health, and faith.We discuss the importance of processing emotions, the transformative power of prayer, and the role of therapy in healing. Ben’s story is a testament to finding hope and connection through shared human experiences and Christian faith. Join us for an inspiring conversation on resilience and recovery.Ben’s book can be found on Amazon

In this episode, I'm thrilled to welcome Dr. Linda Seiler, a remarkable advocate for addressing LGBTQ struggles through a Christian worldview. We dive into her personal journey, where she shares her experiences with gender identity confusion and her transformation after coming to faith in Christ. Dr. Seiler discusses her book, "Transformation: A Former Transgender's Response to LGBTQ," highlighting her struggles, the power of Christ, and the importance of compassion and truth when addressing such complex and personal struggles. Our conversation emphasizes a clear gospel approach to sexual brokenness, offering hope and understanding for those navigating similar challenges. There is good news in the gospel – Jesus really does transform us!For more information about Linda and her ministry, visit RestoryMinistries.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Dr. Linda Siler's personal journey with gender identity and sexuality.The impact of her conversion to Christianity on her identity and struggles.Di

In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the complexities of personal growth, focusing on how childhood experiences shape adult behavior. We discuss insights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshop, emphasizing the importance of recognizing our own choices while understanding the influences of our upbringing. I admire Stephen’s work on DoctorMarriage.org and how he offers practical tools and tips for men wanting to live a full life of integrity. In our conversation, we explore themes of belonging, identity, and the emotional struggles many face. We highlight the coexistence of sadness and hope, encouraging listeners to embrace self-discovery and seek support for healing and transformation. To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal responsibility and its complexitiesImpact of childhood experiences on adult behaviorDistinction between personal choices and external influencesInsights from the "Gateway to Freedom" workshopEmot

In this episode, we chat with the amazing Elizabeth Woning about her incredible journey of faith and sexuality. Elizabeth, once an openly lesbian woman who attended seminary, shares her experiences reconciling her sexuality with her faith in God. We delve into her transformative encounters with God, the challenges of navigating faith within the LGBTQ+ community, and the importance of self-acceptance in light of the gospel. Elizabeth's story highlights the power of experiencing God's love and the ongoing journey of understanding one's true identity. Her insights offer hope and guidance for anyone grappling with similar issues. Join us for this earnest and enlightening conversation!For more information about Elizabeth and her movement, visit ChangedMovement.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of the intersection between faith and sexuality.Personal journey of an openly lesbian woman in a religious context.Experiences in seminary and the LGBTQ+ community.The impact of transformative encoun

In this episode, I chat with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell about their incredible journey of healing and redemption from sexual brokenness in their marriage. They are the founders of Savage Marriage Ministries and help other couples overcome their past and fight for their future.In our conversation, Phil opens up about his long-term struggle with pornography and the devastating impact it had on their relationship. Priscilla shares her raw emotions of betrayal and anger, and how she found the strength to forgive. Together, they highlight the importance of honesty, vulnerability, and seeking help. Their story is a powerful reminder that even in the darkest times, transformation and healing are possible through faith and open communication.To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their ministry, visit SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal struggles with pornography and its impact on marriageThe journey of confession and the importance of transparencyEmotional wounds and their infl

In this episode, I welcome Sam Jolman, a therapist, author, and father, to discuss his book, "The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality." Sam shares his journey into counseling, emphasizing the importance of meaningful conversations about sexuality. We explore the impact of shame and purity culture, and the distinction between normal arousal and lust. Sam highlights the need for competent counseling and open dialogue to foster a healthier understanding of men's sexual formation. This episode is a heartfelt call to reclaim the beauty and complexity of human sexuality as God designed it.To learn more about Sam and the book, visit SamJolman.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Importance of open conversations about sexualityPersonal experiences and backstory of the speaker as a therapist and fatherThe role of competent counseling in addressing sexual issuesImpact of shame and purity culture on men's understanding of sexualityDistinction between normal arousal and lus

In this episode, I welcome back Lyschel Burket, an expert in helping women heal from betrayal trauma, especially in marriages affected by infidelity. Lyschel shares her personal journey and emphasizes the importance of community, safety, and communication in the healing process. We discuss the unique emotional challenges women face after betrayal and the critical role of support and understanding from both partners and their community. Lyschel also highlights the spiritual aspect of healing, stressing how Christ provides hope and safety during suffering and grief. It’s a heartfelt conversation aimed at offering solace and guidance to those traveling this difficult path. To learn more about Lyschel and her resources for wives, visit HopeRedefined.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Healing journey of women experiencing betrayal trauma, particularly in marriages.Importance of community support and connection during the healing process.Emotional challenges faced by women after discovering betrayal.Need for safety

In this episode, we invite back Dr. Jennifer Degler, a clinical psychologist and marriage expert, to talk about making sex pleasurable and fun again, especially for couples dealing with betrayal or brokenness. Dr. Degler shares her insights on the importance of pleasure within God's design for sex and offers practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy after betrayal. We discuss the necessity of communication, mindfulness, and sensory exploration to rebuild trust and enjoyment in sexual relationships. Jennifer’s tips and insightful anecdotes provide a refreshing perspective on rekindling passion and connection in marriage.To learn more about Dr. Degler and her resources, visit JenniferDegler.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Importance of pleasure in sexual relationships within a Christian context.Challenges couples face in reconnecting after betrayal or brokenness.Practical steps for re-engaging with intimacy and pleasure.Role of communication in rebuilding trust and intimacy.Mindfulness techniques to

In this episode, I’m so excited to chat with Gigi Hopkins, our Wives Care Director, and Andrea Stunz, our Marketing Manager and Wives Care Aftercare Coordinator, about our new online resource, "40 Days of Healing for Wives." This course is crafted to support women dealing with the pain of betrayal in their marriages, especially sexual betrayal. We dive into the course's development, its structure, and the importance of pacing and journaling. Gigi and Andrea share heartfelt insights on fostering healing, the power of community support, and how faith plays a crucial role in the healing journey for wives. To learn more and enroll in the course, visit PureLifeAcademy.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Development of the "40 Days of Healing for Wives" courseImportance of healing for wives dealing with betrayal, especially sexual betrayalStructure and key elements of the course, including pacing and journalingRole of community support in the healing processEmotional regulation and handling trigg

In this episode, we dive into the emotional struggles men face, especially those recovering from addiction. We explore the concept of "Mr. Unemotional," describing men who find it hard to express their feelings due to past experiences or societal pressures. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the importance of emotional growth alongside behavioral recovery. We share insights on how men can better understand and articulate their emotions, emphasizing the need for openness and support from partners and friends. The episode highlights the journey toward emotional maturity, encouraging men to embrace change for deeper, more fulfilling relationships.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional health and its significance in addiction recovery for men.The concept of "Mr. Unemotional" and its implications for men's emotional development.The disconnect between behavioral recovery and emotional growth.The impact of childhood emotional training on a

In this episode, I have back on the program our delightful friend and colleague Dr. Joy Skarka to talk about her new book, "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy," co-authored with Dr. Juli Slattery. Joy shares her personal journey and the mission of Authentic Intimacy, a ministry dedicated to helping individuals reclaim God's design for sexuality. We discuss the unique challenges women face with pornography, the importance of understanding God's unconditional love, and the journey toward sexual integrity – which emphasizes the power of truth, engaging community, and sharing one's story to overcome shame and find lifelong healing.For more info about Joy, the book, and the ministry, visit AuthenticIntimacy.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of the book "Her Freedom Journey: A Guide Out of Porn and Shame to Authentic Intimacy."Exploration of the challenges women face regarding pornography.The role of the Authentic Intimacy ministry in a

In this episode, I chat with three amazing leaders from Prodigals International: Steve Dulaney, president of Prodigals, Sam Louie, a licensed mental health counselor, and Fausto Estrada, one of their group leaders. Steve shares how Prodigals International began as a faith-based support group for men struggling with sexual addiction and intimacy disorders, emphasizing the importance of community and accountability. Sam opens up about his journey from addiction to recovery, influenced by his background as an Asian immigrant. He highlights how group therapy and supportive mentors transformed his life. Fausto shares his recovery story and how it has culminated in him now leading a Spanish language support group for Prodigals. Together, we explore the power of faith, personal stories, and cultural context in overcoming addiction and fostering recovery. I trust this conversation will inspire you in your own journey of pursuing greater integrity.To learn more about Prodigals International, please visit ProdigalsInte

In this episode, I chat with Mike Novotny, pastor, speaker, and author of "Taboo: Topics Christians Should Be Talking About But Don't." We dive into sensitive subjects like anxiety, depression, addiction, and especially sexuality within the Christian community. Mike shares his personal journey of overcoming pornography addiction and stresses the importance of open discussions in the church. We explore God's design for sex, emphasizing that understanding and obeying biblical truths can lead to healing and transformation. Mike encourages listeners to seek grace, find trustworthy confidants, and take steps toward wholeness in Christ.To learn more about Mike, his book, and other gospel resources, visit TimeofGrace.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of taboo topics within the Christian communityPersonal experiences with anxiety, depression, and addictionThe importance of open conversations about sexualityOvercoming struggles with pornography and the role of confessionUnderstanding God&#

In this episode, I welcome Sarah Siegand to the program, co-founder of Parents Who Fight and an expert in helping parents navigate technology's impact on children. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy tech habits, delaying access to devices, and educating parents about online safety. Sarah shares her personal journey, emphasizing the need for intentionality in family tech use. We discuss the five phases of tech training: ModelingDelayingProtectingMonitoringReleasingSarah provides practical tips and insights, aiming to empower parents to create a safe and balanced digital environment for their kids. It's a thoughtful conversation filled with valuable advice for modern parenting.To learn more about Sarah and the resources she offers, visit ParentsWhoFight.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Challenges parents face regarding technology's impact on childrenImportance of modeling healthy technology habitsDelaying access to devices and social media for childrenEducating parents about online

In this episode, Joel Warneking shares his profound journey through addiction and recovery. Joel is the director of 423 Communities, a ministry that is radically committed to helping others overcome all forms of unhealthy sexuality, restoring healthy sexuality and intimacy with others through, confessional, recovery communities. Joel opens up about his own history of pornography addiction and the isolating shame that came with it. He highlights how group work was crucial in his healing process, emphasizing the importance of community, grace, and accountability. We explore the essentials of a supportive group environment, the balance between grace and structure, and the need for action in recovery. Joel’s story and insights remind us that recovery thrives in the context of supportive relationships.To learn more about Joel and his ministry’s resources, visit 423Communities.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Importance of group work in recovery from addictionPersonal experiences with addiction, particularly por