Unsoulmated Podcast (or How To Ruin A Lasting Marriage With A Divorce)

Day 121. Today I discuss my personal beliefs around the moral implications when it comes to casual sex, specifically around the idea of whether it is wrong or right to have sex outside of marriage.

Day 120. Lawyers do what they are paid to do, and what they are paid to do is to win. And most will not be above tricks and manipulations in order to get their opposing side to concede. Advice from a friend tells me that some of the requests I have been getting from my ex's attorney are tactics to wear me down and possible cause me to give up and just let her have what she wants. Fortunately, I am one stubborn opponent when I want to be.

Day 119. Considering my brother's recommendation of connecting with some old friends has me considering which one of my old friends I should connect with first. And the first person comes to mind is my old college roommate who we used to play pranks on each other. I explain one of ultimate pranks we did on each other and why this is the person I might be reconnecting with soon.

Day 118. During the course of my divorce, I meet many different kinds of people. It's interesting observing how different people behave different ways when it comes to taking sides in a divorce (or any kind of conflict between two people) and I admit that I find some of the types pretty annoying, while others I cherish very, very much.

Day 117. As I have tried to stay strong and positive, for some reason today is the day I finally break and although not overly dramatic, I do find myself needing to release somehow and not sure how many more days like this I want to have to face.

Day 116. A freak coincidence while I am working out validates my decision to remain single for the rest of my life. This confirmation also opens my eyes as to why my Lost Soulmate was not good for me, and that realization helps me grieve less about the outcome of our relationship.

Day 115. I get a message from my Lost Soulmate via her friend and it brings any hope of a future between us to a complete halt, in which, I now realize it was meant to be this way. In addition, my brother tries to get me to interact with old friends again, which I have an aversion to wanting to do.

Day 114. Fortunately, my ex graciously declines my offer to help and I am able to have a quiet day to focus on my aspirations. Today, I test out some of the jokes I have written to be used in my near future attempts at stand-up comedy, hoping I won't bomb out now before I even try. REQUEST: I would love to get your feedback on the jokes so please let me know what you think by emailing me at unsoulmated@gmail.com. Thank you.

Day 113. Upon my discussion with my ex regarding how she feels like she wants more regarding our assets, potentially even getting the house now, I try to understand what she is feeling and although I will not allow her to get the house without a fight, I have come up with an idea to help her deal with the emotional stress she is feeling from her actions of infidelity. And it could end up being a very bad idea.

Day 112. Now that I have more time in the evenings on the weekends, I am considering following some of the aspirations I had prior to getting married. But before that, I need to finalize what those aspirations are.

Day 111. My attorney sends me an email with information that could screw up my position on the divorce and potentially cause the judge to overturn the decisions that were decided on. To add insult to injury, my ex calls me and tries to convince I screwed her over, which I adamantly defend myself against, reminding her that ALL of the results were based on OUR agreements, which she is now changing her position on.

Day 110. What was almost an uneventful, quiet Tuesday gets a bit rocked when my attorney informs me that there is a change to our scheduled hearing for 4/4/18 and it appears my ex's desperation to bleed me dry is taking a different tactic to try and get more out of me, and I am not happy about it.

Day 109. My recent experience with trying to date again and my introspection since then drives me to not give up on my Lost Soulmate. I regret some of the choices I made in our last exchange and my decision to stop responding to her when she was in attack mode. I now try to do some damage control and hope she has not totally written me off at this point.

Day 108. I suddenly realize holidays will be an interesting situation, especially on the ones that typically will involve having our kids with one of our sets of parents. And for my ex's side, this will be the first year that she will show up at her family gatherings with a different partner. One that my son already thinks is boring.

Day 107. I take a day to be in the Word and a quiet afternoon of meditating and Bible study reminds me why I minister the way I do and why it is important I stand firm to that direction, even if it may cause me to never see my Lost Soulmate again. But life has a way when you strengthen these convictions to try and steer you off course, as I discover during my time studying.

Day 106. I have been getting a lot of compliments lately on my physical shape. It's amazing the kind of motivation you can conjure up when you are dealing with diabetes, divorce, and depression. Seriously, today I talk about the workout regimen I created for myself to get to where I am today.

Day 105. My son shows me a funny cat video that leads me to notice one of my ex's many hypocrisies, which leads me to be reminded of how difficult and high maintenance she was, ever solidifying why our being divorced is something I so badly needed, otherwise she would have driven me to an early grave.

Day 104. For years, I held back on my full parenting methods because of my ex's disapproving eye whenever I would parent our children in a way that she did not agree with. Not having her judging stare around has made it easier for me to parent the way I need to parent and it shows in how behaved my children are at home when she is not around.

Day 103. Seeing the lack of chaos and disorganization that now exists in my home since my ex moved out makes it even more transparent that she was the unpredictable variable in our family dynamic that caused any issue with our family happiness. Her boyfriend's belief that he is rescuing her from a toxic situation within our family will get a rude awakening when he realizes the one thing that made our family dynamic remotely toxic in the first place, he is taking with him.

Day 102. I break from the traditional episode format to send out a message to my ex, her boyfriend, and any of her blind sheep supporters who may have found my podcast and may be listening to the show in order to see if they can get any juicy information they can use against me later.