3 Women 3 Ways

If you’ve ever experienced family court, you know how wrenching it can be.  In difficult cases it’s hard to find a lawyer to tackle the issues, and if you’re broke, good luck getting legal advice.  In the brotherhood/sisterhood of lawyers, one particular woman stands out – REALLY stands out.  Elizabeth Kates has practice law for 34 years with impressive qualifications like a J.D. and LLM degrees from University of Florida, plus psychology training.  She has practiced in the areas of finance, taxation and gender issues affecting women in the IRS and other federal laws.  But she is so much more. Liz founded lizlibrary.org to focus on women’s issues and history, which is probably the most comprehensive site about divorce, custody, news, and so much more.  She believes that there is an abrogation of the rule of law in family law that has led to more and more problems for women in divorce and child custody, even as the changes in the laws in other areas have purported to equalize women's rights. And to top it of

THE POLICE AND DOMESTIC VIOLENCE- MORE THAN ARRESTS You’ve heard about mandatory arrest in domestic violence cases – somebody is going to jail if you call the police, right?  What about dual arrests?  Do police have special training for DV? How do they decide who is the perpetrator?  Who makes decisions about police training and actions in these cases? All these questions and more will be covered by Margaret Alquist, MSW, MPA, when she joins us Saturday to talk about correction departments and domestic violence.  Margaret is currently a presentence writer for sex offenders and also DV lead.  She has been involved in domestic violence issues for the Washington State Department of Corrections and is responsible for developing and implementing a DV policy, curriculum, and training for DOC staff.  Margaret started out her DV career as a community-based DV advocate with New Beginnings.  She also served as a crisis social worker for Oahu Hawaii’s child protection system. Margaret is an active member of the King C

Did you know that Italian schools are now teaching classes in how not to kill your girlfriend?  That a study carried out by Peru’s National Mental Health Institute found that 21% of women in that country experience domestic violence daily?  That domestic violence and rape have gone up in South Africa?  Women's status and crimes against women is the focus ot Saturday's show with Rita Henley Jensen, world traveler and editor of Women's E-News.  Join us for a rocking discussion of women's issues world wide. Join us at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways and call in to 646-378-0430.

There are two things most people know about rape kits:  There’s a huge backlog of kits that have never been tested, and “Law and Order” always gets their rape kits tested immediately.  That’s a start, but there is a whole lot more about the kits, the law, the Violence Against Women Act, and who pays for them.  Do you know whether it is only police or the individual who can request the test?  Does a victim have to prosecute if the police get a rape kit tested?  How about the privacy issue?  The Department of Justice recently released an evaluative report answering these questions and more.  Katy Waldman has investigated and reported on the latest DOJ information and she will be here to share that information with us on Saturday.  Katy writes about women's issues, culture, books, and science for Slate magazine, where she is an assistant editor. Her work has appeared in the Paris Review Daily, the Washington Post, Narrative, and elsewhere. She lives in Washington, DC.  Join us Saturday at 11 to learn more about

DUAL ARRESTS- WHAT IS IT, WHO USES IT, AND IS IT EFFECTIVE? Sometimes when police officers are called to a domestic violence situation, they arrest the man, sometimes they arrest the woman, and then there are the times they arrest both.  Some research indicates that dual arrest increases the likelihood of the victim being arrested along with the abuser.  So why do some police departments do that?  What can we do about it? Julie Randall, a former probation officer turned victims’ rights advocate joins us to talk about dual arrests.  She is the coordinator of the Hendricks County (Indiana) Coalition Against Domestic Violence, and was the founding executive director of Sheltering Wings domestic violence shelter.  Her background in advocacy, community outreach, education and policy development will help us figure out whether dual arrest is a good thing or not, and why some police use the policy of duel arrests more than others.

GENDER STUDIES, WOMEN’S STUDIES—DO WE REALLY STILL NEED THEM? You remember women’s studies – started around the time young women were supposedly burning their bras.  If you’re a supporter of the programs, they are a place to learn the history of feminism, equality, and women’s accomplishments in the world.  If you aren’t a supporter, those programs are for women with short hair and Birkenstocks to learn how to resent men.  Fortunately, both those stereotypes are off the mark.  So – what is women’s studies and how are such programs relevant today? We’ll get those answers and more as Yi-Chun Tricia Lin, Director and Professor of the Women’s Studies Program at Southern Connecticut State University, joins us for Saturday’s show.  Growing up in Taiwan, Tricia was expected to follow a life as previous generations of women had- obedient and submissive to patriarchy.  That didn’t work for her, and instead she went to graduate school and became a teacher focusing on social justice issues, including gender, racial, a

Some news articles, some TV clips, a few coffee break discussions are popping up about human trafficking.  Isn’t that a problem found only in the slums of Asia?  Unfortunately it’s an issue that is much more prevalent than most of us know, and it affects people everywhere – even cherry cheeked farmers’ daughters in Iowa.  Joining us this Saturday for a discussion about what trafficking is, who it affects, and what we can do about it, will beVelma Veloria, former Washington State legislator, and expert on trafficking, will join us.  Ms. Veloria was instrumental in passing HB1175, making Washington the first state in the nation to criminalize trafficking.  She’s now working to address corporate responsibility around human trafficking, as well as working with Washington legislators to formulate and pass legislation that would make aspects of human rights offenses covered under Washington law.   She authored legislation that created a Joint Legislative Oversight Committee on International Trade Policy in the St

So many stories about domestic violence; so many books. How to get the book that will help you or your friends and family the most. That’s our topic for discussion Saturday. We’ll have Debra Adams, BA/MA, Interdisciplinary Studies join us to talk about three books she has helped author. An international Expert on Education and Prevention of Domestic Violence, she lived in an abusive marriage for 17 years, and for the last 20 years she has been working to stop violence against women. Debra also hosts her own radio show, Debra Ses at http://debra-ses.blogspot.com/   She will be talking about The Missing Piece in Business, The Missing Piece: A Transformational Journey; and Why Doesn’t she just leave? Real Women, Real Stories, among others. If you have a favorite book, comments about books and research in the field of violence against women, or if you would like a peek at what’s out there, join us Saturday as we take time to talk books.

THOUGHT HEARTBLEED MAKES YOU VULNERABLE?  TRY CYBERSTAKING Victims of domestic violence have to worry about what happens when their abusers are in the same house with them, and now they have to worry when their abusers are nowhere in sight.  Technology is making stalking, bullying, controlling, and even spying a real threat to victims.  NSA type tracking and monitoring doesn’t hold a candle to the intrusive ways abusers use technology to harass and strike fear in their victims.  MobiStealth was used by a murderer to read his girlfriend’s text messages to learn of her plans to leave him.  The CDC reports more than 8 million women have been stalked, and 81% of those women were physically assaulted. Michele Garcia is the director of the Stalking Resource Center for the National Center for Victims of Crime, an organization that works toward education, promoting victim safety, and holding offenders accountable.  She has 20 years of experience working for victims’ rights and domestic violence.  Join us Saturday

.So there is a man in Delaware who admitted to the court that he raped his 3-year-old daughter.  The man is a wealthy heir to the DuPont fortune.  The judge in the case decided the man would not "fare well" in prison.  His sentence is probation.  HUH?  This is an admitted pedophile!  His victim got a life sentence. Did monty play a part in the sentence?  Did influence play a part?  What about other children who will be exposed to this man while he is free to live his life? Eric Merlino, a lifelong Wilmington, Delaware resident, is the executive director of Contact Lifeline, a rape crisis hotline and advocacy program, joins us to discuss this case, whether it's a unique situation, how often these things happen, and what we should be doing about it.  Eric has a degree in Sociology and Criminal Justice from the University of Delaware and a Masters in Counseling Psychology from Temple University.  He has 27 years of experience in behavioral health and human services, and was the Delaware state volunteer coordin

Last week we talked about the new book, "Voice Male: The Untold Story of the Profeminist Men's Movement." by Rob Okun.  This week we'll continue looking at men working for gender equality, raising boys, male socialization, and fathering, with Okun.  We might even talk about the "men's rights movement," a culture of patriarchy, and what the heck Rob's been doing over the years to promote equality and feminism. Okun is Editor of Voice Male magazine and former executive director of the Men’s Resource Center for Change, one of the oldest men’s centers in North America. His essays have appeared in newspapers, magazines and websites including Ms., Women’s eNews, Alternet, MenEngage and Vday.

MEN OF THE MOVEMENT Are men afraid of feminists?  What is the “man box?”  Do “real men” work for gender equality?  These are just some of the issues we’ll talk about Saturday when Rob Okun joins us Saturday.  His new book,  “ Voice Male,” looks at men’s experiences with feminism, manliness,  fathering, growing up male, and the history of men’s involvement in the profeminist movement.  Subtitled The Untold Story of the Profeminist Men’s Movement, the book brings readers inside “one of the most important social justice movements you’ve never heard of”—the social transformation of masculinities.  Okun is Editor of Voice Male magazine and former executive director of the Men’s Resource Center for Change, one of the oldest men’s centers in North America.   His essays have appeared in newspapers, magazines and websites including Ms., Women’s eNews, Alternet, MenEngage and Vday.  Rob led batterer intervention groups for many years and is psychotherapist practicing in Amherst, Massachusetts.  He is co-chair of the

VIOLENCE IN MARGINALIZED POPULATIONS   Sometimes when we talk about domestic violence, we assume it means abuse between a man and a woman who are in an intimate relationship.  That’s certainly a big part of domestic violence, but it doesn’t stop there.  Violence can and does, also happen in relationships between same gendered couples, and what is often called the “Marginalized Populations.”   Since intimate partner violence is about power and control over another, any relationship is susceptible, and can suffer from abuse. Saturday, Dawn Monet shares the facts, the insights and the realities of abuse.  Dawn is a community advocate for the NW Network of Bisexual, Trans, Lesbian and Gay Survivors of Abuse, and has been involved with this work for 15 years.  She is a graduate with honors from UCSB, with a special interest in art therapy, and was awarded “Special Merit” University Service Award.  Be with us Saturday to learn more about the less talked about victims of domestic violence.

The complications from domestic violence are far and wide, and we’ve talked with experts on physical assault, the children who witness violence, and even professionals who work with the offenders.  Now it’s time we talk with someone who has lived the nightmare.  Maralee McLean is a mother who faced the family justice courts to battle for the safety and custody of her children.  The trauma, ignorance and failure of the family court and justice system led her to write, “Prosecuted But Not Silenced,” a book that has become a reference for not only judges and lawyers, but for other mothers fighting for their children.  Maralee will be with us Saturday to talk not only about her personal struggles, but about the situation rampant in our family court system where the officials and decision makers are placing  children in danger.

You’ve heard the numbers tossed around- half of all abused spouses are men, women are as violent as men, she’s the one who abused me!  And there’s no doubt that women can be perpetrators of domestic violence.  So what’s the real story about women who abuse?  We are fortunate to have Lisa Young Larance, MSW, join us for Saturday’s show, “When women use violence.”  She is the Domestic Violence Intervention Services Coordinator at a Michigan Catholic Social Services organization, and has researched, written about and talked about women’s use of force.  Find out how often women strike out, when and why they strike out, and what we know about women who have used force in relationships.  It’s not a simple topic.  Join us, share your comments and stories with us, and let others know about this controversial show.

So do all women have to escape to shelters with just their kids and the clothes on their backs in order to be safe from domestic violence?  That's pretty much how it's been for a couple of decades.  Now, though, some pretty exciting changes are coming into play for victims of DV.  Want to stay in your home?  Need help with rent?  What's safe, what's practical, and what's on the horizon for women who have to get away from an abuser?  Linda Olsen, from the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence joins 3 Women 3 Ways to tell us what's up.  Join us, call in, take part.

So do all women have to escape to shelters with just their kids and the clothes on their backs in order to be safe from domestic violence?  That's pretty much how it's been for a couple of decades.  Now, though, some pretty exciting changes are coming into play for victims of DV.  Want to stay in your home?  Need help with rent?  What's safe, what's practical, and what's on the horizon for women who have to get away from an abuser?  Linda Olsen, from the Washington State Coalition Against Domestic Violence joins 3 Women 3 Ways to tell us what's up.  Join us, call in, take part.

Do employers have an obligation to protect victims of domestic violence?  Does domestic violence show up at work?  What about the office bully?  Is that another form of victimization?  Join us Saturday as guest Helen LaVan, PhD, helps us learn more about the bully at work, the fallout from experiencing domestic violence and the work place, the role of the employers.  LaVan is a Professor of Management at DePaul University, where she researches and publishes articles on employment discrimination and employee relations.  Her recent publications have been about workplace bullying, the ethics of the Second Amendment (forthcoming), and the spillover of domestic violence into the workplace.  She is a licensed counselor (LPC) in the State of Illinois. Saturday morning, 11 am Pacific at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways Call-in with your comments to (646) 378-0430. And if you miss the live program, you can go to the website and listen to all our archived programs whenever you are able.

Did you know that Italian schools are now teaching classes in how not to kill your girlfriend?  That a study carried out by Peru’s National Mental Health Institute found that 21% of women in that country experience domestic violence daily?  That domestic violence and rape have gone up in South Africa?  Women's status and crimes against women is the focus ot Saturday's show with Rita Henley Jensen, world traveler and editor of Women's E-News.  Join us for a rocking discussion of women's issues world wide. Join us at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/3women3ways and call in to 646-378-0430.

Abortion is a hot button for most people, and no matter whether you think it’s an inalienable right or murder, or somewhere in between, you should know what’s happening in the US regarding the issue. A new report from the Guttmacher institute reports that 42 different states enacted more than 120 provisions regarding reproductive health in 2012 - and 92 abortion restrictions in 2011. Ranging from provision of educational materials, required ultrasounds and even requiring non-medically necessary trans-vaginal ultrasounds, states have been busy the last couple of years regarding how much say the state has in a woman’s decision to have an abortion. North Dakota has passed a law that prohibits abortion for gender or genetic defect of the fetus. And it looks like these conditions placed on abortion are continuing to gain in popularity. Join us Saturday as guest Megan Burbank, Communications Director of NARAL Pro-Choice Washington helps us make some sense of this trend. Megan holds degrees from Smith College and