Love Life Connection

In this episode, I talk about 10 things you need to know about boundaries, delve into two of the four types of boundaries, and wrap up with how to stick to your boundaries in dating. Along the way, I even give you a peek into how I’ve set boundaries for myself and my relationship. 6:31 - Ten things you need to know about boundaries as you apply them in your life 22:09 - Quickly touching on the first two of four types of boundaries 25:27 - Discussing emotional boundaries and the core wounding often present 29:39 - Why relational boundaries allow your relationships to flourish (with an example from my own life) 35:51 - Discussing how to uphold the dating boundaries you set 39:08 - How to compartmentalize people who keep disrespecting your boundaries  I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to How to Have Rock-Solid Boundaries in Dating: A Masterclass, here are your next steps: Read Energetic Boundaries by Cyndi

You’ve done a lot of work and understand how past experiences have shaped your relationship patterns. But are you still meeting lots of emotionally unavailable people on dates or constantly looking for red flags to keep from getting hurt or rejected? If that sounds like you, then you’ll relate to Erin who’s been single for five years. In this episode, I help her discover what lies behind her frustration with her love life and seeming inability to find someone with a mutual interest in a long-term relationship. 9:33 - Erin explains her frustration with her existing dating situation 13:50 - The perspective that’s missing from Erin’s love life right now 17:21 - How being too open can be a form of manipulation 19:33 - Dating from the fearful place of “guilty until proven innocent” 24:12 - The missing factor Erin may not be consciously aware of 27:11 - Why emotionally unavailable people can be attractive to Erin 31:57 - How your thoughts can lead you to take (or not take) certain actions 37:15 - What Erin can work

What’s stopping you from making the changes you need to find the love you want? During my time coaching in this community, I’ve noticed four obstacles to healing your love life come up over and over. In this episode, I cover these hurdles and discuss why some people choose not to pursue help in getting something they want. In the process, if you’re curious about Love Incubator (enrollment open now), I cover in detail how I work closely with women through the program. 3:09 - An obstacle I often see when talking about inner child work with someone 6:38 - Why I’m passionate about coaching vs. only doing this 9:51 - Using this common obstacle as an excuse to not do the work 13:08 - The last obstacle to healing your love life that might surprise you 16:33 - What happens once you’re inside the Love Incubator program 23:19 - Who the program is and isn’t a good fit for I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this epi

Usually, the fourth Thursday of the month is reserved for a guest expert interview. But on today’s show, I have a very special guest: a past client of mine, Paige. She was part of my program Love Incubator last year and is no stranger to doing lots of inner work. In this episode, she talks about how the program and our work together helped her finally let go of some past hurts, confidently get back into online dating, and deal with fear and rejection differently. 6:13​ - Where Paige was stuck before joining Love Incubator and ways it’s facilitated change 12:46 - Other shifts in Paige’s life since working together, inside and outside of her love life 15:52 - The surprising ways COVID impacted Paige’s relationships and personal growth 20:42 - What the group experience within the program was like for Paige 25:36 - Paige’s initial hesitation about joining and why she’s grateful she did in the end 29:38 - How Love Incubator works and deciding if the program is the right next step for you I hope you enjoyed this ep

Allison feels nervous. In the past, she’d get physical in a relationship quickly and it’d fizzle out after three months. However, she just started dating someone who seems to be emotionally available, and she wants to set herself up for success. But she’s afraid she’ll mess it up somehow.  On this coaching call, I discuss the so-called dating playbook, physical and emotional intimacy and how the two of them work together, and when’s the right time to talk about sex in a new relationship. If that sounds interesting or like something you struggle with too, then you’ll want to listen up and take notes! 11:46​ - Trying to figure out where Allison’s problem is coming from 15:00 - Ways we learn to source confidence from things outside of ourselves 21:27 - Advising Allison on her ideal next step 27:23 - Why women shouldn’t fear initiating dates with emotionally available men 28:39 - What it feels like for Allison to discuss physical intimacy with her partner 30:20 - Picking a good time to share any kind of private i

I have lots of opinions about self-love. Even though I believe inner child work (and any kind of self-care) is ultimately about self-love, I’ve also steered away from using the phrase. The way it’s often presented on social media lacks nuance. So I want to dive into it a little bit today and reveal my four-part framework to help you understand what it means to “love yourself” and get a better sense of whether or not you do. 3:28 - The Todd Herman quote that also describes the Instagramification of self-love well 5:36 - Something that gets lost in the #selflove talk and a popular “love yourself” mantra that doesn’t really work 11:00 - Why the first piece of my self-love framework is the cornerstone for everything 15:15 - Ways people tend to bypass or ignore the next framework piece (this is an area where self-help can trip you up) 18:41 - Why the third part of the framework makes it easier to heal 22:41 - Why the final framework piece ties back to the first and makes it easier to trust other people 25:36 - Wha

Have you gone a loooong time without dating? My caller today has had some less-than-great experiences dating and felt so traumatized over it that she stopped entirely for five or six years! Now, she’s feeling the nudge to start again but has a lot of fear around attracting the same types of relationships (and bad feelings) as before. If that sounds like you too, then you’ll love the insights and key points I share with Anastasia in this episode! 7:44​ - What scared Anastasia away from dating for so long and why she still fears returning 15:27 - The moment Anastasia recognizes her biggest fear and how she can feel safe again 21:25 - How Anastasia is over-thinking her situation 26:24 - How I’d deal with ghosting and the trick to feeling your feelings when frustrated with dating 30:01 - Where you should focus your forgiveness and a new perspective on bad dating experiences 34:50 - Why I advise Anastasia differently than usual and how she can take a new approach 41:53 - A recap of the five main takeaways from the

You’ve done tons of inner child work and have gone through therapy. You meditate, write your morning pages, and do all kinds of other stuff. And it’s helped you grow in several areas of your life. Your health is good, your career thrives, and your friendships flourish. But you’re still stuck in a rut in your love life. Romance is the one area that hasn’t really improved. So what the hell is going on? My guest Hannah knows the feeling. She’s happy with her life... except when it comes to dating. She can’t figure out what the issue is, so in this episode, I help her get to the bottom of it. If you can relate to her situation, you’ll love today’s show! 8:34 - The overriding belief or story that dictates Hannah’s love life 12:04 - The work Hannah has done to help herself feel supported 15:23 - Things I’ve noticed behind lagging romantic relationships when other areas of life gel well 18:07 - Where Hannah senses the disconnect when it comes to her dating life 21:42 - How Hannah views herself in past relationships

Normally, today’s episode would be a coaching call. But I’m changing things up because it’s my book’s birthday! That’s right! You Are Meant for Love has finally arrived and should soon be on your e-reader or doorstep if you pre-ordered it. (Take a look now, because it might already be there!) In this episode, I want to take you behind the scenes and share a little bit more about the book. But I’m not in the driver’s seat. Instead, UK-based documentary filmmaker and friend Gemma Brady interviews me and guides the whole conversation! So get comfy as I share a bit more about my own personal story and the process and purpose behind writing the book. 5:48 - Why I’m glad I didn’t know what it was going to be like writing and releasing a book beforehand 7:37 - Who I had in mind as I wrote the book 8:47 - Recounting my lowest dating period before discovering inner child work 12:37 - The most important factor about your memories and how healing resembles a spiral staircase 16:14 - How you can have a different perspect

We’ve all likely dealt with stressing around money at some point. If you’re living under constant money stress, it can keep you up at night. Now, there’s the fear with literally not having enough money in your bank account and you’ve got bills to pay. But that’s not the kind of money stress I mean. What about when the money is in your account and you have a good job or business to keep it flowing, but you still feel the stress? Just like being in codependent relationships or repeating people-pleasing patterns can wreak havoc on your emotions and sense of self-worth, your money stories can serve a similar function. So in this episode, I really want to talk about my broad framework for clearing money blocks that you can use to heal your financial shit. 9:53 - How I define the word “block” (of any kind) and examples of my former money blocks 12:34 - The fluid way you can work with my four-part framework 13:08 - Discussing the first part of the framework  17:58 - How Suze Orman stressed me out and Ramit Sethi hel

I’ve got an exciting announcement to make! I want to let you know about an upcoming, free workshop and open house called How to Do the Work. I’ve never taught it before, but it’s a tangible workshop that’ll help you actually implement the inner work you need to do to change your life. In this very short episode, I briefly talk about the workshop and the open house bonus you receive if you sign up. 1:18 - Who will really love this free workshop 1:57 - How you’ll benefit from the five tenets I’ll cover in the workshop 2:57 - Why this is the most affordable time to work with me in 2022 4:04 - A solution for you if you want to work with me but can’t start right now 5:03 - How to sign up for the workshop and access it for the rest of the month I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Sign up for the free workshop happening on February 10. If you get value from the Love Life

You might relate to today’s coaching call with Sarah and her dilemma. She has a pattern of codependency where her feelings are tied up in relationships, specifically whether or not she’s in one or if someone likes her back. While the circumstances of your situation will be different, I ask her a question that I also want you to ask yourself as you listen to this episode. In it, I walk her through a process that’s applicable regardless of your background or experience. Prepare yourself as this conversation takes a lot of twists and turns! 13:38​ - The current situation with Sarah’s love life 16:22 - The main thing Sarah took away from being told she was too sensitive growing up 19:07 - What Sarah gets from a new relationship that she feels she can’t generate on her own 24:04 - Sarah’s struggle with her attempts to do inner child work and what her 11-year old self experienced 30:03 - What the core wound you’re dealing with is really all about and a more effective way for Sarah to do inner child work 34:59 - Why

What’s in store for us in 2022, astrologically speaking? You long-time listeners know I like to have Veronica Perretti on occasionally to give us an astrological update on what we can expect and how it might show up in our personal lives. Within the past couple of years, we’ve been preoccupied with the pandemic, so can we expect any changes with COVID in the next few months? What do we have to look forward to (or be wary of) this year?  In today’s episode, Veronica’s back to talk about all things astrology, both in terms of our lives individually as well as the big picture perspective. 6:56 - Asking Veronica the question we all want to know 11:41 - Why people feel less gung-ho about 2022 15:24 - How Venus retrogrades affect your relationships with everything 20:29 - The effect of a pretty rare planet conjunction occurring in February and March 24:26 - Why February to May is your period of opportunity in 2022 26:54 - What the North and South Nodes moving into Taurus and Scorpio, respectively, this January mean

We intertwine money and love in so many ways. There’s a really good chance you relate to one the same way you do to the other. I’ve seen it in myself and my clients, like living together and having to figure out how to pay the bills. But that’s just the practical side of it. We interconnect money and love on energetic, emotional, and even spiritual levels too. In this episode, caller Brooke’s feelings about her financial situation also makes things feel awkward when it comes to dating. Listen as I help her unravel the money story behind her mindset and offer action steps to begin the healing process. 4:48 - Five financial questions to consider while you listen to the episode 10:44 - Brooke explains her awkward situation regarding dating and money 14:08 - Explaining my philosophy about money 15:05 - Brooke discusses the financial situation in her household growing up 17:34 - Brooke’s relationship with money now as an adult 22:59 - Tendency to see money and love as measures of self-worth 27:39 - An exercise for

So many dates yet no real, rock-solid relationship in sight? What you need is a no-nonsense approach to dating and relationships that’s entertainingly funny, heartbreaking, and soulful... and that works! My book, You Are Meant for Love, fits the bill and is available for pre-order right now! To give you a taste, in this episode I share a little of the backstory behind why I wrote it, how it came to be, and read you the introduction and an excerpt from the first chapter.  2:16 - What my book is centered around 3:07 - The backstory behind the book’s creation 7:58 - Why I choose the self-publishing route instead of traditional 9:40 - The one kinda cheesy thing I must say... 14:09 - Reading the introduction to You Are Meant For Love 27:47 - An excerpt from Ch. 1 called “And the Nice Guys Are So Boring” I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you! After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps: Pre-order my book You Are Meant

Long-time listeners might get a sense of déjà vu with today’s show. This is a coaching call from 2019 but a very popular, timely, and super relatable one. That’s because what my guest Andree-Anne and I discuss is something a lot of women, including myself, have experienced. If you tend to get wrapped up emotionally (and physically) with new partners long before any real connection gets made, you’re not alone. Listen in as I help Andree-Anne discover the truth behind her relationship attachment tendencies and offer strategies for breaking the pattern. 12:11 - Questions to keep in mind as you listen to this coaching call 15:22 - Why Andree-Anne feels she gets attached to guys too fast 18:39 - The pattern she has seen since the age of four that she fears is playing out in her own love life 23:58 - A short, complete-the-sentence exercise to get to the uncomfortable truth behind her issue 27:00 - What she believes a relationship will provide her that she can’t provide for herself now 28:15 - How she can connect wi

When people ask me about strategies for online dating, it’s difficult to answer. There’s usually another, deeper question underneath the initial one like, “Why am I not attracting this person?” or “Why is this happening to me online?” However, I have found that online dating tends to be a microcosm of whatever pattern you’re playing out. So in this episode, I dig into some methods to help you rethink your approach. I offer four easy, soulful strategies you can use to create more connection in your online dating experience with a whole lot less burnout. 1:11 - Choosing alternatives to your typical New Year’s celebrations 6:11 - Why I’m talking about online dating now 12:23 - Strategy #1 gives the middle finger to a giant myth about online dating 15:43 - Online dating from a different angle with the “swipe right” strategy 19:38 - How the “shit or get off the pot” strategy can save you time and energy 25:42 - How to use the “show, not tell” strategy on your dating profile I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me

I’ve talked a lot about body image on this podcast. But I’ve never had an expert in the subject on the show... until now. And with the holiday cheer accompanied by the challenge of cookies, cakes, and other food and wine everywhere, I think now’s the perfect time for this conversation. My guest Jenna Free has a ton of knowledge about eating disorders and body dysmorphia and acceptance. So I had to have her on to give her perspective and teach us a few things to help you navigate the holiday season. But our conversation took an interesting turn I didn’t anticipate. We ended up discussing beauty culture a lot, in addition to body issues and how to navigate the unwanted comments and lack of boundaries from friends and family during holidays. 1:30 - A couple of tips for those who find this time of a year a challenge to get through 10:54 - A caveat before you listen to the interview 15:36 - Jenna introduces herself and her history with food and body image 17:34 - The biggest misconception about food addiction 18:5

Lots of people have a hate-hate relationship with online dating and believe it’s responsible for their love life woes. But online dating isn’t inherently good or bad. It’s just a neutral space, like a bar or the workplace. I find that people likely manifest their online dating experience based on their larger relationship pattern which brings me to my caller today, Erin. She’s frustrated because she’s unable to replicate the online dating success her friends enjoy and wants to know what she’s doing wrong. As you listen, though, you’ll discover why online dating practices aren't her main issue. 10:04 - Erin describes the dating pattern she’s had in relationships 14:06 - The first thing that pops into Erin’s head during a short exercise 16:52 - Why Erin lost her sense of security and how she’s tried to gain it back 21:35 - How Erin’s upbringing led to a lack of trust in her ability to provide security for herself 23:15 - A bit of a woo-woo spiritual exercise I take Erin through 27:31 - The mistake some overly-d

I’m about to say something controversial, even seemingly contradictory. I love manifesting, but the law of attraction is crap. And I love talking crap about it because it grinds my gears how much harm it does.  For too long, it’s been used as a force of manipulation across the personal development, wellness, and MLM industries and can actually lead to more frustration in your love life. So in this episode, I want to focus on why the law of attraction is so toxic and how you can manifest without it. 8:07 - Why the popular comparison of the law of attraction to the law of gravity doesn’t work and is really harmful 10:54 - The huge flaw in equating the law of attraction with quantum physics 14:01 - One area where the law of attraction is useful (but even this comes with a caveat) 17:12 - Another big issue with the law of attraction and my theory about why it was popularized 20:33 - The simple, two-step process for manifesting what you want I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with yo