Love Life Connection

I’m obsessed with skincare and really interested in the idea of tending to your temple (i.e. your body). So when natural skincare and facial spa expert Angela Jia Kim contacted me about being a guest on my show, I was thrilled! Angela is the founder of Savor Beauty, a company inspired by Korean beauty and self-love rituals. She recently authored Radical Radiance: 12 Weeks of Self-Love Rituals to Manifest Abundance, Beauty, and Joy. In this episode, we discuss her book and how tending to your temple can help heal your relationship with your body and affect the energy you radiate from the inside out. 12:13 - Things to think about before you listen to my interview with Angela 16:33 - How Angela made the connection between skincare rituals and inner energy 20:47 - Angela talks about what a skincare regimen should look like 26:21 - Where is the line between ritual self-care and patriarchal demands to look a certain way? 31:21 - How the 2020 pandemic deepened Angela’s self-love 33:17 - Angela discusses her divorce

Feeling not good enough is a pretty universal feeling. If you were to look at everyone’s core wounds, it all essentially comes down to “not enoughness” which can manifest itself in different ways. Today’s caller Jada wants to know how she can get rid of the story that she’s not good enough for the love she wants. If you struggle with worthiness, then you’ll love this coaching call! 4:56​ - What started Jada down the road of not feeling good enough 8:57 - How Jada’s dad was still a presence despite his absence early in her life 15:03 - Why I think Jada feels she needs emotional support from other people 20:42 - What Jada would do for a child going through the emotional pain that she went through 24:34 - Where Jada (and anyone who feels the same way she does) can focus right now when it comes to dating and relationships 29:04 - Recapping important keys and takeaways from my conversation with Jada I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from

When you decide to do (or NOT do) something, whose rulebook are you following? In the dating world, many women tend to heed dating rules that, when it comes down to it, are a bunch of patriarchal nonsense. I LOVE smashing the patriarchy at any opportunity I can.  In today’s episode, I discuss and debunk the four most common, arbitrary, and patriarchal dating rules women follow. 1:46 - What you’re really doing to yourself by following these rules 5:37 - The 1st rule that drives me bonkers (especially since I’m living proof that it’s bullshit) 7:18 - Why feminine energy is very dynamic and powerful 10:34 - Rule #2 is more like a myth (but one with a nugget of truth) 13:50 - The rule that’s just an excuse for bad behavior (and exacerbated by the online dating world) 19:11 - A new perspective on rule #4 (and the real emotional reason underlying it) I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to The Four Most Common Dati

I’ve often said to clients to date for fun, not for the one. Having fun puts you into a state of super presence, like a puppy or a child just enjoying themselves without a care in the world. But what if the thought of dating feels very meh right now, and you’re looking to pump yourself up to do it? That’s the situation that today’s caller Amelia finds herself in right now. In this episode, I help her discover why she feels so blah about the idea of dating again and what she can do to start clearing up her issues around all of her relationships. But I also spend some time touching on how you can protect yourself regarding recent socio-political events causing you to feel stressed or hopeless. 1:49 - A few things I need to get off my chest in the wake of the Roe vs. Wade decision 14:11 - Amelia describes her relationship struggle with men and how it ties back to childhood 20:09 - Why Amelia finds it difficult to allow herself to be vulnerable with men 22:45 - I reveal part of Amelia’s issue and what she needs t

We have all these rules around dating, especially as women. We get told, “Don’t do too much” or “Don’t seem too needy.” So when it comes to hookups and texting, you probably find yourself questioning when (and whether) it's good or bad to do it. In this episode, I talk about how you can prevent harmful hookups (emotionally speaking) and constant texting from getting in the way of your dating life. 2:14 - One thing I have to say before diving into the meat of this episode 4:39 - Reasons why guilt or shame come up after hooking up with someone 6:06 - When hookups can be harmful and going for what I call “conscious hookups” instead 10:39 - Why I think constantly texting with someone is a huge red flag 14:47 - What to do if you want to get out of or go beyond constantly texting with someone 18:27 - Are you currently doing this in your relationship? I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to How To Not Have Hookups a

Rondi has taken a deep dive into inner child work since we began working together. She’s realizing all types of connections between events in her life and beliefs she’s taken on. But her inner child is still having trouble making real sense of it all and connecting it to her specific situation now. If doing the deep inner work feels a bit vague or you’re unsure how to apply it, then you’ll love this episode! In it, I help Rondi explore what all this inner child work means and how to apply it to her life now. 6:01 - Rondi explains the circumstances behind her recent breakthrough 10:45 - Some beliefs that may have come up for Rondi and how she’s playing those out as an adult 15:56 - The big difference between Rondi now and her five-year-old self (and this goes for everyone) 19:26 - How Rondi’s weird situation with a texting pen pal reflects her wounded inner child 24:44 - The two stages of getting over an ex (most of the time, one’s far easier than the other) 31:17 - How you can apply the process in this coachi

Embodied Dating is a 6-week live immersive experience to help you release fear and anxiety around the unknowns in dating so you can feel it, ease meeting with potential partners, and stop ignoring red flags, falling in love with potential, and trying to control everything. The core of Embodied Dating is to learn my 3-part framework, that is, Embodied Dating. That's a 3-part framework for Embodied Dating, again, so you can have more fun. Learn more and enroll in Embodied Dating at https://veronicagrant.com/embodieddating Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

For whatever reason, you’ve gained weight. You went through something--a pregnancy, the pandemic, etc.--and ate a lot. And now your body doesn’t look the way you want it to look, or you feel uncomfortable in it. In this episode, I talk about the shame and embarrassment you feel after gaining weight for whatever reason and how you can still love yourself. 5:44​ - How you’ve been brainwashed to not like your body (even if you grew up in the best of scenarios) 8:47 - My own experience dealing with fatphobia (which has been extra heightened recently) 10:22 - Why the myth of “Calories in, calories out” is not all it’s cracked up to be 15:23 - The thing I think you can do that’ll have the biggest impact on your relationship with your body 18:06 - The metaphor I like to use for my body that I learned while in Bali 20:08 - Two more things to think about that can help you regardless of how you feel about your body 28:02 - The question I ask myself when I’m feeling down and in a dark place I hope you enjoyed this episo

Life has been a little different for my caller Rose since she left New York to go on a sabbatical to Mexico. With the addition of the pandemic, she’s felt more isolated over the past few years than ever. But soon she’ll be making her way back to the U.S. and the faster-paced city lifestyle she feels will offer more opportunities for dating. And yet, she’s really nervous about how to prepare herself for it. If you too are nervous about getting back into the dating scene after a period of absence, then you’ll really love this episode. In it, I help Rose delve into the real cause of her anxiousness and how to prepare herself for reintegration into dating society. 12:28 - The question Rose wants answered after years away from dating 15:09 - What Rose likes and dislikes about her isolated state and 18:14 - The real issue in Rose’s response and why it’s practically impossible to coach on a hypothetical scenario 23:52 - Helping Rose discover the root of her fear that dating again will be a shock to her system 28:21

Michelle ended a four-year relationship two months ago and has been dealing with a roller coaster of emotions ever since. If you find yourself in a similar situation, those feelings can fester into beliefs, actions, and patterns you don’t want to deal with down the line. In this episode, Michelle and I discuss her situation and how to navigate the two stages of a breakup to set up for success going forward. 5:​44 - The two stages of getting over an ex 7:35 - Why Michelle felt secure in her relationship and what led to the breakup 11:33 - The type of relationship Michelle vowed to never have 14:39 - Michelle’s inner child wound and how her relationship played into it 21:01 - Getting through the 1st stage and how inner child work will help Michelle move past the 2nd stage of her breakup 23:04 - The possible Bill Clinton effect on Michelle’s relationship 26:48 - The myth of closure and why Michelle will never get it with her ex 32:11 - Why time doesn’t heal all wounds and the three mistakes people make in the 1s

You’ve been blindsided, hurt, and duped on past dates and by former partners. You’re determined to not repeat the same mistakes and attract the same kind of relationship, looking for red flags with eyes wide open. Instead of letting yourself get swept away in the romance of it all, you feel desperate for a sense of security in your relationship. For this series on how to navigate dating someone new without the stress, anxiety, or fear, my intention has been to inspire you to think differently about how you approach dating because I really think it can make a huge difference in your life. In this third and final episode of the series I’m going to talk about my new workshop Embodied Dating which I’ve designed to help you find the balance between protecting yourself while being available for your potential significant other. 4:47 - Does this scenario sound familiar? 6:37 - Summing up the first episode of the series 8:58 - Nothing slows you down more in your love life than this 9:56 - Some specifics of what I’ll

How do you navigate the early stages of dating without the stress, fear, and anxiety that often comes with it? I ended the last episode with a teaser of what I call “embodied dating.” In part two of this series, I dive a little deeper into it by discussing how it can help you during those early stages and giving an overview of the overall, three-step process. 1:31​ - Recapping the first episode of the series 3:50 - How I define fear, anxiety, and stress 7:12 - Two options for dealing with fear, anxiety, and stress in the moment 8:23 - What embodied dating is and the ways it can help you in the early dating stages 12:31 - An example of how embodied dating can help you find your relationship “sweet spot” 16:10 - The general three-part process of embodied dating and my upcoming workshop   I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to The Early Stages of Dating Series, Part 2: Three Steps to Navigating a New Relationsh

Meeting a new dating partner can be quite the roller coaster ride of emotions! You get the thrill of the first connection, the anticipation of the first date, and (if all goes well) the excitement of the “Wow, I’m actually in a relationship” stage. But you also might worry about whether or not you and your partner are on the same page or if the relationship is truly going anywhere. So how do you stay grounded and calm throughout this process? Today, I’m kicking off a three-part series to hopefully help you remain free from fear and anxiety as much as humanly possible when it comes to dating someone new. 2:34​ - The #1 mistake I see clients make during the early stages of dating 4:15 - Getting a better understanding of the concepts of rejection and fear 9:13 - How fear influences what you do (or don’t) in your love life 14:49 - Fear-based actions vs. intuitive-based actions 19:21 - What intuitive-based decisions allow you to do about rejection 22:43 - A preview of part two of this series and my upcoming worksh

Beating yourself up for reaching out to the ex you just can’t seem to quit? I can’t count how often I’ve had these kinds of conversations with clients! Today, I talk with my former client M who’s frustrated with herself because she recently reengaged with an ex of hers. And it isn’t the first time she’s done it either, but she knows it’s not good for her and wants to move on completely. The truth is that there’s a real emotional need underneath actions like this. And addressing that provides the best way for M to reach her ultimate goal: releasing this person from her life. So what is going on underneath, and what can she do? Tune in to find out and if you can relate to her (whether you’ve sought out a former partner for the first or the millionth time), I hope this episode gives you permission to be kind to yourself. 1:56 - The connection between food and reaching out to your ex 7:15 - M reveals the crux of her situation 13:03 - Going back to see where M’s feeling of invalidation comes from 18:51 - What keep

Choosing dating partners based on compatible zodiac signs is a thing. You’ve probably tried it yourself or seen others with dating profiles specifically requesting partners of certain signs. But contrary to what’s often depicted in the media, astrology isn’t about controlling your fate. It’s not about saying, for example, that you as a Gemini need to date an Aries. In today’s show, I’ve invited my friend and astrology expert Veronica Perretti back to the show to talk about astrology! This time we discuss the real truth behind astrology, how the main three signs form the basis of who we are, and how best to use it to figure out romantic compatibility. 9:48 - Using astrology, for this reason, keeps some people trapped in cycles 14:14 - How checking your astrology resembles keeping tabs on the weather 21:04 - Why astrology actually can be a little predictive sometimes 26:35 - How the big three signs in astrology (sun, moon, and rising) help form your personality 37:17 - How to know if you’re romantically compati

Are you in a situation where you can’t seem to let go of someone, whether they’re an ex or a potential partner? Or do you treat your love life like the thing that excites you (at all) and a respite from the blah you feel is the rest of your life? Then listen up! In today’s episode, I speak with one of my clients, Amy, who’s in what you might call a “situationship.” But as you listen to this conversation, you’ll see how her situation isn’t actually the problem. It’s just a manifestation of the real problem.   1:50​ - Something you might notice coming up as you listen to my conversation with Amy 5:31 - Getting the facts about Amy’s situationship with Drew on the table 9:00 - Amy describes the part of her that wants to hold on to the situation (and why her attachment to Drew isn’t about him) 17:32 - My recommendation for Michelle the next time she feels the need to talk to Drew 20:03 - Something I learned in my health coaching days that can help your inner child 22:02 - Incorporating excitement in other ways out

Are you a bit of a control freak? By that, I mean do you try to control everything in your love life (and beyond)? I’m incredibly passionate about letting go of the need to control everything. I consider it a vital part of healing and being on this love journey. In this episode, I define what it means to truly surrender, the benefits you derive from it, why people try to control things, what controlling behavior can look like in your love life, and how to overcome it. Along the way, you’ll hear about what I’ve noticed in my own life as well as those of my clients. 5:00 - What it really means to let go of control 9:15 - Why the path of letting go is more important than the outcome 11:42 - Examples of how you might try to inadvertently control things in the dating space 18:17 - Something to reassure you if you see yourself as overly controlling in your life 20:51 - Examples illustrating where the need to control things comes from 24:15 - How to figure out where your need to control comes from 25:29 - Ways you c

An old client of mine recently got into tarot. We’d worked together a couple of years ago, and she reached out to me for feedback after drawing some cards to help her answer a question about her love life. While I’m not a tarot expert, those of you who’ve listened to me for a while (or even just last week’s episode) know I love me some woo-woo, too! So I saw this as the perfect opportunity for a podcast episode. In today’s show, Sierra and I discuss her question and what the cards revealed, along with tips and caveats for how to use tarot (or any other spiritual modality you choose) more intuitively and responsibly. 3:03​ - Beware of this when using spiritual tools 5:32 - Four questions to keep in mind as you listen 8:04 - Sierra’s question about the tarot and how she felt about the cards that came up in response 15:18 - Very helpful tip when interpreting meanings behind cards that come up for you 18:07 - The response Sierra gets back when she asks her question of her higher self instead 23:05 - Taking spirit

I love oracle cards! I love the many themes, the inspirational meanings, or the self-reflective questions behind them. And today features an interview of someone who’s created her own oracle card deck of which I’m a big fan. I don’t even quite remember how I came across Rachael McKee and her Kickstarter campaign, but in this episode, we discuss her deck, the inspiration behind it, and how it emphasizes women supporting women. As a bonus, she also gets into some of the things that made her long-term relationship blossom during a pretty trying time. 6:15 - A quick story to illustrate the beauty of (and history) behind Rachel’s deck 12:02 - A preview of next week’s podcast that ties into this episode 15:16 - Rachael talks about her work, describes her deck, and reveals what inspired the idea 19:46 - Rachael’s personal experience relating to women and how her deck can help women heal 23:22 - One unconventional woman’s story you’ve never heard of and her huge impact on social services 26:22 - How Rachael made her

This episode starts off with a common fear I hear from many women in the community: I finally met someone great, how do I not mess it up?  I discuss this very issue today with my caller, Abby. But like usual on the show, there’s a hindrance to her feeling more secure in the relationship. In this case with Abby, it’s rooted in her relationship with her mom.  It’s not that she needs to heal her relationship with her mom, but she needs to set boundaries because it’s bringing out her core wounds.  This is the equivalent of picking off scabs when you’re trying to heal a physical wound. Setting boundaries will give Abby the space she needs to have an even better relationship with her mom.  It will also help Abby do the inner child work she needs to do to feel less anxious in her romantic relationship. 1:19 - An example of something I have been experiencing lately where I need to set a boundary 5:09 - An introduction to my caller today who’s in a healthy relationship, and is scared she’s sabotaging it 6:16 - Abby pr