The Terri Cole Show

Today, I’m chatting with my friend and relationship expert Silvy Khoucasian. We chat about holding firm boundaries to create nourishing, supportive relationships as you go through life– That includes understanding attachment theory, making your own choices about what aging successfully means to you, and setting compassionate boundaries with family even when it conflicts with their cultural expectations. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/453 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you have people in your life who are so difficult and demanding that speaking your mind feels like it’s not even worth the hassle? If you’re nodding your head, then this episode is for you. I’m giving you proactive ways to approach impossible people and tips to verbally de-escalate situations so you can protect yourself from being harmed by future interactions! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/452 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today’s episode, I’m interviewing author and well-being teacher Alex Elle. Her work, including her new book How we Heal: Uncover Your Power and Set Yourself Free, is all about helping others find their voice and create clarity in their lives. Alex invites us to rewrite our personal narratives to heal not only ourselves, but the generations that come after us.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/451 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you make a mistake, how do you talk to yourself? Is it the same way you would talk to a loved one or are you harsh and overly tough with yourself? How much is your worth connected to your productivity and what you can do for others? Do you feel worthy of love simply because you exist?  This episode is all about what self-love actually is and what it looks like in action, because there are a lot of myths out there (hint: it’s not just about getting a mani/pedi). You’ll learn some indications of having a deficit of self-love and ideas on how you can create more rock-solid self-love, because you deserve it, my friend! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/450 This episode was sponsored by Better Help. Visit https://betterhelp.com/terri today to get 10% off your first month! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In today's episode, I'm sharing a fascinating conversation with Stefanos Sifandos. I met Stefanos through his wife Christine Hassler, a wonderful life coach and podcast host who I've known her for a really long time. After they got married and had a baby, I started to follow Stefanos as well. He has more than 20 years experience in the personal transformation space, and his work around love, sensuality, and sexuality is outstanding. He shares advice on how knowing yourself can help you become a better parent and partner and how willingness to surrender can open you to deeper intimacy. Plus, Stefanos shares his own story of healing from an unhealthy sex and romance addiction. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/449 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do signs of aging on your face or body concern you? Do you feel pressure to stay looking a particular way (as in, forever young)? If this is resonating, then you, my dear, are not alone.  In this episode, I’m breaking down different aspects of the aging process (it’s more hopeful than you think!) and giving you some ideas on how you can age gracefully and gratefully because when you really get down to it, it is a privilege to age! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/448 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a fascinating conversation with Rikki Cloos. Rikki is a writer and content creator with a captivatingly authentic passion for attachment healing. She shares insights and stories about anxious attachment from her own life: How anxious attachment behaviors can damage relationships, how you can stop those habits with work and understanding, and why it can make it so difficult to set healthy boundaries if you are prone to being anxiously attached. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/447 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are you a natural-born helper? Are you someone who is always willing to lend a hand or advice even if no one asked? Does it feel like your helping is on auto-pilot or even compulsive? Do you ever wonder if there are times when helping maybe…isn’t that helpful?  In this episode, I’m breaking down what constitutes unhealthy helping. You’ll also learn what you can do so you can get back some of your bandwidth and increase your potential for intimacy and authentic connection with the people in your life. Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/446 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with one of my BFFs Danielle LaPorte. She shares how changing your perspective on yourself can help you become more loving and how tending to your body and nervous system can be a spiritual practice. Plus, Danielle shares why now was the perfect time to release her new book, How to Be Loving: As Your Heart Is Breaking Open and Our World Is Waking Up. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/445 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you react strongly to bright lights, crowds, loud places, or too many stimuli? Do people ever tell you you’re too sensitive? How about high maintenance? You might be a highly sensitive person. A highly sensitive person (HSP) is someone who has an increased or deepened central nervous system with extra sensitivity to physical, emotional, and social stimuli.  In this week’s episode, you’ll learn strategies to up your comfort level in all areas of your life so you can thrive! Read the show notes at terricole.com/444 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I had the pleasure of inviting acclaimed podcast host and author Jay Fantom on for today’s episode. We chat about how he found his passion for storytelling as a curious child, the inspiration behind his new book The Path of an Eagle, and the necessity for persistence in pursuing your dreams. Plus: We bond over the special sense of purpose that pets can bring to our lives! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/443 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you think about a narcissist what comes to mind? Do you think of the life of the party bragging about their accomplishments to anyone who will listen? Or someone out there seducing people with their considerable charms only to torture them once they are caught in their narc web? In this episode, you’ll learn the top 10 signs to help you spot a covert narcissist, because this personality type can be even trickier and more insidious than the overt narc.  This kind of narcissist might be flying under the radar because they can come off as shy or even awkward unlike what we typically might think characterizes these personality types. Raising your awareness is the first step to proactively protecting yourself! This episode is sponsored by Better Help. Our listeners get 10% off their first month at BetterHelp.com/TERRI Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/442 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today I’m sharing another girlfriend jam with Ophira Edut, who is one half of the AstroTwins along with her sister Tali. Since we talked last, Ophira and Tali have been busy: They released a new book, What Sign is Your Relationship? as well as creating the Amazon Prime reality show “Cosmic Love.”  In this chat, Ophira shares some tips for navigating your relationship with the help of astrological charts and past life knowledge. Plus, I share my very own insights from a past life reading about my marriage with Vic! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/441 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Have you ever described yourself or someone else as having OCD? I recently had someone write to me about their “neat freak” partner, referring to them as having OCD, and I was like…hold up. Not everyone who likes things orderly has obsessive-compulsive disorder, yet it’s a term that gets thrown around lightly.  It is much more complicated than excessive hand washing or checking that the stove is actually off.  In this episode, I’m covering the differences between obsessive-compulsive disorder and a need for order and cleanliness. Plus, what it is, the way that it can present, and the real struggles that people with OCD face. Remember, learning how to talk about mental health with sensitivity and compassion starts with getting informed so let’s go! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/440 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

I have an especially exciting girlfriend jam to share today with my pal LeAnn Rimes! She’s an incredibly talented artist as well as an amazing person. She first became known for her country hits, and she could have rested on her laurels, but she has never stopped challenging herself in her creative work and personal development. We chat about managing the anxiety that comes with creating passionate, disruptive work. Plus, she shares the story behind her new record, “God’s Work,” and the single “The Wild.” Read the show notes for this episode at terricole.com/439 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever find yourself exhausted and you’re not sure why? Do you ask yourself, “Why am I soooo tired?” often?  Emotional energy leaks can drain us of our vitality and leave us physically exhausted, compromising our quality of life. Listen now to learn how to identify and fix energy leaks that might be sucking your precious bandwidth dry! Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/438 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever scroll social media and think to yourself, “Wow, there’s never anything but bad news?” Well, today’s guest ione butler was tired of the exact same experience. She created a platform called Uplifting Content to share the kind of content that she wanted to see, including inspiring stories of human kindness and advice about healing and self care. Today, we chat about why good news is so important and how sharing your story with others can prepare you for positive change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Do you ever wonder how you’re doing when it comes to boundaries?  Healthy boundary setting is a lifetime skill and that means it takes practice. Our boundaries continually evolve throughout our lives and our relationships, so even if you feel like you’re already a boundary boss, it’s great to take an inventory every so often.  In today's episode, I'm breaking down the five different types of boundaries and walking you through how to do a boundary inventory so you can see where to focus your attention to strengthen your skills. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/436 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Dr. Perpetua Neo (Or Dr. P, as I like to call her) is the author of the fantastic workbook This Is What Matters: A Step-by-Step Workbook for Identifying Your Values, Priorities, and Path Forward after a Crisis. In this interview, she shares how she left an abusive relationship with a narcissist. We also chat about vulnerability, over-functioning, and resetting your brain through meditation to make sure your higher self is in charge. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/435 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

When you get into a new relationship, do you ever make assumptions that the other person has the same morals, values, and integrity as you… …without having a conversation about those things? Do you think healthy relationships just develop naturally on their own? If this is you, you’re not alone. These are some of the most common pitfalls we can hit early in relationships, that is, unspoken assumptions + lack of communication around boundaries.  In this episode, you’ll learn the top 5 most important foundational boundaries for you to create at the beginning of a relationship (or to establish in a long-term relationship) for an EPIC partnership.  Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/434 Sponsor: betterhelp.com/terri for 10% off your first month of therapy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices