How To Stop Wanting Him Back

Picture this. You’re out with friends, or you’re at an event, and there’s a chance you might see your ex. If you’re like my client, you might be freaking out, wondering what you would say to him, or maybe you even want to confront him so you can get the closure you feel like you need in order to move on. But what if you didn’t? What if you didn’t need his feedback in order to stop wanting him back? Focusing on this is actually keeping your person that much further away. Let’s unpack your thoughts around closure and feedback from someone that isn’t your person, and how you can move on without it. If you are struggling with a broken heart or are fixated on your ex and you are ready to be done with the struggle, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, p

Should you be further along? This is a thought that comes up a lot for my clients, and it came up again for 2 clients in my group coaching program this week. When it comes to seeing what others have, or feeling pressure about where we are in life, it can be painful and cause mind drama. It is pressure like this that keeps you stuck and pushes your ideal person away. You have the ability to shift your thoughts and practice new ones that serve you! So let’s clean up the drama around where you should be, and start to love where you are. If you are ready to clean up your heart in a different way, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through three calls a week, plus you have access to “Ask A Coach” where you can write in and get a coached response within 24 hours, as well as acce

I have such an awesome conversation to share with you today. My bestie and holistic health coach Jamie McKeowen is back! She has been a guest before where we have talked about what to eat on a broken heart, dating apps, and she has even helped me answer some of your questions. But today, we are talking about her and how she called love in.It was about this time last year when I was working on creating my course - which is now available in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better - and Jamie was instrumental in helping me create the videos in the program. In this conversation, Jamie shares how the work and the coaching I was doing helped her to identify where she wanted to make some changes in her love life to be ready for her person, and how she then created that result! Jamie has now been in an amazing relationship for eight months, and I am just so thrilled for her and what she has created. If you are ready to find your person like Jamie did, then I invite you to join my grou

I hope all of my listeners listen closely to this episode, even if you don’t think it’s for you! This was a theme for some of my clients and consult calls this week; women who really believed they were ready to date, and it was clear to me that they really were not. We all have human brains which have limiting beliefs that keep us stuck in mind drama, and keep our person further away. This is where the beauty of coaching comes into play! In this episode, I share how I coached one of my clients on her mind drama, what it feels like when you create and believe new thoughts that serve you, and how you can become the upleveled woman that is ready to date and find her person. If you are ready to clean up your heart in a different way, then I invite you to join my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program where I coach you through the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong Back, falling in love with you, and finding someone better. We do this through

“I just keep attracting unavailable men. This is just my pattern. This is what I do.” This is something I hear from my clients quite often and I coach them to be able to identify where they are being unavailable in their own lives to themselves and those around them. However, in today’s episode I want to take a bit of a different approach. What if, instead of thinking about the unavailable partners you attract and trying to diagnose where they’re coming from, you just said no and didn’t make it a problem? Holding on to this story that it’s just who you are, isn’t serving you. So let’s unpack it so that you can find your Mr. Right. This is the exact type of thing I help my clients understand about themselves in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that yo

Let’s say you have been showing up for yourself and to this work, staying committed to healing your heart, and you feel like you are ready to start dating, but you just aren’t sure. It may feel like the people around you are all in committed relationships, getting married, having children, and it can be easy to see that and think, “When is it my turn?” This question was brought up by a client in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back And Find Someone Better. When you are in the thick of your heartbreak or maybe just not yet in the result of finding your person, it can be easy to focus on the negative. In this episode, I share with you what it really means when you are asking this question, and how to know when you are ready. I am so excited to share with you an upcoming free training I am offering called How To Find Your Person. There will be two separate sessions, one on Wednesday, September 22nd, 2021 at 9am pacific standard time, and one on Thursday, September 23rd at 4pm pacific standard time. T

Why are you wanting to find love, and are you doing everything you can to create that result? I was recently talking with my dear friend and coaching colleague Danielle Savory, and we were talking about our own lack of urgency. I shared this with my group coaching clients and they were a little surprised to hear that sometimes I get comfortable, and I get complacent. But it’s true! Sometimes, when we create amazing results, like healing our hearts, we may find ourselves sitting back and resting in that, and we lose our steam for creating more results for ourselves. In this episode, I share with you how to light that fire for yourself and remind you why you should keep working to create the result of finding your person. We also talk about clean versus dirty urgency, the thoughts you may be thinking from a place of dirty urgency, and what it looks like when you are thinking clean urgent thoughts that inspire action, to create results. If this sounds like you and you are fired up to find your Mr. or Ms. Right,

It honestly makes me a little emotional when I think about the role that coaching has played in my business, my love life, and my entire life. When I began working with my business coach Stacey in June 2018, I was all in on growing my business, and I did! I created amazing results, built a life that I loved, and created a belief man plan in order to call in Mr. Right. I hear from people about the price of coaching and the reasons they give for not going all in on healing their hearts and finding Mr. or Ms. Right. In this episode, I share with you my willingness and commitment I had to finding my person and how I invested in creating the ideal relationship I have with the love of my life. It all begins with hiring a coach, and I know I am the best coach to help you heal your heart, deepen your relationship with yourself, and to help you find the partner of your dreams. If you are wanting results like what I created and really want to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back

Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 3 in my 3-part series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationships. And in part 2, I talked about ways you can approach and move through heartbreak as an empath. You can find part 2 here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/16/part-two-empath-life-during-heartbreakOne of the great things about being an empath is that we get to experience really high highs in our lives, including when we date! And because of this, it can lead to us not setting and holding boundaries, and even diving in too soon with people we don’t really know that well. As I said in episode 2, I’m not telling you to not be an empa

Empaths feel all the feels, and they feel them more and feel them harder than other people. This episode is a part 2 in my mini-series on being an empath, and how that plays a role when it comes to how we operate, how we move through heartbreak, and how we approach our dating lives. In part 1 I explored what it meant to be an empath. You can find that episode here: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2021/8/9/part-one-empath-life-in-romantic-relationshipsNow that we have a better understanding of what it means to be an empath, I want to stress that I’m not going to tell you how to not be an empath. Instead, let’s take a look at how you can take this level of understanding about yourself and your needs, and use it to navigate through a broken heart. I share some examples from my own dating life of being heartbroken, what it was like for me, and my 8 tips of how to move through your feelings and heal your heart.Topics In This EpisodeBeing an empath is not a problemWhy we attract broken people What make

I have shared on this podcast before that I am a number six on the enneagram, I have an anxious attachment style, and I’m an Aquarius. I believe that it is important to understand who we are, some of the labels that apply to us, so that we can then understand how it impacts our dating lives, and our entire lives! That is why I’ve created this mini-series about what it’s like to be an empath and look at how it shaped our heartbreak, and what it means about how we show up in our dating and love lives. In this episode, let’s explore what it means to be an empath and the 15 signs you may be one.This is the exact type of thing I help my clients understand about themselves in my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deep level that you never would have if you hadn’t gone thr

It’s no secret that I am a fiery, Irish woman. Even from my infancy, there are well-known family stories that they would have to tip-toe around me so that I wouldn’t wake up kicking and screaming. As an adult, I’ve been told that I am too dramatic and over the top. But when my gaslighting, narcissistic sociopath ex started saying the same thing, I began to really doubt myself.This is the exact topic that was brought up on a recent group coaching call with a client in my program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In working with this client, we have been cleaning up some stories from her emotionally abusive ex, and one of the remnants of his abuse left her unable to determine if her feelings were valid or not. In this episode, I share with you how to break it down and determine what your feelings are and how to have your own back through the process of figuring it out.Topics In This EpisodeSometimes Mr. Right comes before we are fully preparedIt takes time to get to know someone. And if this your

I am so excited to have another guest on the show again this week, my dear client Emily. She came to me for one-on-one coaching after the end of her divorce when she was ready to find her Mr. Right. She is now a member of my group coaching program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. I wanted to bring her on because since we have worked together, I have coached her through two heartbreaks, and I know that she is on the precipice of finding love. In our conversation, I ask Emily to share with you her dating experiences so that you can hear how together we determined exactly what her work would be. We talk about thought work, when it’s working, when it’s not, and how to know the difference. And we also discuss her relationship with money and not indulging our victim stories. If you are wanting results like Emily and really want to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you ha

You guys are in for such a treat today because I have another bestie from my mastermind on the podcast with us today, Lindsey Mango. She is a fellow life coach and she has a program called Anything But Average, where she helps people create their own coaching businesses. She teaches them to have an anything but average life so that they have the confidence to create that in their business. I wanted to bring Lindsey on the podcast because I believe that creating a result, no matter what it is, from healing your heart, reaching a health goal, or growing your business, is all about how you think, feel, and behave to get there. How we show up in one area of our life is how we show up in all areas of our life, and Lindsey is an amazing example of upleveled living and really creating the life you want and calling in Mr. Right. Topics In This EpisodeLooking at patterns in your dating life, and finding the common denominatorYour feelings are not their responsibility Create your bliss and invite someone to join inUnde

Let’s talk about time, and how long it takes to get closure and be able to move on from Mr. or Ms. Wrong. I recently had a client tell me she was really frustrated because even though she is in a new relationship and she knows that her ex is not her Mr. Right, she said to me, “But I still give a fuck about him.” If this sounds familiar, I want you to reflect on two things: why does it matter, and who cares? In this episode, I explain why the closure you seek won’t actually make anything better, how to create the closure you need, and how to give yourself compassion so that you can begin the healing that is necessary in order to truly stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back and find someone better. If you are finding yourself stuck and really wanting to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms.

I’ve got to tell you, I’m really excited to talk to you about why you’re not excited when it comes to dating. I’m sure you’re probably thinking that the reasons you aren’t excited about dating are because you’ve had some crappy dates, or it feels like the people on the apps are duds. But in this episode, I’m going to show you how you are getting in your own way by sharing the 7 reasons you aren’t excited about your dating life, and what you can do about it so that you can get excited about dating and call in the love of your life. If you are looking to really take this to the next level and create your ideal relationship, I encourage you to check out my program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. Once you begin applying the coaching tools I share with you, you will be able to create the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, falling in love with yourself on a deeper level, and finding someone better. If you have any questions, I am currently offering 30 minute one-on-one calls to

When we are in the thick of our heartbreak, it is totally normal to have the thought that you never want to feel this way again. And in order to avoid heartbreak, it means that you should avoid love too. But my loves, you are so worthy, deserving, and capable of calling in the love of your life and to find true love. I cannot promise you or make any guarantees that the next person you date will be forever. There are no guarantees. But the great news is that when you find who you believe is the love of your life, the idea of there being no guarantees makes you show up in the best possible way. In this episode, I share why it’s so important to find happiness before you call love in, where this work gets tricky for my clients, and how to stay committed to this work when it’s really hard. If this really resonates with you, I invite you to take this work to the next level and join my group program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. In this one-year program, I offer three weekly calls, over 60 videos,

Recently a client in my group program, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better, was reflecting on some of her past relationships and came to the call asking the question, “But what if I make the same mistake?” When we look at the people we have attracted in our past, it can be so easy to be fearful that we will keep repeating the same pattern because that is all that we have known. Throughout my 30s I definitely experienced my fair share of heartbreak, but I wouldn’t call them mistakes. In this episode, let’s examine our mistakes and really learn how to shift the way we think about them, so that we can use them to serve us in our journey to heal our hearts and find someone better. If you are finding yourself stuck and really wanting to take this work to the next level, I invite you to join Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. It’s a one year program that includes three calls a week. Plus, you have access to over 60 videos of how to achieve the three results of stopping wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong

I am so excited to share this special episode with you! Back in November I had a client come on the podcast and share what it was like to have worked together for the three months I had been her coach, at that time. In that episode, Taking A Dump On Your Love Story, I talked about how important it was to take off the rose-colored glasses and really evaluate and assess your past relationships for what they truly were, not what we wished they would be. I highly recommend you go back and listen to that episode to hear how important it is to take those relationships off of a pedestal, and to hear how committed Leanne was to the work, even before she found Mr. Right. You can find that episode at: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast/2020/11/23/taking-a-dump-on-your-love-storyIn this episode, Leanne is back! For a little bit of a spoiler, through our time together and the work that Leanne has invested in herself and in her relationship, she has called in the love of her life! I wanted to bring her back on t

I hear this from my clients a lot, “No one will love me like he does, Claire!” What if I told you that you’re right? And not only will no one ever love you in that way, but you won’t want them to! If you are listening to this podcast, then you must be looking to create the results of stop wanting Mr. or Ms. Wrong back, to fall in love with you, and to find someone so much better. And if you keep wanting that same love, you will find it again. But my loves, you are worthy, deserving, and capable of creating something so much more. I’m not going to lie to you. Doing this work and breaking the beliefs that you have is painful, but it is worth it and you can do it. This is the exact thing that I guide and teach my clients in my group course, Stop Wanting Him Back and Find Someone Better. You are so worthy and deserving of making this investment in yourself, in overhauling your mind so that you can create the ultimate life for yourself. You don’t have to do it alone. To learn more and apply, go to: or if you have