Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality From A Christian Perspective

I wrote a post on this topic a few years ago and thought I'd do a podcast version for those who don't read the blog, or are new and aren't aware of my older posts.  I believe married men (or women) masturbate for three reasons: Ignorance, Selfishness and/or Addiction.

This week we're discussing how you train your spouse.  In all human relationships, we teach other's how to interact with us.  Sometimes it's positive, sometimes it's not.  But, often we don't think about it and then we are surprised by the results of our training. My wife and I trained each other horribly in the years of our marriage and spent years undoing those bad teachings.  But, you can't start unless you understand what's going on.

For the first half of our marriage, I heard from my wife many times "All you want is sex", because sex was probably the biggest are of conflict in our marriage.  Since then, I've seen it many times in emails and comments from lower drive spouses, or from the high drive spouses complaining about the complaints of their low drive spouse. Some of them are accused of being obsessed with sex, some believe that it's their sinful nature that's causing the desire, some think it's a character deficit to be overcome, and, sadly, I've heard too often from high-drive spouses "I wish God would take this desire away from me".

Every marriage blog and podcast has a post or an episode telling you how to spice up your sex life, if not dozens of such posts.  But, they're usually just short term tricks, something to get you excited for a night or two, but then die off quickly.  However, they all have one thing in common, and that, I think, is to the real way to spice up your sex life.  So, in this episode, we're going to talk about how to continuously spice up your sex life, to have a longer lasting effect on your marriage.

Well, Christmas is nearly upon us, and every Christmas I know there is a lot of stress and anxiety as well as sometimes difficult living arrangements during the holidays, with family over, or you over at family, so this week we're going to talk about dealing with Christmas in a marriage.

Today's episode it about praying with your spouse to increase intimacy in your marriage.  Often prayer is a level of intimacy many are scared to step into.  But, getting past the initial obstacle means opening up your marriage to a whole new level of intimacy, which can in turn spur other areas of intimacy forward.

This week I'm going to be discussing a problem common to many husbands with new babies: the fact that their wife's breasts have been re-purposed.

In this episode I answer the question "Why can't my husband just tell me what he needs?"  It's basically the other side of last week's episode.

In this episode I answer the question I get from so many husbands: Why can't my wife just tell me what she wants?  This used to drive me crazy earlier in my marriage, until I figured out the answer.  Now I see it as an opportunity, instead of a frustration.

Today I'm tackling the question: Is sex a need or a want?  I've actually written about this in the past but it was about 3.5 years ago, and I have a lot of new readers since then and now new listeners who haven't heard my views on this subject.  So, here we go.

Episode 2 of our podcast!  We can actually call it series now.  Today I'm talking about getting rid of veto power in the bedroom.  Often one spouse, usually the low-drive spouse, has absolute say over when sex happens, or when it doesn't happen.  But is that the way it should be?  I share my thoughts and what I believe the Bible has the say on the subject. Episode Notes Introduction * For the first 8 or so years of our marriage, frequency of sex was a constant struggle * For a while we had a sexless marriage (defined as 10 or less times a year) * We had a 9 month span without sex during one of the early pregnancies * Arguing about frequency is pretty common place in marriage. * Often spouses have mismatched drives, but the problem isn't mismatched drives, it's about who has control. Sexual security * A marriage should not be based on one spouse having veto power over the other * 1 Corinthians 7:5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both

Well, my regular readers have been asking for a podcast for some time, and I'm finally ready to take the plunge.  This is our first episode of what I plan to be a weekly podcast.  For those who want more information, here are the show notes, or you can listen to the podcast itself.  I'm still learning audio production skills, so be patient with me on the sound.  I hope it will improve over time. Also, I have a cold, so when that has run its course, that should help as well.  Nevertheless, I'd love to hear your feedback on our first episode. And for all our regular readers, please come out to support us.  If you have an Apple product, hit subscribe for iTunes, if you have an android device, hit subscribe for Android, help us spread the word of this new podcast, because every subscribe is a "vote" in the various "featured podcasts" lists.  Thank you in advance for helping us help more marriages. Episode Notes Introduction * My name is Jay Dee * Married to Christ