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PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we welcome back Lyschel Burket, Executive Director of Hope Redefined, a ministry for wives facing sexual betrayal trauma. Lyschel shares updates about her work, including a new 45-week healing curriculum, and then we dive deep into the complexities of betrayal trauma, misplaced hope, and the journey toward true healing. Lyschel offers wisdom from her own story, emphasizing the importance of finding safety, authentic community, and hope in Christ—not just in a spouse’s recovery. It’s an insightful, practical conversation for anyone seeking restoration after deep relational wounds.To learn more about Lyschel and her ministry resources, visit HopeRedefined.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of sexual betrayal trauma and its impact on wives and women.Introduction of the "Abiding in Hope" curriculum aimed at supporting

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes joins me in our brand-new studio to discuss how couples get stuck in emotional cycles of conflict, drawing on Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy. We explore how triggers, core fears, and attachment styles—like the classic pursuer and withdrawer dynamic—shape our reactions and create distance in marriage. Together, we talk about the importance of self-awareness, grace, and integrating emotional and spiritual growth to break these patterns and build deeper connections. We also highlight the 5 stages that happen in conflict, which are: TriggerBody symptomEmotional responseBelief responseActionThis is an insightful, practical conversation for anyone wanting healthier, more loving relationships.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode:Discussion of relationship c

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I welcome my friend and colleague, Dr. Stephen Cervantes, to our cozy new “barn office” studio for a real and raw conversation about breaking old, harmful habits—especially those rooted in childhood. Together, we explore how these habits form as coping mechanisms, the emotional battles involved in letting them go, and the importance of kindness toward our younger selves. We discuss faith, the power of emotional connection, and practical steps for real change. Our desire is to help men grow in integrity and relationships. So, we invite you to join us as we encourage each other to pursue healthier, more loving ways of living.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Discussion of old and potentially harmful habits developed from childhood experiences.Exploration of habits as coping mechan

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In today’s episode, I chat with Trevor Hanson, a marriage and family therapist who specializes in attachment issues. Trevor opens up about his personal journey, sharing how his own struggles inspired his work. We discuss the origins and fluidity of attachment styles, practical steps to move from anxious to secure attachment, and the importance of self-compassion in healing. Trevor introduces his TEMPO framework and offers resources to help you take your next step toward secure attachments. I found it to be an insightful, encouraging conversation for anyone wanting to better understand themselves and build healthier relationships.To learn more about Trevor and his resources, visit TheArtofHealingbyTrevor.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal journey of Trevor with anxious attachmentInfluence of attachment styles on relationshipsOverview of diff

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we have back with us on the program Dr. Eddie Capparucci, counselor and co-author of Going Deeper for the Betrayed Partner.* Our topic of conversation is to explore the journey of healing from betrayal trauma, especially for women who have experienced infidelity. Dr. Eddie shares his unique inner child model, helping us understand how past wounds shape our emotional responses today. Together, we discuss practical tools for managing difficult feelings, the importance of self-compassion, and how both partners can support each other on the path to recovery. It’s an honest, hopeful conversation about reclaiming your sense of self and finding healing after deep hurt.For more information about Dr. Eddie and his resources, visit AbundantLifeCounselingGA.com or search for “Going Deeper books” on Amazon.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Defi

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with one of our favorite guests, Cat Etherington from the Naked Truth Project to explore how early developmental trauma shapes addiction and relationships. Cat shares her personal recovery story and explains how childhood experiences—both big and small—can impact our sense of self and coping strategies. We discuss the importance of understanding both our emotional memories and objective truths, and why healing means digging deep into our pasts. Together, we encourage listeners to move beyond blame and embrace the journey toward genuine healing and freedom.Visit NakedTruthProject.com for resources from Cat and her team.Topics Covered in this Episode:Impact of early developmental trauma on addiction and relationshipsDefinition and categorization of developmental trauma: "big T" and "little t" traumasCoping me

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Matt Cline from Restored Ministries to talk about what it means to have a Jesus-centered sexuality. We explore how inviting Jesus into our struggles with sexual brokenness—like addiction, infidelity, or shame—can lead to real healing and freedom. Matt shares practical steps, personal stories, and encouragement for anyone feeling stuck, reminding us that Jesus offers hope, grace, and transformation. We also discuss the importance of open conversations in the church and share resources for those seeking support on their journey to wholeness.To learn more about Matt and the resources from his ministry, visit RestoredMinistries.ca. Topics Covered in this Episode:Concept of "Jesus-centered sexuality"Importance of placing Jesus at the core of sexual desires and experiencesFocus on helping individuals overcome sexual

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In today’s episode, which I think is appropriate to release on Independence Day, I sit down with Mike Mudry as he bravely shares his journey through pornography addiction and its impact on his marriage. We talk openly about the pain of living a double life, the relief that comes with honesty, and the life-changing power of community and accountability. Mike’s story is raw and real—he reminds us that healing happens when we’re vulnerable and supported by others. I hope his experience encourages you to seek authentic connection and take your own next step toward wholeness and freedom.Topics Covered in this Episode: Mike Mudry's personal journey of recovery from pornography addiction.Early exposure to pornography and its impact on Mike's understanding of sexuality.The emotional challenges faced in marriage due to hidden struggles with addiction.

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I explore the idea of men being “under sad”—when we struggle to recognize or express sadness. We talk about why grieving is essential for emotional health, not just in big losses but in everyday disappointments. Stephen shares some practical ways to support others in their sadness and encourages us to embrace vulnerability, compassion, and even prayer. Together, we explore that facing our sadness leads to deeper connection, healing, and a more restful, authentic life.For daily thoughts from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode: The concept of being "under sad" and its implications for emotional awareness, particularly among men.The significance of grieving as a necessary process for emotional health and personal growth.Societal norms that discourage men from expressing sadnes

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Carol Tanksley to explore the true meaning of intimacy—beyond just sexuality. Dr. Carol shares updates about her ministry’s amazing new space for healing and intensives, called Transformation Place. In our conversation, we discuss the universal need for connection with God and others. Dr. Carol offers practical steps for building deeper relationships, overcoming fear and shame, and embracing vulnerability. We also highlight several resources for anyone seeking healing from sexual brokenness. To check out some of these resources from Carol, visit DrCarolMinistries.com.Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of the significance of intimacy in human relationships.Discussion on the connection between intimacy, sexuality, and sexual brokenness.Updates on Dr. Tankersley's ministry and the establishment of a new p

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down with Nick Stumbo, director of Pure Desire Ministries, for an honest conversation about sexual brokenness and the impact of pornography, especially within the Christian community. We dive into new research from Pure Desire and the Barna Group, titled Beyond the Porn Phenomenon, revealing surprising trends and the ongoing struggle many face in silence. Nick shares insights from the research on breaking shame, creating safe spaces in churches, and practical ways parents and leaders can support healthy conversations about sexuality. Together, we explore how compassion and openness can lead to real healing and hope.To learn more and get a copy of the research mentioned in this episode, visit PureDesire.org/barna. Topics Covered in this Episode: Discussion of sexual brokenness, particularly related to pornography use.Personal ex

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, I sit down again with Phil and Priscilla Fretwell to explore what true intimacy in marriage really means. Together, we unpack how family backgrounds, vulnerability, and faith shape our ability to be fully known and fully loved. Phil and Priscilla share their honest journey through their marriage struggles, healing, and the importance of spiritual and emotional connection—not just physical closeness. We also touch on how intimacy matters for everyone, married or single. Join us for an honest, heartfelt conversation about growing closer, supporting each other, and finding wholeness in our relationships.To learn more about Phil and Priscilla and their resources for couples, visit SavageMarriageMinistries.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: The significance of intimacy in marriage and relationships.The evolution of understanding intimac

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In today’s episode, I welcome back Garry Ingraham from Love and Truth Network to discuss the challenges of parenting in a hypersexualized culture. We dive into the importance of modeling healthy, godly behaviors and values, and how parents can create a nurturing environment for their children. Garry shares insights from his ministry, emphasizing the need for open communication and proactive measures in addressing identity and sexuality issues. We also explore the biblical perspective on parenting, encouraging parents to embrace their role with faith and hope, fostering a supportive environment for their children's growth and identity development.To learn about the resources Garry offers, visit LoveAndTruthNetwork.com.Topics Covered in this Episode: Challenges parents face in a hypersexualized cultureImportance of parental roles in shaping childre

In this episode, I sit down with Sathiya Sam, founder of Deep Clean, to discuss his journey from porn addiction to freedom and personal growth. Sathiya shares how he struggled with ineffective solutions and the shame tied to his addiction. Over time, he realized true recovery meant focusing on personal and spiritual development rather than just quitting porn. We explore the connection between physical well-being and mental health, emphasizing how activities like exercise and journaling can aid recovery. Sathiya also highlights the importance of understanding one's identity and purpose, offering practical steps for overcoming shame and fostering a healthier lifestyle. Join us for a powerful and inspiring conversation on whole-man healing.For more information on Sathiya and his resources, visit DeepCleanCoaching.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Personal journey of recovery from pornography addictionIneffective solutions encountered during the recovery processShift in focus from eliminating pornography to

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen Cervantes and I dive into the crucial topic of expectations in marriage, focusing on the difference between assumed and discussed expectations. We share lots of personal stories and insights, highlighting how unspoken assumptions can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. Our conversation focuses on the importance of open communication and dialogue to foster a healthier relationship. I reflect on my own marriage, illustrating how discussing expectations can transform a relationship from merely coexisting to truly sharing life. We encourage you, if you’re married, to engage in meaningful discussions about expectations to avoid the pitfalls of unspoken assumptions.For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org.Topics Covered in this Episode: The distinction between assumed expectations and discussed expectations in

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we invite back one of our favorite counselors, Jessica McDaniel, who runs a private practice in Austin, TX with her husband, Ryan. We dive into the crucial collaboration between therapists and pastors, especially when helping couples deal with infidelity and betrayal trauma. Jessica shares how both therapeutic and pastoral support are essential for comprehensive healing. We discuss the importance of creating safe environments, clear communication, and breaking down the stigma around mental health in church settings. Jessica also offers practical advice for building strong, collaborative relationships between therapists and church leaders to better support couples in crisis.To learn more about Jessica and Ryan’s counseling practice, visit McDanielCounseling.com. Topics Covered in this Episode:Collaboration between therapists and pasto

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Dr. Stephen Cervantes and I discuss the emotional and spiritual awakening journey for men. We explore the challenges of emotional disconnect and the impact of societal expectations on men's emotional health. Stephen shares insights on moving from hiddenness and brokenness to a fuller life in Christ. We emphasize the importance of expressing needs and feelings, and the courage it takes to wake up emotionally. We share our own personal stories and practical advice in hopes to inspire men to connect more deeply with their emotions and relationships. Men, we invite you to join us on the journey of emotional and spiritual growth. For daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Emotional and spiritual awakening for menThe journey from emotional disconnect to deeper engagementCoping mechanisms a

In this episode, I chat with Hadley Baker, who courageously shares his journey through sexual addiction and its impact on his life as a pastor. Hadley opens up about his childhood trauma as the result of an unwanted pregnancy, believing he was unlovable. Then came the early onset of his addiction to pornography and the eventual internal conflict of living a double life while in ministry. He recounts pivotal moments, such as his spiritual awakening, the challenges in his marriage, and his path to healing through counseling and truly understanding God's love. We also highlight the importance of authenticity and open discussions within the church to support anyone struggling with unwanted sexual behaviors. Hadley’s story is a powerful reminder of the need for grace, hope, and compassion.To learn more about Hadley and get his book, No Longer a Slave, visit HadleyBaker.com. Topics Covered in this Episode: Personal journey of sexual addiction and its impact on life as a pastor.Importance of discussing sensitive

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving at BeBroken.org/donate. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, we have back on the program our friend and colleague Andrew Arthur, a mediator specializing in faith-based mediation, to talk about the delicate topic of separation in relationships and how to navigate them with hope. We delve specifically into therapeutic separation, which is a process aimed at healing and potentially reuniting couples facing serious challenges like infidelity and sexual brokenness. Andrew highlights the importance of having a support team, including counselors, mediators, and spiritual advisors, to collectively guide this tough journey for couples. We also discuss the emotional and operational aspects of separation, the need for individual care, and the crucial role of safety and trust in working towards reconciliation. It's a hopeful and insightful conversation for anyone facing relational struggles.For more i

PSR Podcast is a listener supported outreach of Be Broken Ministries. Partner with us through giving. Thank you for your support!----------In this episode, Stephen and I explore the profound concept of "oneness," touching on its dimensions of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy. We discuss how oneness is essential in relationships with family, spouses, and God, emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and mutual understanding. We highlight the very real challenges and rewards of pursuing true oneness; it isn’t like flipping a switch and you will automatically achieve oneness. Oneness is a journey of growth and self-discovery. We invite you to reflect on your own relationships and seek deeper connections in your life. It’s a mission worth the journey.To get daily insights from Stephen, visit DoctorMarriage.org. Topics Covered in this Episode:Exploration of the concept of "oneness" and its complexities.Discussion of belonging, connection, unity, and intimacy.The significance of persona