Unsoulmated Podcast (or How To Ruin A Lasting Marriage With A Divorce)

Day 179. Brainstorming ideas for my next comedy set, I remember details about the first time I had sex and how incredibly awkward the experience was. But fortunately, I overcame the experience and had a very fulfilling sex life (if not a weird one) with my first girlfriend.

Day 178. When you can truly understand how someone is feeling in a situation, it may give you direction on how you can do something to help that person. Or it may give you ample warning to avoid that person, which has been the case for me with a few other single divorced fathers who have tried to convince me to spend time with them.

Day 177. Outside of the experience of being an extra on a television series set, I also got to meet some new people and had pleasant conversations with them. Among the conversations, the two subjects that stood out the most for me was a dialogue I had with a young man who was torn about his current girlfriend situation, in which I discouraged him from getting married, and the other was a series of exchanges with a mid 20 year old girl that has me assessing what my own personal perspective was on dating people MUCH younger than yourself.

Day 176. I first experience as a television/film extra was a lot of fun. I got to see firsthand how the industry works behind the scenes and met a lot of really nice peers who, in a way, became like family through this 10 hour adventure.

Day 175.B. Recent news of the apparent suicides of Kate Spade and Anthony Bourdain and how some people (out of ignorance) is responding to this news in a way that is not healthy or helpful in any way.

Day 175. I learn tonight that there is a benefit in being a one-liner spouting comedian in the world of the open mic where you never really know how many minutes you get before the moderator will want you off stage. In addition, due to a recording mishap, I simply recite my set for the night sans a strict time limit so you can get the full effect of how the set would have played out had I not had to cut the live performance down to accommodate a shorter stage time limit.

Day 174. In an attempt to "help" me, a couple of peers gives me information that I either did not need or did not care to be informed of. I understand the intentions were well meaning but believe we all need to be more considerate when trying to show empathy.

Day 173. My life philosophy of letting the powers that be guide my journey and simply trusting what is best for me will come around on its own has served me well, and even today, without even asking for it, life offered me a chance at an opportunity I had always wanted to do, but had dismissed because I had no idea how to go about doing it.

Day 172. Recent events such as Roseanne getting cancelled & watching a racist comic being asked to step off of stage gets me to thinking about political correctness and how I should behave in today's overly sensitive climate of micromanagement of all things said and done.

Day 171. I spend the entire day doing yard work and I end up finding that it is more relaxing to me than actually relaxing. Plus, I have the children full time this week as my ex goes on a week-long vacation with her boyfriend, which inspires me to come up with a hypothesis of "what-if" regarding the idea that this could be a secret honeymoon for them.

Day 170. I take a day off from doing anything productive and actually take time to relax by seeing a movie and a live performance by Jim Gaffigan. Right in the middle of this day of relaxation, I learn of the death of an acquaintance, and it reminds me of the point in my life that I am in where more and more of those my age will begin passing away.

Day 169. Just when things were starting to get better, a bad choice of phrasing from a co-worker makes me think I had just been laid off. Fortunately, my peer explains himself and although I am still financially stable, it makes me consider what would happen had I really lost my job now.

Day 168. I discuss why I truly believe my Lost Soulmate has chosen a life of conviction to Christ and it isn't the good kind of conviction. I then wrap up the episode with some interesting comedy night happenings and close out with another comedy set.

Day 167. My ex informs me that, once again, things are moving faster than she had originally planned and although it really doesn't affect me in any way, I find it interesting that one of the things about her that used to drive me crazy no longer is an issue for me.

Day 166. I get an unexpected request from my ex regarding additional assets that need to be properly divided: my DVD collection. Learning that she is serious about getting her share of the movies we had in possession when we were married, it makes me wonder what other belongings I currently hold that she may consider taking half of.

Day 165. My meeting with my Pen Pal reminded me of a memory that I had not thought about in over two decades, and that memory was: why we stopped writing to each other in the first place. I tell the story of how a 3rd person being brought into our letter writing ritual brought our friendship to its inevitable end.

Day 164. While sorting through some financial planning, I calculate how much in total I will end up paying in child support by the time my youngest turns 18. I then wonder what happen if I were to win the lottery and an curious if any situation where I come about additional finances, would my ex have any claim to it.

Day 163.B. I was able to meet with my old pen pal from high school and the meeting actually ends up being very nice and insightful. I learn of her perceptions of my ex-wife and her sisters and realize further that I am not the only one who saw the messed up behavior that their family exhibited. I also learn to not be critical of people's reactions to me right now because it is a confusing time for everyone.

Day 163. A side note episode. I really hate the show "Fresh Off the Boat" because how poorly it represents real Asian American culture. Instead of the raw, unfiltered look into Asians adjusting to "be American" like the book gives you, it is a watered down cliche of how Asians act in America, and in a way that is worse than just being flat out racist.

Day 162. I start the episode with a joke, then I discuss a conversation I had with my "Hot Chick" friend and find that I may end up playing cupid to keep from disappointing her.