Date/able Podcast

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Today is a reminder that GOOD GUYS EXIST! We’re joined by Vasanth, who breaks down the everyday things that help you become a better partner. He has this grounded, thoughtful way of talking about relationships that instantly restores your faith in men who put in emotional effort and genuinely care about showing up well. If you’ve ever felt discouraged or convinced that emotional effort is asking for too much, this episode is your reminder that aligned, intentional, emotionally available men exist—and they’re looking for someone who values this level of care just as much as they do. And if you are a guy: take note and try these small gestures with the people you date!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast,

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Here we are back with day #5: Talking about how to become naturally more magnetic, knowing that it’s not a matter of if you’ll find your person but rather when. We’re joined by Amy Spencer, author of Meeting Your Half-Orange, who shares how she rewired her thinking through dating optimism to attract her perfect other half. If dating has ever felt draining, confusing, or like you’re trying far too hard for very little in return, this episode is your reminder that optimism isn’t naive—it’s strategic, grounding, and incredibly attractive. Enjoy! Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview ava

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.We're back to remind you of the magic that happens when two people finally meet each other at the right moment. We’re talking with Valerie, who shares the incredible story of meeting her now-husband, Rob—first online (where they never actually met), and then again through a completely unexpected, real-life chance encounter. It’s one of those stories that pulls you right back into believing that dating isn’t just strategy… sometimes it’s serendipity. And to get there, we need to just keep going. Because eventually the timing will click. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Next up: Making dating fun again! We’re chatting with positive psychology coach and play expert Jeff Harry, who shows us what happens when you bring a fun, playful energy back into the dating process. If you’ve ever found yourself saying dating feels like another job, this episode is your reminder that joy, curiosity, and playfulness might just be the missing ingredients you’ve been overlooking.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.On this next episode, we're chatting with our friend Sheryl about how adopting a 'just say yes' open mentality completely transformed her dating life – as she started to attract men everywhere she went (including her now-husband!). If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns or unsure how to shift your dating trajectory, this episode is a reminder that sometimes the biggest changes start with the smallest internal shifts. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (S

As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.On the first episode, we're chatting with Christina Bradley, the author of 'Which way to Happiness?', about how to reframe those milestone years not as deadlines, but as invitations to get clear on what you want, not what you think you should have by now. If you’ve ever felt behind, out of sync, or worried that you “should have” been further along in love or life, this episode is your reminder that your story is still unfolding beautifully—and on your timeline. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podca

Being detached doesn't mean that you don't care or give up on dating. But it does mean that you know your worth and aren't going to settle for less than treatment because you got attached to someone or the idea of a relationship working out. We're joined with guest Sabrina Bendory for our Season 21 finale to discuss the power of detachment – through her own story and those of her clients – and how this subtle shift can help you reclaim your agency when dating. We discuss navigating ambiguity in dating in a way that frees you from anxiety, how to take control of what's in your control when dating (and detach from the rest), and ways you can practice micro-surrendering without surrendering your need for a healthy, fulfilling relationship. Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow Sabrina @sabrinabendory and, check out her new book 'Detached: How to Let Go, Heal & Become Irresistible',

Hot take: The holidays are actually the best time to be single. Between holiday parties, so many events, and everyone feeling merry, there are SO many opportunities to meet new people, reconnect with friends, and just enjoy December. We're discussing some of our favorite ideas for friend group activities, dates (early on or with a partner) and masturdates (i.e dates you can do on your own). We also talk about how to motivate yourself when you're not feeling festive and what to do if you don't have a network/ friends in your area. Enjoy!Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is a

We're giving you an authentic, raw and rare male perspective on Dateable—that of a single British man in his 40s, who’s done the inner work to finally become emotionally available and ready for a committed relationship… after a long chapter of global thrill-seeking, temptation, hedonism and personal escape. Join us as we talk to Phil about his journey – how he realized he was hiding from intimacy and how he started to carve a path out. We discuss the balance needed in your lifestyle to be ready for a relationship, the ways his social life has changed and where he's meeting people now, and what he's done to confront some of the behaviors he knows are getting in his way (and continues to do as it's still an evolving process!) If this resonates, feel free to reach out to Phil @philwilkinson811 (per his request!)Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplat

Have you ever questioned if something you were doing or saying would be perceived as odd when dating? We're breaking down two instances that have come up recently – and if the reactions warranted the efforts. We're discussing how things can be perceived especially when talking on dating apps, what to do to navigate a situation that feels a little off despite good intentions, and why some actions aren't always perceived the way you'd think they would be when dating. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Avocado Gre

Happy Thanksgiving all! First off, we're grateful for YOU but we wanted to do a little pre-thanksgiving gratitude to put us all into the thankful spirit. Because despite the many challenges in modern dating, there actually is a lot to be grateful when we think about how much we're developing into the type of partners we want to be. We discuss 7 ways you can feel gratitude even when dating is hard, how to appreciate all the moments along the way, and our own personal things we are grateful for this year.Plus we unveil something SO COOL we've been working on and can't wait to share with you. Enjoy!Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Sch

Ever ask your partner for support and end up getting a TED Talk you never requested? We’re exploring how unsolicited advice shows up in partnerships, why it can feel so invalidating, and how well-meaning intentions can still land the wrong way. We're discussing the difference of wanting to help and overstepping, how to to not overstep boundaries (especially in a world with ChatGPT where everyone can be the expert on anything!), and why sometimes, just being there is the best support.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedateable.com/Our Sponsors:* Bioma

Is love coming later than you expected? We're back with a quickie where Julie talks about what she learned about getting married a bit "later" in life and how letting go of timelines helped find the type of relationship that actually works. This isn't to say you have to wait until 40 to find your person, but there are benefits if you can find them! Hoping this serves as a reminder to trust in your timing and eventually it'll all make sense.Full article: https://substack.com/home/post/p-176438333 or go to https://juliekrafchick.substack.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025) is available now: https://howtobedat

What if the secret to a healthy, lasting relationship isn’t finding “the right person”… but designing the relationship that’s actually right for you? We’re here with Ellecia Paine who experienced first-hand what it's like to be in a relationship that looks good on the outside but feels empty on the inside, – and how she used this experience to completely redefine what she was looking for in a partnership. We discuss how to break out of the inherited “shoulds” when searching for love, why it's not "too much" to ask for more when it comes to your relationship, and how to create a structure that’s built for who you are, whether you’ve found your person or not.TW: We talk about an abusive relationship at the start of the interview.Follow Ellecia @elleciapaine and check out her work at: https://www.elleciapaine.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonpla

In a world where everything feels uncertain, is it actually possible to future-proof your relationship? In today’s episode, we’re diving into one of the biggest dating trends of 2025: the rise of future-proofing. With people becoming more intentional about who they commit to, long-term compatibility is suddenly more attractive than fleeting chemistry — and psychologists are backing it. In fact, a recent Forbes article calls future-proofing “the healthiest dating trend of 2025,” but is it realistic? We're unpacking why trying to predict the future with a partner isn’t foolproof. In this episode, we break down what future-proofing really means, why it’s trending, where it goes wrong, and how conscious dating (not perfection-hunting) is still the most powerful way to build a fulfilling relationship.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplaton

Does dating feel less like a rom-com and more like a horror show these days? We’re here with Rory who has survived it all – from the ghosters, narcissists, and all the other characters out there. But more importantly, how she became a 'final girl' who made it out alive. We're discussing some of the common 'monsters' in dating, how you break toxic dating patterns that get you involved with them in the first place, and ways you can be the final girl (or guy) romanticizing your own love story – whether you've met your person or not. Follow Rory @icouldbeblonder and check out her book 'A Final Girls Guide to the Horrors of Dating'Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE W

Most people are not truly single in modern dating. Even if they say they are. And being on this 'single scale' could be exactly what's holding you back from finding your forever person. Because many of us (or the people we're dating!) are semi in the middle - caught in situationships, FWB situations, casual hookups, or unrequited love. Or even if they aren't – you never know who else they are dating and in what stage they are with their connection! We're discussing how understanding the single scale can change your approach, why being comfortable being single AF is actually the ultimate path, and ways you can ask 'How single are you?' without those exact words. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Intervi

Have you ever been with someone that said they wanted to get married – yet couldn't seem to pull the plug when it came to commitment? What happens when they have a pattern of ending things as they are getting serious? We're talking to our guest Steve Budd about his continued search for "The One" and how his struggles with commitment have ended numerous serious relationships despite him wanting to get married more than anything. We're discussing wanting a relationship vs. having the capacity for one, the fall out of how Dreamer tendencies can get ahead of themselves in relationships, and how to preserve hope as you date through your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond.Follow Steve @buddgram and learn more about his performances: https://www.stevebudd.com/Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen t

You may have seen the viral article 'Is Having a Boyfriend Embarrassing Now"? from Vogue circling around. We're giving our two cents on the article: from why are equating social media to life, the difference of having your own identity vs. being embarrassed about having a relationship, and how this article is missing research, depth, and nuance to actually decode a trend on relationships. Let us know your take if you've read the article, or if not, check it out first: https://www.vogue.com/article/is-having-a-boyfriend-embarrassing-now.Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at hello@dateablepodcast.comGet OUR BOOK + take the Dating Archetypes quiz: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content about modern dating. Also listen to our other podcast Exit Interview available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts.WE WROTE A BOOK! HOW TO BE DATEABLE (Simon & Schuster, Jan 2025)

Whether it was from a situation you thought was going to become more to your ex of five years, moving on after heartbreak is one of the most challenging parts of finding love. We're here with your breakup bestie Kendra Allen who is joining us to talk about what it looks like to regain your sense of self and come back stronger after heartbreak...to eventually meet the love of your life (or actually get back with your ex in a way that it is sustainable for the long-haul). We discuss how to know whether you made the right decision when you ended things, ways to rebuild your confidence after a breakup, and heartbreak hacks that make you unstoppable. Plus we debrief on Julie's honeymoon to Greece + Yue's family trip in China. Follow Kendra @yourbreakupbestie and listen to her podcast 'Heal Your Heartbreak' (we are episode #254) wherever you get your podcasts.Take the Dating Archetypes quiz now: https://howtobedateable.com/HOW TO BE DATEABLE IS OUT! Order now: https://howtobedateable.com/Follow