Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality From A Christian Perspective

How do you know if you've had an orgasm? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn't orgasm with penetration? For context, I have been married to my wife for 13 years and we have 5 children...I would say our sex life isn't dry but we aren't all that creative. There have been things that I have suggested doing and have tried but she has told me that they make her uncomfortable (things like me using my hands to pleasure her or go down on her). I think there may be something connected to past experiences with masturbation and the guilt that came with that as a teen...but I have taken the position of wanting to serve and honor her so I haven't pushed it. So, for the past 13 years, we have kind of been doing the same thing once every other week or so. A part of me wonders if the lack of desire on her part is because she hasn

April 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Is it okay to masturbate as a widow?Explaining romance and foreplayIs it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex?Is my wife really having an orgasm?Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?Wife got upset when asked for more frequent sexIs mutual masturbation wrong in marriage?Nipple orgasmsLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Is it sinful for widows to masturbate?Truth or Dare (free game)Sexy Marriage game (printable)Christian Fiendly Sex PositionsIntimacy Ignited (book)Is mutual masturbation okay for married Christians?Mutual Masturbation Survey ResultsFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the ques

March 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Husband who gets defensive about possible porn useDid I change my mind about anal sex?How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation?Is mutual masturbation okay if you're separated due to work?Haven't been able to have sex for 4 years due to vaginismusFriend can't have sex with his wife because of prior porn useIs a panty fetish a problem?Wife hates being pregnant and being a motherLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becoming More Sexually Engaged - for Christian WivesFree webinar - August 5th, 2002, 9 pm EasternIs anal sex a sin?The dual control modelMutual MasturbationMutual Masturbation Survey ResultsFollow us on Facebook, In

February 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Fix the alcohol abuse before trying to fix your sex lifeWife who has hourly mood swings and is disrespectfulWife who engages in sex, but isn't sexualOxytocin and porn and masturbationWife wants husband to get a vasectomyClone-a-willy questionLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:How does porn use harm a marriageThe effect of oxytocin on the anthropomorphism of touchQuestion 9 - Wife who is not attacted to her husbandQuestion 5 - Clone-a-willyBuy your own clone-a-willyFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions

My Vasectomy Experience. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Last month someone emailed me telling me just how amazing they were doing after going through our Sexploration List.  I posted some of their testimonial on social media (with permission).  You may have seen it.During their email, they also asked some questions, which I wanted to pick up here.  Here’s the continuation of that testimonial:But as we chuckled about 9 consecutive days of sex... we both paused...We are 42 and 43 yrs young...  Having another child is not something we feel God is prompting us to do.  We very clearly felt His timing for all 4 kids.  We do not feel any direction that way right now. And so... the V-word crossed both our lips. At the same time. Vasectomy. And I'm not sure what to do… Natural Family Planning is hard when we are keeping each other aroused daily, lol.Your post about your surgery is 5+ years old.... any updates, additional thoughts, additional things to research?  Is there a certain "technique"

January 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Low Drive / Low T HusbandWife won't talk about sexNot attracted to my husbandWife against spicing up sexIs there a difference between having sex and making love?Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Free ebook - Where did my sex drive go?Becoming More Sexually Engaged - A Course for Christian WivesBook - Intimacy IgnitedForum Discussion - What is sex?Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a diff

How do you have sex with a well-endowed husband? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Here's the question I'm answering:I’ve been married for a few years now, and before I got married I was a virgin as was my wife. Before getting married I thought that my penis size was going to be a huge asset. I’m fairly large in both length and girth. Unfortunately, my size seems to be more of a hindrance than a benefit. Even with lots of foreplay and lube my wife is often sore afterwards, so even if she is in the mood, we have to wait until she’s no longer sore. Some positions have become off-limits for fear of hitting her cervix. She is usually unable to have an orgasm with me inside even if I primarily am just providing manual stimulation. It doesn’t feel good to be told to pull out and only use my hand, but I do want her to feel good so I gladly do it. Oral sex rarely happens because her jaw is often sore later. In general, I’m very satisfied with our sex life, but I often feel bad about my size, th

December 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wet DreamsMoney and MarriageHandjobs and controlIs my dead husband still with me?Are dreams sinful?How do I take control of my marriage?Sex once a yearIs it wrong for a widow to have desires?Unsatisfied with little sexWife suddenly changed oral skillsBest position for first timeIs oral sex a sin?Husband has a lot more experienceMovies to get in the moodPrepping for anal sexHow can I get my wife to show more passion?Issues with wife's self-esteemQuestions about lubeRealistic toysLast month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becoming More Sexually Engaged - A Course for Christian WivesBook a free discovery call with Jay DeeSWM082 - Question 3 - Con

November 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wife becoming less adventurousHow long before porn memories fade?What counts as premature ejaculation?Is getting a vasectomy a sin?Husband isn't acting like a believerIs it okay to talk about sex?Are we going too far?Sex frequency has gone downCrossdressing menRimmingSex once or twice per year since kids were bornConflict over anal playCBD LubeSpankingMasturbation for medical reasonsIs masturbation okay if your spouse can't participate?Will masturbation keep me out of heaven?This year, our most popular resource is Our Sexploration List - a great way to start a conversation about your sexual preferences with your spouse. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Premature EjaculationKeep Your Love On - Danny SilkIntroduction to talking dirtyIs it wrong for Christians to crossdress?Is it oka

What is feeling naughty? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Here's the question I'm answering:Hi Jay,Just a general question, what is the feeling of "feeling naughty"? And I guess there are other questions attached, is it sin? Are we describing something that’s simply "different" as "naughty" as maybe we don’t have another reference point in our vocabulary? There’s no great issue in our marriage or anything around the topic, just curious for your thoughts. But as a little context that got me thinking - my wife and I had a night in a hotel recently to celebrate our anniversary (which was actually 6 months ago, better late than never). As a treat and for fun, I bought her some lingerie that had a hole in the crotch area. It was very sexy and she loved them and we made love while she wore them. To which she exclaimed, "It feels so naughty!"…which I had to agree with, but I’d probably describe more like lots of "fun" whether naughtiness was an element or not. Thanks for your good work! Here

October 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Why do people think it's okay to commit adultery if their spouse is okay with it?Caught son masturbating with his mom's underwear - what do I do?Handjobs with condoms on?Guilt about bachelorette partyIs crossdressing normal?The TENUTOHow do I get my wife to come to bed?This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Why masturbation is a problem whether you are married or singleIs it wrong for Christians to crossdress?The TENUTO by MysteryVibeTOR 2 by LELOMelt - Couples massage coursesFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd to

The Limon by Minna - Product Review. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Get $50 off the Limon by by clicking here and using the coupon code UIBLACKFRIDAY.This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:The Ola by MinnaLearn how to give a great massageBook - ADHD After DarkFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterLastly, if you like our podcast, click here to give us a rating, and leave us a review. They help others know this is a good resource to help with their marriage. You managed to find us, help someone else do the same and receive the same benefits to their relationship.

Is premature orgasm a thing for women? How do you last longer? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.The question we're answering today is:Hi Jay,I have a question for you / your podcast.So my husband and I have been married for about 8 months now. It seems like every time he gives me oral sex, I end up orgasming within just a few minutes. Now, as great as orgasming is, I feel like after I orgasm so quickly, I am not as stimulated by penetration. Also, I really enjoy oral sex and I wish the experience could last longer. My husband and I waited until marriage to have sex. But before I was following Christ and before I met my husband, I was sexually active, including oral sex, and this never happened. So my questions are: 1) is this normal? is "premature ejaculation" a thing in women? 2) are there any ways to fix this and/or last longer? and 3) in women, if you orgasm once, is there a "come down" period? How is it possible to have multiple orgasms in one "sex session"?Sorry for all of the que

September 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wanting your wife to have sex with other menHow to handle a spouse who doesn't want to have sexWhat is healthy sexuality for single people?Does God intend for you to be a virgin if you don't get married?Dealing with the loss of a wifeCan men continue to have sex after orgasm?Should you do Our Sexploration List while aroused or not?Pain during sexAre men turned off by prolapses?How to build staminaAre topless and nude photos the same as porn?This month our most popular resource is Our Intimacy Advent Calendar - a fun way to inject some intimacy into the holiday season. Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Covenant Eyes - Accountability SoftwareWhere did my sex drive go? - Free EbookOur Sexploration ListPost on pain during sexMoringa seedsMoringa seedsMaca powderL-ArginineRed GinsengAs

August 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Snoopy wife caught husbandIs orgasming the same as cumming?Is OMGYes okay?Ejaculate colour and consistencyEncouraging senior sexWife won’t “finish” oral sexWife searched for pornBirth control for ChristiansWife’s smellWhat sexual behaviour is prohibitedZoloft and PE updateMultiple wives - againThis month our most popular resource is Our Sexploration List - a sure-fire way to spice up your sex life. Recently updated with new sections! Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Christian Married Sex ConferenceBecoming More Sexually Engaged - for Christian WivesBirth control options for ChristiansZoloft and PE original questionWhen did God stop allowing multiple wives?Follow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private

July 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:How do I hide my BDSM toys when I live at home with my parents?Does God value boys more than girls based on Leviticus 12:2-5?How do you handle the hormones from PCOS when you have a low-drive husband?Is it okay to fantasize about my fiancee?This month our most popular resource is Our Sexploration List - a sure-fire way to spice up your sex life. Recently updated with new sections! Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Sex Noises SurveyChristian Married Sex ConferenceBecoming More Sexually Engaged - for Christian WivesFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/

June 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:How to improve a boring sex lifeWhy only ED during sex?Meds for Premature EjaculationRisky public sexShould I talk to my doctor if I have ED?Fantasizing about premarital sexTurned on by my wife urinatingWife with no interest in sexIs breastplay required for a good marriage?This month our most popular resource is Our Sexploration List - a sure-fire way to spice up your sex life. We just updated it! Get it free this month when you become a new $5+/month supporter.  Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Sex Noises SurveyIntimacy Ignited - Song of Solomon Bible StudyPromescent - Premature Ejaculation SprayEpisode 68 - Discussion of the morality of public sexWhy marriage ruins sexIntroduction to talking dirtyWhere did my sex drive go? - Free ebookWhy are men obsessed with breasts?Don't put yo

May 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:How we look at sexWhy we have refractory periodsWhether or not it’s common for a husband to have to ask his wife if she had an orgasmA husband who is secretly purchasing toysA widow who wants to know what happened to her husband who was crematedThis month our most popular resource is Our Sexploration List - a sure-fire way to spice up your sex life.  Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Melt - CouplesMassageCourses.com - 20% off for Fathers' DayWhy you should take a couples massage class25% off in our shop for Father's Day - use coupon code FATHERSDAYA day of sexAbout the corpus callosum (why men are single minded)Why do some women's legs shake when they orgasm?Keep Your Love On - Danny SilkBoundaries in Marriage - Henry Cloud and John TownsendIs it okay to engage in pegging in a marriage?

April 2021 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.  Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Friends touching me inappropriatelyPostpartum recovery from the husband’s perspectiveHusband is anxious about sexNot attracted to my husband anymoreHusband doesn’t like oral sexHow to get over husband’s porn useNarcissistic husband and adulterous wifeThis month our most popular resource is Our Sexploration List - a sure-fire way to spice up your sex life.  Interested in learning more? Check it out here.Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:SWM 067 – Infatuation, New Relationship Energy, and LoveFollow us on Facebook, Instagram and TwitterIf you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, consider joining our private forum.Thank you to all our faithful champions!If you'd to support our ministry and see it grow, check out our support page for more info.  Even $5/month makes a difference.Lastly, if you like our podcast, click here t

Is a sexual activity wrong if it was learned from a sinful source? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.The question we're answering today is:My wife and I have a very active sex life. We enjoy a nice variety of activities and positions. Our frequency is definitely on the higher side, so I really have no complaints.We have used porn, either separately or together, for much of our relationship and are working on that issue. I understand the problems with that and the implications. That is not what this is about. Many of the things we do sexually have been learned and implemented from watching or reading porn. We have discovered many very enjoyable activities from that area of our lives together.So, here is the question. Does a sexual activity become wrong or sinful if it was introduced from a sinful source? I feel that as long as the activity involves a man and woman married to each other, that activity becomes blessed in the marriage bed. I know others who don't feel the same way. My wife