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Ryan Michler shares six essential books for fathers in this heartfelt episode of *Friday Field Notes*. Reflecting on fatherhood’s profound impact, he draws from personal experiences, including a near-death hunting trip with his son. Michler recommends reads like *The Boy Crisis* and *Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters* to help fathers navigate modern challenges, raise resilient sons, and nurture daughters’ self-worth. Emphasizing sovereignty and emotional regulation, he inspires men to lead with purpose,0making this episode a powerful guide for fathers committed to growth.  SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction to Fatherhood’s Importance 02:31 - Father’s Day Reflections 04:52 - Book 1: The Boy Crisis 06:09 - Book 2: Iron John 07:09 - Book 3: Wild at Heart 09:36 - Book 4: Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters 11:02 - Book 5: Men’s Work 12:02 - Book 6: Sovereignty 14:31 - Closing Thoughts and Resources

Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle listener questions in this Friday Field Notes "Ask Me Anything" episode. They explore escaping life’s ruts, timing for starting a business, simplifying battle plans, staying disciplined, interviewing high-profile figures, and sharing advice confidently. Recorded early due to a hunting trip, their practical insights and relatable analogies inspire men to take action and live purposefully. Join the Iron Council at orderman.com/ironcouncil for more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Hunting Plans 09:38 - Escaping Life’s Ruts 18:00 - Timing for Starting a Business 24:21 - Simplifying Battle Plans 34:31 - Maintaining Discipline 45:31 - Framing a High-Profile Interview 51:10 - Sharing Advice Confidently 01:03:21 - Iron Council Enrollment and Wrap-Up

Very few men think of relationships in the frame of the “sexual marketplace,” although the rules and principles of attraction and connection can very much be understood as an economic model, of sorts, of perceived value. And, the man who offers the most perceived value, is the man who gets the girl. Whether you’re married or single, understanding the intricacies and nuance of what makes a man attractive to a woman will help him get more of what he wants from her. My guest today, psychologist Orion Taraban joins me to discuss these dynamics between men and women so we all get more of what we’re after in relationships. We cover the importance of knowing your value and knowing what is valuable to the opposite sex, why love has little or nothing to do with attraction, what is known as the “Madonna-Whore Complex,” the concepts of Captains and Passengers as it relates to dating and mating, the difference between talking and communicating, and how best to make yourself more attractive. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introd

In this powerful episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler tackles imposter syndrome, urging men to reject feelings of inadequacy and embrace their divine purpose. He challenges the notion of being an imposter, labeling it as selfish and rooted in insecurity.  Michler provides a candid, no-nonsense perspective, offering five actionable steps to reframe negative self-stories, unpack insecurities, and lean on others’ belief in oneself. With raw honesty, he inspires listeners to recognize their worth and take bold action to become the men they’re meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:30 - Introduction to Imposter Syndrome 02:56 - The Selfish Nature of Imposter Syndrome 04:42 - Acknowledging Strengths and Weaknesses 06:54 - Value is Subjective 08:56 - The Comparison Trap 11:07 - You’re Not an Imposter, You’re Learning 12:57 - Imposter Syndrome is Just a Story 14:58 - Unpacking Insecurities with the Five W’s 17:07 - Journaling to Confront Insecurities 19:11 - Rewriting Your Past Story 21:22 - Crafting a New Story 24:5

In this AMA episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorenson dive into key questions from listeners on navigating relationships, living with purpose, processing intense emotions, and making tough life decisions. They also explore personal family traditions, the importance of frameworks and accountability, and how to know when it's time to pivot. With honest, practical insights and stories from their own experiences, this episode is packed with value for any man seeking growth, clarity, and strength in all areas of life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro and catching up 01:38 – Navigating early relationship struggles 08:05 – Living life unabashedly 16:41 – Family summer traditions 20:17 – Processing strong emotions like anger and sadness 30:11 – Running away or moving toward opportunity 40:11 – What would you prioritize if your life was on the line? 45:06 – What to cut out to move forward 48:31 – Turning knowledge into action 54:24 – Preparing for the Forge event & final thoughts Battle Planners: Pick yours up today!

I believe that most men know they’re leaving room on the table for personal and professional growth and while their diagnosis may be correct, the prescription is wrong. Most men seem to believe that if only their circumstances were different (their boss, their wife, their financial prosperity, etc.), their lives would be better. But the reality is a new circumstances, without a change you yourself, will only produce more of the same. My guest today, Andrew Shaw, has made it his life’s work to help men break free from the patterns that are holding them back, many of them subconscious. Today, we talk about discipline, resilience, the importances of what he calls, “choice points,” the critical differences between taking fault and taking responsibility, and how many men have over-corrected against the attack on masculinity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction 00:27 - Discussing Content and Masculinity 02:34 - Cultural Views on Masculinity 06:15 - Overទ - Reactions and Overcorrections 08:17 - Common Issues Men F

Ryan Michler delves into the concept of the "integrity gap" — the disparity between what men know they should do and what they actually do. He explores how this gap hinders personal growth, results, and relationships, urging listeners to bridge it through actionable steps. Michler provides six introspective questions to help men align their actions with their aspirations, fostering purpose and impact. Tune in to discover how to close the integrity gap and become the man you’re meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introducing the Integrity Gap 02:23 - Risks of the Integrity Gap 08:17 - Impact on Your People 10:41 - Who Are You Ideally? 14:56 - Who Are You Currently? 18:22 - What Needs to Happen Daily? 20:14 - What Information Do You Need? 22:38 - What Systems Do You Need? 24:50 - What Do You Need to Do Right Now? 26:34 - Adapting to Life’s Challenges Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum healt

In this Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle questions around forgiveness, grief, confidence, and masculine responsibility. They explore how to regain momentum after major life setbacks, navigate strained relationships with parents, and balance humility with confidence.  The hosts also discuss toxic masculinity, fatherhood, and the importance of modeling strength and integrity. This episode is a call to rise above a “heart at war” and live as a man of purpose—even in the face of fear, trauma, and adversity. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Opening & News Headlines 03:50 – Forgiving Parents Without Reconnecting 17:18 – Confidence and Humility in One Hand 24:35 – Facing Mortality & Leading Your Family 35:42 – Regaining Momentum After Loss 40:59 – Prioritizing Fitness vs. Financial Goals 48:37 – Why Most Men Stay Stuck 59:05 – Toxic Masculinity, Feminism & Prevention   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on th

From the time we were little boys and young men, the topic of sex has always seemed to conjure up thoughts of embarrassment and shame. It’s unfortunate (to say the least) considering that most men equate sex with the woman in their lives an integral part of the relationship and connection. My guest today, Alex Grendi, has made it his life’s work to explore men’s relationships with sex and how we can not only get more of it but make it more meaningful for ourselves and the women in our lives. We talk about porn’s impact on sexual relationships, how to overcome childhood shame around the conversation of sex, how to solicit and ask for feedback in your performance in the bedroom (including how to ask for what you want), why nice guys never get what they want from intimacy, and the psychological and physiological issues men deal with when with their lady. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:25 - Misconceptions About Men and Sex 00:56 - Shame and Societal Expectations 02:05 - Defining "Good" at Sex 03

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores the powerful concept inspired by Gladiator and Marcus Aurelius: “What we do echoes in eternity.” Michler emphasizes the importance of adopting a long-term perspective in life to avoid emotional impulsivity, short-term gains, and scarcity mindsets.  He shares three key mindsets for maintaining focus on lasting goals and three practical strategies—pausing before acting, applying the “five-five-five rule,” and prioritizing long-term results—to achieve meaningful outcomes. Michler’s insights inspire listeners to make decisions that resonate beyond the present, fostering a legacy of impact and growth. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:18 - Introduction 02:42 - Why Long-Term Perspective Matters 07:21 - Avoiding Short-Term Thinking Traps 09:38 - Strategy 1: Stop Before You Act 11:56 - Managing Emotional Responses 13:57 - Strategy 2: The Five-Five-Five Rule 16:04 - Strategy 3: Focus on Long-Term Results 18:06 - Building Lasting Relationships 20:27 - Recap and Call to Acti

In this week’s Ask Me Anything episode, Ryan Michler—joined midway by Kipp Sorensen—tackles questions from listeners about discipline, balance, relationships, and personal growth. They share insights on training consistency in summer, defining identity, healing after breakups, and leading a family with intensity and joy.  Whether you're navigating divorce, redefining your vision, or trying to stay focused in a distracted world, this episode delivers powerful mindset shifts and practical takeaways to help you become the man you're meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 – Intro & Memorial Day Reflection 02:49 – Staying Consistent with Training in Summer 05:02 – Balancing Drive and Family Presence 09:46 – Responsibility vs. Enabling in Family 14:28 – Dating After Divorce 22:20 – Discovering Identity and Vision 32:48 – Lessons from Darkest Moments 42:49 – Financial Readiness for Marriage 46:13 – Moving On After a Breakup 50:20 – Closing Remarks & Call to Action Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Rya

Every single man listening to this is familiar with discipline and has applied it (to varying degrees) in his life. We generally think of discipline as an overall good thing (and, I think it is) but it can often lead to bouts of frustration and unnecessary suffering if utilized incorrectly. My guest today, Craig Ballantyne, makes the case that discipline, although, a powerful force for productivity comes with strings attached, and isn’t the end-all, save-all it’s often made out to be. Today, we talk about what true discipline is not, why chasing the wrong target is so common and what to do about it, what I call the “self-help hangover” and how to avoid it, why you should know the distinction between standards and expectations, and how to avoid what Craig calls, “The Doom Loop” in your life. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Defining Discipline 00:42 - Level 10 Effort and Level 10 Problems 01:48 - Identifying Your Level 10 Problem 04:21 - The Importance of Focus and Self-Reflection 06:32 - Calibration a

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler shares four strategies to avoid bitterness amid life's challenges. He urges men to take responsibility for their circumstances, emphasizing decision-making, reframing adversity, learning from experiences, and applying lessons for growth. Michler highlights the dangers of victimhood and encourages gratitude and proactive change to transform struggles into opportunities. With personal anecdotes and practical advice, he inspires listeners to rise above frustration and embrace their potential. Visit orderofman.com/battle-ready for tools to implement these principles and become the man you're meant to be. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:10 - Introduction: The Trap of Bitterness 02:30 - Strategy 1: Make a Decision 04:55 - The Stories We Tell Ourselves 07:24 - Strategy 2: Reframe Your Circumstances 09:47 - Gratitude as a Tool for Growth 11:30 - Strategy 3: Learn from Experiences 13:50 - Strategy 4: Apply the Lessons 15:47 - Embracing Discomfort and Responsibility 17:54 - Tools

In this "Ask Me Anything" episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen tackle listener questions on toxic leadership, writing books, jumpstarting motivation, the meaning crisis, and connecting with stepkids. They explore overcoming self-help burnout, emphasizing the power of fun to recharge motivation, and discuss finding purpose in a pleasure-driven culture. With practical advice and personal insights, they inspire listeners to take action, build influence, and live meaningfully. Join the conversation at orderofman.com and themensforge.com. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Weekend Recap 02:55 - Dealing with Toxic Leadership 19:06 - Writing Books: Plans and Challenges 23:53 - Jumpstarting Motivation 34:44 - The Meaning Crisis: Causes and Solutions 43:23 - Overcoming Self-Help Burnout 54:41 - Building Influence with Stepkids 01:02:15 - Community Updates and Resources Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhoo

Purpose is a factor of life that every man knows will improve his quality of life. Unfortunately, we seem to be in an era when purpose is increasingly abysmal in the lives of too many men. Men in all walks and stages of life are floundering around aimlessly, wondering why they’re anxious, depressed, and alone. My guest today, Garrett Unclebach, former Navy SEAL, is a man who is intimately familiar with why and how purpose drives men to step up, take charge of their lives, and succeed. We unpack why a man must look beyond himself, how surrendering in certain circumstances could lead you to an incredible place you’ve never considered, the power of equanimity and how to cultivate it, why being faithful when you have nothing leads to a life of prosperity and abundance, and how to judge what you should be doing and who you should be doing it with. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Episode Introduction 00:35 - Ryan’s Recent Event in St. Louis 01:00 - Garrett’s Men’s Group and Camping Trip 02:40 - Developing Leaders and Trai

In this episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler explores how creating options leads to true freedom. Expanding on the concept of "discipline equals freedom," Ryan argues that personal responsibility, open-mindedness, and sovereignty are key to unlocking a life of choice. He shares four actionable strategies to cultivate options, emphasizing self-improvement, avoiding rigid thinking, aligning relationships, and prioritizing liberty. Ryan inspires listeners to take control of their lives and pursue their desired path. Join the Iron Council at orderofman.com/ironcouncil for more. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction to Options and Freedom 02:35 - Fix Yourself First 04:59 - Never Pedestalize Anything 09:43 - Coinciding vs. Conflicting Interests 14:05 - Sovereignty as the Path to Liberty 17:45 - Reclaiming Your Sovereignty 20:00 - Closing Thoughts and Call to Action Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto. For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood. Want maximum health, wealth, relationship

Join Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen for an engaging Ask Me Anything episode, tackling listener questions on sobriety, respect, body image, entrepreneurship, and relationships. From navigating a teen’s insecurities to balancing co-parenting conflicts, they share practical advice and personal insights. With humor and heart, they explore overcoming the comparison trap and building a fulfilling life. Sign up for the Men’s Forge at themensforge.com and join the Iron Council at orderofman.com/ironcouncil. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00:00 - Episode Intro and Roomba Mishap 00:01:50 - Sobriety and Overcoming Past Mistakes 00:07:52 - Respect: Earned vs. Given 00:13:24 - Supporting a Teen’s Body Image Struggles 00:22:25 - Bedros Kulian Event and Personal Growth 00:24:17 - Escaping the Comparison Trap 00:32:55 - Men’s Forge Event Plans 00:35:54 - Starting a Business: Key Tips 00:44:24 - Co-Parenting and Team Commitments 00:49:00 - Fitness Goals and Gym Humor 00:51:51 - Letting Go of Relationships 00:57:53 - Call to Action and Cl

Leadership is a word that has become completely bastardized in modern culture. Everywhere you turn, someone is hyping you up on why you need to become a better leader, the benefits of leading versus following, and how exactly you should do it. But what if I told you, it’s not the tactics that make you a leader but the mindsets that spell the difference. My good friend, brother, and leadership coach, Kipp Sorensen, joins me today to talk about what it really means to lead in a world where every man thinks they’re leading well. We address the two types of destructive leaders, the “BAR” acronym (behavior, actions, results) and which to focus on, how 83% of people in the workforce view their position in the company (and what you can do about it), why a “compensation” package is about more than just money, and the do’s and don’t’s of effective leadership. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00 - Introduction and Business Talk   01:48 - Exploring Leadership Challenges   04:30 - How Authority Changes People   06:18 - Persecutors vs

In this poignant episode of Friday Field Notes, Ryan Michler delves into the pitfalls of people-pleasing, drawing from personal reflection. He identifies five critical signs—saying yes when you mean no, avoiding conflict, feeling responsible for others’ emotions, tying self-worth to praise, and feeling burned out or resentful. Michler shares candid insights, referencing No More Mr. Nice Guy by Dr. Robert Glover and Let Them by Mel Robbins, offering practical anecdotes to break the cycle. Through raw honesty, he encourages listeners to set boundaries and prioritize self-care to become their authentic selves. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:19 - Introduction to People-Pleasing 04:53 - Recommended Resources 07:21 - Sign 1: Saying Yes When You Should Say No 09:49 - Sign 2: Avoiding Conflict at All Costs 13:25 - Sign 3: Feeling Responsible for Others’ Feelings 18:53 - Sign 4: Struggling with Self-Worth Without Praise 28:04 - Sign 5: Feeling Burned Out, Resentful, and Unseen 34:50 - Actionable Steps and Closing Thoughts Battle

In this "Ask Me Anything" episode, Ryan Michler and Kipp Sorensen dive into a St. Louis event recap, sharing its triumphs and challenges. They tackle listener questions on sibling conflicts, leaving work stress behind, the pressures of leadership, marriage cycles, discovering personal values, and managing credit scores. With candid insights, Ryan and Kipp explore self-validation, intentionality, and aligning actions with values, offering practical advice for men striving to live purposefully. Join them for an inspiring discussion on growth and resilience. SHOW HIGHLIGHTS 00:00.088 - Event Recap: St. Louis Experience 06:40.662 - Handling Sibling Conflicts 13:54.412 - Leaving Work Stress at Home 24:18.870 - The Weight of Leadership 41:44.558 - Marriage Cycles: Fact or Fiction? 51:40.632 - Discovering Your Personal Values 57:09.762 - Credit Scores and Financial Responsibility 01:02:15.275 - Call to Action: Divorce Not Death   Battle Planners: Pick yours up today! Order Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifest