Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality From A Christian Perspective

Today I'm talking about oral sex and whether or not it's sanitary. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community.

I have a lot of wives coming to me asking how to get their husband to be more assertive in bed.  The problem is, our society and culture have taught men to be more submissive, and take a back seat with regard to sex.  We're either explicitly or implicitly taught that we should let the woman lead in the physical relationship. The problem is that many married women don't want that.  They want a husband who is assertive and confident, not waiting for his wife to make the first move and anxious. So, this podcast is about how to help your husband to be more assertive in the bedroom, because while I can tell men all day to be more confident, the truth is, a lot of it has to do with how his wife responds. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community.

Today I'm answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so.  This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven't been. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community.

This episode, I'm answering anonymous questions we've received about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives. Want more podcast episodes? Support us on Patreon and also get access to our supporter community.

I'm changing up the format of the podcast a bit this week and answering some reader questions.

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Father's Day is this Sunday, and I thought we'd share some last-minute Father's Day gifts for those wives who listen to the podcast.  We've got some free options, some not-so-free options and some options that are a bit of an investment, but all of them you can manage to pull off even the day before Father's Day.

Mother's Day is coming up this Sunday, so thought I'd talk briefly about why father's should celebrate Mother's Day in honour of their wives.  And today, my wife, Christina, has made the time to join me on this episode.  Sort of to make up for the ones I missed recently.  So, here we go.

Often men see sex as a reward, even when it's not intended for one.  Conversely, if they don't have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something.  Why is this?  I think there are three reasons: Hormones - specifically dopamine, the "reward" hormone. Society - We're taught that sex = winning Sex is a big part of being male

The Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God's relationship with us many times.  I think there's a good reason for it.  In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all the do's and don'ts, both in marriage, and in the Bible, point to one thing: the relationship.  Not that the rules are unimportant, or are not valuable, but that the underlying relationship is far more so.  In fact, if we focus on the relationship, on our love for the other person, then all the rules, the guidelines, the do's and don'ts, will happen all on their own.

A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her.  She hadn't asked him.  She had no indication that he wasn't, but she had this deep seated fear that he wasn't. So, I ran a survey, asking spouses about their attraction to their husband or wife.  And today I thought I'd share some of results with you, to help anyone else who has the same fears.

I didn't have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar - A printable game to help you change things up in the bedroom tonight.

I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code.  Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict.  Now, conflict isn't bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy.  Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person's perspective, to seek unselfish solutions.  But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging.  Today I'm going to share with you 7 damaging conflict behaviours that you might recognize in your marriage.  If any of these ring a bell, you need to start working to rid yourself of them in your relationship.

Sexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change.  However, just because there is often a single instant where this realization becomes clear, it can take time, sometimes years or decades, to actually change their behaviour.

Let's face it, Christianity is not the perfect religion we like to make it out to be.  At least, not the way we imperfect humans play it out in our lives.  And one area of life that we've really made a mess of over the centuries is sexuality.  In this facet of life, Judaism seems to have gotten it right, and I think we should have paid more attention to them.

A few years ago, I wrote a post called 16 Confessions of a Marriage Sex Blogger.  In it I shared a bunch of things that I thought might be interesting to people, to sort of help my community get to know me a bit more.  Today I'm going to take a slightly different direction and share with you 8 things that I don't want to admit as a Christian Marriage Podcaster.  While these might help you get to know me more, I'm also wanting to show you how to be transparent, to show you that it's okay to share potentially embarrassing things.  If I can share these with you, then surely you can share even deeper things with your spouse.  So, here we go.

These days, standing up and saying that your the head of your household can be a bit dangerous for men.  With gender equality so strong in our society, the idea of gender roles is often scoffed at,  looked own upon.  I've heard many people say that patriarchy is just an excuse for men to do what they want, when they want.  I don't see it that way.  Here's what being the head of the household means to me.

Valentine's day is just around the corner.  Only a few days left in fact.  If that started to make you sweat, well, I feel for you.  Valentine's Day, I think, is potentially one of the most dangerous days of the year for married couples.  I'll explain what I mean, and then give a couple tips for how to survive it.

Men are often accused of compartmentalized lives, and for the most part it's true.  Most of us can have our work life and our home life and our church life and our sports/hobbies life, and keep them all fairly contained.  Women, on the other hand, tend to have one life, and it all mixes together.  However, there is one aspect of life that men often find very difficult to compartmentalize: their sex life.

This week, I'm talking about morning sex, that is sex when you first wake up.  Why discuss morning sex?  Because there's a lot going on that people don't realize I think.  I often get asked "why does my husband want sex in the morning?" and so if you ever had that question, or if you're a husband and are curious why you want sex in the morning, here's your change to find out why.