Unsoulmated Podcast (or How To Ruin A Lasting Marriage With A Divorce)

Day 198. I slight change in plans but I am able to still talk to my friend who got divorced shortly before I found out about my impending divorce. I see similarities between his divorce and mine. I also learn that my other friend has had a change in heart when it comes to his life philosophy.

Day 197. Saturday evening, I will be hanging out with some old friends. The significance of these old friends involve history between us, but more recently, one of these friends got divorced 3-4 months before my wife announced we were separating. It will be interesting talking to this friend for the first time since his and my divorce.

Day 196. It's been years since I have felt like I was a part of a family outside of my own biological family. And now with my own family partially broken up, the desire to belong has become greater and tonight's open mic opened my eyes to my potential new family.

Day 195.B. I mentioned in a previous episode a short one-act play I wrote called "Rocks". I used this as an example of how subjective comedy can be. I personally had a lot of fun writing this little play but still wonder if I will probably ever be the only person in the world that finds the play amusing. This episode, I do a cold read of the play for your listening (dis)pleasure.

Day 195. There are benefits of just being in the friend zone, some of which can be very satisfying when you are single. But if you cannot handle being just friends without wanting to get physical, it's best you avoid it altogether.

Day 194. Over the years, I have formulated a position that states that it is more difficult for a dramatic actor to transition into comedic acting than it is for a comedic actor to do a dramatic performance. This has caused some of my peers who are really into drama to become rather, ahem, dramatic in that they do not agree with me, but I stand my ground.

Day 193. A friend advises me to set up potential partners by befriending single women I am attracted to, so when I am ready to date, my foot will already be in the door. I halfheartedly take this advice but my first attempt at setting the groundwork with one candidate proves to be much more drama than I want to deal with.

Day 192. You have to be careful when you are still healing from heartbreak because sometimes the most random things can trigger old feelings and then you are suddenly a blubbering mess by the koi pond. Today, a Billy Joel song does this to me.

Day 191. I suddenly realize today that things that were once drastic changes in my life has become normalized. In a way that indicates that I should be closer to a regular life again, without outrageous surprises and unexpected drama, and am happy about the prospect of all this change soon becoming "normal".

Day 190. An important learning for me that my ex could never fully grasp is the fact that in reality, even when I feel like no one notices me or cares to pay attention to me, people DO notice me and do catalog what they see about me.

Day 189. Another night at the comedy club. Tonight a fight almost breaks out and I get a public offer for a one-night stand. Plus, a really ridiculous comedy bit I wrote that I decided was too ridiculous to use onstage tonight, so instead, I am sharing it here.

Day 188. Chris Pratt's acceptance speech at the MTV TV & Movie Awards reminds me of my approach to preaching the Gospel. The very approach that sparked my Lost Soulmate's criticism towards my conviction as a Christian, and what led to the demise of our relationship.

Day 187. I take my son into the doctor's to be examined regarding his allergies. I am accepting of the doctor's diagnosis but when I text the details to my ex, her response is less than desirable and brings back old feelings of her undermining my decisions in parenting.

Day 186. A short stroll down memory lane, remembering one of the better times during my marriage, the time when I was able to see "Weird Al" Yankovic in concert for the first time through a special birthday present for my son. Little did we know that efforts to make this a special birthday event for him would result in a surprise gift from Weird Al himself.

Day 185. It was a good Father's Day but as with all of these holidays these days, you will see a comment of two that starts to make you feel guilty about celebrating. But the question is, should you feel guilty? Or should those who are sensitive to certain subject matters try to cope without making others feel like they should share in your grief?

Day 184. I suddenly realize that I never have to see my former in-laws ever again, which is the best Father's Day gift a dad could ask for.

Day 183. Rarely do we ever get to "be in that position" where we say we would have done something differently than those who did it in a way we disagree with. In my case, within the past month up until even now, I have had multiple instances where attractive married women put out their feelers for me and I have remembered what doucheboy did to my marriage and use that to remind me how not to behave in these instances.

Day 182. Another unnecessary judgmental comment from one of my "friends" has me thinking about the intentions behind those who are always pushing their victim status in society and decide that she (and others) just wants the attention that a middle-class white girl never gets.

Day 181. My observations of other divorced men who have difficulty in even getting women to talk to them inspired me to make a list of things that I noticed that they do vs. things that I have learned to change about myself over the past couple of decades. And even though I am currently not looking to be with anyone, I have found that my current display of self-confidence has gotten me much more attention from the opposite sex than I had ever experienced before I got married 15 years ago.

Day 180. I have decided that most people get married for the wrong reason and because that won't change anytime soon, I have decided to encourage people who are "in love" NOT to get married, so as to save that love from going through the pains of a divorce because it will be inevitable if you get married because you are in love.