Relationships Uncomplicated

When we think of healing from an affair, we focus on the betrayal of the faithful partner. We rarely think of the unfaithful partner’s wounded mind. In fact, the unfaithful partner’s ability to recover from the affair is quite routinely ignored.  And when it comes to women’s affairs? Well, there’s even less attention paid to healing for unfaithful women. That’s where the expertise of Debbie Rose comes in. Listen to my interview with Debbie to learn the steps to ending an affair.   Infidelity Recovery Free Masterclass: Idit's infidelity recovery masterclass   Links mentioned: Debbie's website aftermyaffair.com Debbie's Facebook group Idit's support community on Facebook The book Not Just Friends by Shirley Glass Idit's infidelity recovery online program   Contact: idit@iditsharoni.com

Tackling a big relationship issue that has the potential to end it? You know you need an expert to help you, but how do you get the best of the best to work with you? This episode is mind shifting because it will change your understanding about how to get help from professionals you normally can't afford or can't reach.  The world of service is totally changing, and with it the world of couples counseling. Gone are the days where experts were out of reach, too expensive, or too far. Tune in to find out how you - yes you - can get an expert to help your relationship.  Links mentioned: Rekindling Desire (Esther Perel) The Art and Science of Love (The Gottman Institute) It’s Okay to Stay (Idit Sharoni) Infidelity Recovery Free Masterclass: Forgiving & Forgetting is NOT the Key to Healing After Infidelity Contact: idit@iditsharoni.com

Are you and your spouse equal partners in your relationship? Or has one of you become more of a parent to the other? When a couple starts to fall into a parent-child dynamic, codependency, rather than a balanced, cooperative relationship starts to emerge. Essentially, this means that the overall patterns of communication and behavior push one partner (either the male or the female) into a parent or a child position within the relationship.  In this episode, I do the following: help you take a closer look at what this destructive dynamic may look like share why you shouldn't promote this in your relationship suggest two strategies to avoid it Links mentioned in this episode: FREE Masterclass: Forgiving & Forgetting is NOT the Key to Healing After Infidelity www.iditsharoni.com/masterclass for more information go to: www.iditsharoni.com

Today, I want to talk about who can heal your pain after infidelity. You’ll learn who really can help heal the pain, who doesn’t have the power to help, and what you can do if you’re stuck feeling unable to move past the hurt. I dive into the topic by telling you about a contact that I recently received from a spouse who had been cheated on and wanted to be seen individually. There was nothing alarming about this at first, but the person then shared something troubling: a therapist had told this person that seeking individual help to overcome the pain was needed before the couple could healthily recover together. The first issue that I have with this is that sending one partner off to seek help alone is very difficult. I talk about how it takes so much courage to trust anyone after infidelity and that isolating sends a bad message to the hurt partner.  The second issue I have is that many therapists have the assumption that the pain after infidelity is individual and, therefore, the hurting individual is capa

Feel like you don't even know what is going to make your relationship work anymore? Let relationship expert Idit Sharoni give you a surprising strategie to help you get insight as to what can save your relationship, when everything seems like chaos.  As promised in the episode, here's what you ask yourself: “Suppose this episode is over, you go about your day, do whatever you planned to do for the rest of it. And then, some time in the evening, you get tired and go to sleep. And in the middle of the night, when you are sound asleep, a miracle happens and the problems in your relationship are solved just like that (snap). But since the miracle happened overnight you don’t know that the miracle has happened. When you wake up the next morning, how are you going to start discovering that the miracle happened? What would be the first thing that would tell you a miracle must’ve happened? What else are you going to notice during the day after you wake up?” To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast

We're deep into creation mode, and a a result my team and myself are taking a short break. We will be back with more great episodes filled with relationship tips and ideas on January 21st, 2019.  Until then, have a happy holiday season and a wonderful New Year! Don't forget to check back in with us Monday, January 21st, 2019.

Have you stopped couples counseling because there was no result? Are you now in the stages of looking for a therapist but aren't sure what to look for? Do you desperately wish you had a tool to measure whether couples therapy is the right fit for you? Couples therapist Idit Sharoni shares from her thousands of hours experience helping couples save their relationships, what are the most important components that make your couples therapy process a success.  Listen and learn what you can do now to ensure your couples counseling has the best chances to succeed.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com  

If you are human, you probably engaged in escalating a conflict by being defensive. In this episode, relationship expert Idit Sharoni shares what is defensiveness, how it looks inside a conversation, what it does, and how to avoid it. You'll get tools and ideas on what you can do when you feel attacked by your partner. By the end of this episode you'll know to better react and diffuse the conflict.  Links mentioned in this Episode: Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Video - The Gottman Institute To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Betrayed partners are exposed to a great amount of uncertainty when they learn their spouse has been unfaithful. One of the things they often hear is "Once a cheater always a cheater". Is this ture? Listen to Miami's relationship expert Idit Sharoni expressing her thoughts and ideas about the old saying based on her experience working with coupes in the aftermath of infidelity.  FREEBIE: Download the "5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater" guide Idit created to especially for this episode listeners. Simply click the link below.  Links mentioned in this episode: FREEBIE: 5 Ways to Know if You’re Dealing w/ Always a Cheater Idit’s FB Group: It’s Okay To Stay - Healing After Infidelity Where Should We Begin Podcast Season 2 ep. 7   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship

Do you hear from your spouse that they need to feel more loved? Do they tell you you're not making time for them, attending to them, or making them feel appreciated enough? That is a very real issue for many modern relationships these days. So, how do you make your partner feel loved and cared for without jeopardising your individual needs?  Listen to Miami's relationship expert Idit Sharoni giving you 5 tips on how to go from having a partner who feels uncared for to a relationship where both of you feel nurtured. You may be surprised... Links mentioned in this episode: Episode 46: Date Night Will Not Solve Your Problems TED Talk: The Secret to Desire in a Long-Term Relationship Article: For a Better Marriage Act Like a Single Person   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your

A couple wanted to know if as a marriage therapist Idit believed they could change after 20 years of marriage.  Her answer was not what you might expect, but it was positive. In this episode relationship expert Idit Sharoni will tell you what it takes to make changes in long term relationships of 10 years and up.  And it not only hard work... To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Have guilt or shame stopped you from being able to make your relationship work after infidelity? Has guilt made you more defensive than helpful or remorseful? Or, has shame made you more confused about whether to stay or leave your cheating spouse? These are all negative outcomes of guilt, blame or shame that occur in the aftermath of infidelity. BUT, there id a positive side to guilt that actually helps the healing process.  Listen in and find out more about this from Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni.   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

You finally decided to go to couples counseling, but now you have to find a good therapist. You Google couples counseling in your area and you start making some calls. How do you know which one is the right therapist for your relationship? Do you determine by price, availability, location? Or are there more criteria you should look for and ask your prospective therapist about? Answers to these questions and the actual 5 questions you should ask are all in this episode presented by your host - relationship expert Idit Sharoni. To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

In this episode you’ll find out if you are in a sex starved relationship, and if so, what it does to your connection & what you can do to change the situation. As many couples believe that this is a phase that will go away or it’s the nature of a long term relationship - Miami's Relationship expert Idit Sharoni will challenge you on that and help you get things going in the right direction. Takeaways you don't want to miss: What's considered a sex starved relationship / marriage? How it sometimes shows in a relationship? Who has the power to change it? Tips on what you can do to stop sex starving in your relationship.   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about t

In the last decades couples confront serious problems that have to do with fast track relationships.  If you've done all the way from meeting your spouse to holding your first baby in less than 2 years, and you're experiencing serious relationship issues - than this is the episode for you. So, before you think it was a big mistake and the only solution is divorce or breakup, see what relationship expert Idit Sharoni has to say to you.  Hint: there is hope. Find 5 suggestions to prevent divorce or breakup in fast-track relationships that will give you the hope you need to continue. To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsha

How does handling money as a couple influences your relationship, and what can you do to avoid having it kill your marriage?  Miami relationship expert Idit Sharoni walks you through: The different models of handling finances as a couple. The different notions behind each model and how they influence the relationship. The place all of this can be stemming from. What you can do now to make a change (even if you're already having issues with handling money as a couple).   To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in one paragraph (no more than 5 sentences) in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to Idit Sharoni  Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

Why some couples seem to recover after infidelity while others can't?Miami relationship expert Idit Sharoni walks you through the 3 main components that block the healing process after learning about your partner's cheating. Idit offers an extensive explanation that includes a roadmap to healing where she shares the 3-Phase road to healing in the aftermath of infidelity.  Links mentioned in the episode: Click to join Idit's FB Group - It's Okay To Stay Episode 012 Episode 044 Episode 39 Recommended book: After The Affair by Janis Abrahms Spring To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us (no more than 5 sentences) Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast and Idit Sharoni visit: www.iditsharoni.com

When you feel you're stuck because nothing is positively changing in your relationship, you get discouraged thinking you're in one of those change resistant relationships. This episode is inspired by a couple that told me the following:"This is our last chance before divorce. We either change or we give up on this relationship. We’ve tried it all: talk about it, not talk about it, pray, be nice, be aggressive, you name it, we tried it. Nothing worked."  I talk about why this couple has been so resistant to change so far, and what they (and you) can do differently. To help boost the change, I share the 2 most important components of change in relationships. To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com  Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us (no more than 5 sentences) Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information abou

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov discusses the new normal when it comes to dating and that is dating multiple people at once.  Inspired by an email from on of our listeners, together with Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni, they discuss the do's and dont's as far as early on dating as well as dating after a breakup.  Alina shares 5 essential tips you'd want to keep in mind to avoid potentially hurting yourself and someone else.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com

On this episode of Relationships Uncomplicated, Relationship Expert Idit Sharoni shares the recipe for how to have an incredible trip that makes everyone happy! Believe it or not, it is possible to have a relaxing, enjoyable, and guilt-free time with your spouse while seeing everyone you want to see back home. Together with Breakup Specialist Alina Gershonov, they explore the necessary steps you and your spouse should take before and during your trip.  Tune in to find out how you can have the vacation of your dreams without feeling the guilt.  To send us questions you'd like answered in a future podcast: Please write your question in the following format and email idit@iditsharonicounseling.com or alina@alinagershonov.com: Type of relationship (marriage, dating, etc.) Length of relationship Your story + your question to us Remember, you will absolutely remain anonymous  For more information about the podcast, Idit Sharoni, and Alina Gershonov visit: www.iditsharoni.com www.AlinaGershonov.com