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Does decision-making leave you feeling pushed around — by others and even by your own brain? For so many Highly Sensitive Persons, high-stakes choices can feel like we’re navigating a minefield while wearing a blindfold! In this episode, my analytically-minded son Jonathon reveals how external pressure can sway us during important decisions. And I’ll share strategies to calm the inner turmoil so you can move forward with clarity and confidence. You’ll walk away with practical tools to recognize unhealthy pressure, protect your peace, and stand your ground — with others and with yourself.   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/ Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode291

When you feel like you’re always second-guessing yourself, it’s tempting to idealize being a "one-and-done" decision-maker!  But what if changing your mind isn't a sign of weakness but actually a sign of wisdom? In this episode, we're tackling the myth that Highly Sensitive Persons are “wishy-washy.” You’ll learn how “trying on” different options can free you from the guilt of sunk costs, help you honor your real-time needs, and lead to better choices in the long-run. You’ll also gain permission to update out-dated decisions, while embracing God’s grace as you grow. Changing your mind does not make you flaky. So often, it simply means that you’re paying attention!   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/ Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode290

In a world that idealizes instant answers and snap decisions, Highly Sensitive Persons often get labeled hesitant ... indecisive ... over-thinking. But what if your HSP brain and body are not motivated by being told to “Hurry Up”? What if your soul responds to pressure by asking, “Can we please slow down?” What if you need a counter-cultural approach to decision-making? In this episode, I share a real-life story of navigating a big decision (with a looming deadline) as an HSP who is, by definition, a reflective thinker. You’ll learn how scripture, curiosity, and community can lead to clarity and confidence. If you, too, struggle with decision-making, I hope you’ll find encouragement to honor your God-given pace and—whenever possible—to Take. Your. Time.   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/ Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode289

Why does getting what you want sometimes feel so wrong? You finally speak up, advocate for yourself, and even win—but instead of feeling victorious, you’re hit with guilt, second-guessing, or a sudden urge to backtrack. What is up with that?  Well, in this episode, I’m sharing a real-life situation that left me wondering ... why asking for what I want feels so uncomfortable why getting what I want can feel so much worse than just going with the flow, and how this is all tangled up with people-pleasing, perfectionism, and a deep DEEP desire for certainty. So if you’ve ever struggled to stand your ground, let’s talk about how to move forward with confidence—minus the emotional whiplash!   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/ Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode288    

Do you sometimes get caught up in the cycle of feeling ‘not enough’? If so, you’re not alone! In this episode, Amy Carroll returns as my guest co-host, and we get real about the questions of “enough-ness” that so many of us wrestle with, especially as Highly Sensitive Christian Women. In this deeply personal conversation, Amy opens her heart around the worry Am I enough? while I share my life-long struggles with wondering Am I DOING enough? Throughout this episode, you’ll discover practical ways to identify and shift the beliefs that keep you stuck in overthinking, overworking, and self-doubt. You can embrace your identity as God’s beloved … and you can learn to discern when enough is truly enough.   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/ Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode287

Are you the person everyone turns to — because you’re the peacemaker, the caregiver, the one who always says yes — but deep down you’re running on empty? In this honest and hope-filled conversation, guest co-host Danielle Grosse explores "the Heart of a Helper" and helps us understand why those of us who love to serve often struggle to receive. She shares why it’s so difficult to admit when we need help, how we can let others pour back into us, and what happens when we finally give ourselves permission to heal. If helping others has ever felt like both your greatest joy and your heaviest burden, this episode is for you. Join us for a discussion full of grace, wisdom, and real-life encouragement and that offers a new perspective on what it truly means to serve well as HSPs—without sacrificing your own well-being.   Links mentioned: Danielle's website Sign up for Danielle's newsletter ... which includes "Just Ask Dani" Take Danielle's quiz "The Heart of a Helper: Uncover What You Need Right Now" Tak

Have you ever had someone tell you, “You’re just imagining things,” or “It can’t be that loud” (or that bright or that itchy)? If you’re a Highly Sensitive Person, you’ve been there. Other people’s reactions to your heightened perceptions can feel isolating, even invalidating. But your experiences aren’t wrong; they’re uniquely yours. So in this episode, we’re looking at how our DNA shapes the way we sense and respond to the world and what that means for those of us who are HSPs. We’re also talking about why it’s vital to listen to, learn from, and care for the HSP body that God has entrusted to you. Your differences aren’t defects — your differences are divine!   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/   Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode285

Have you ever felt crushed under the weight of a mistake, convinced it’s too big to fix? Whether it’s a literal mess or a relational misstep, we often respond by piling on guilt, shame, and endless self-blame. But what if there’s another way? In this episode, I share the story of a literal spill that led to a deep reflection on responsibility, self-blame, and the gift of grace. We’ll talk about how to figure out what’s actually yours to own, how to stop beating yourself up for every little thing, and how to open your heart to God’s grace—even in life’s sticky situations. If you’re ready to stop over-owning every mess and start letting grace lead the way, this episode is for you!   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz:  https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/   Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode284

Do you ever feel hesitant to speak up for yourself? Today we’re taking a deep dive into the messy and rewarding realities of candid communication! From navigating subtle hints to standing firm in your voice, guest co-host Amy Carroll and I share personal stories, practical insights, and a paradigm shift that caught me off-guard. You'll discover why “clarity is kind,” learn how to balance honesty with grace, and gain tips for approaching even the toughest conversations with confidence. Listen in to this candid convo about candid convos filled with wisdom, wit, and the occasional buzzzzz of “aha moments”! Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe: https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz:  https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/   Episode Webpage:  https://CheriGregory.com/episode283

Do you love dreaming, brainstorming, and making big plans … but then get completely stuck when it’s time to actually #DoTheThing? As the year wraps up, it’s easy to look back at 2024 and feel disappointed (and maybe even guilty) over all the things you meant to do but didn’t quite get to. Friend, you are not alone! HSPs often stall out when the details become overwhelming or resistance starts creeping in.  So in this episode, we're talking about why this happens, how procrastination might actually be protecting you, and—best of all—how you can move forward without guilt, shame, or forcing yourself to push through. Listen in to learn how small, gentle steps can help you build momentum in a way that honors your unique wiring. Links mentioned: HSP Coaching with Cheri "Write Beside You" Short-Term Coaching with Cheri "Write Beside You" Unlimited Coaching Program with Cheri Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz The book I mentioned to Marisa: Stumbling on Happiness by Daniel Gilbert

Have you ever found yourself dreading holiday travel, parties, and programs — while everyone around you seems sooo excited? For many of us, all the seasonal festivities can quickly become an overwhelming avalanche of stress, overstimulation, and exhaustion. And then, we end up feeling guilty for not being able to “just roll with it” … or even ashamed that we can’t focus on “the reason for the season.” So today, we’re exploring: why travel and big events can take such a huge toll on us how past choices have made things harder than necessary how-to tips for navigating holiday trips and group gatherings.  With intentional planning, you can honor your God-given HSP wiring and truly en-joy the most wonderful time of the year.   Links mentioned: World’s Softest Socks https://worldssoftest.com/ “How to Quickly Calm Your Overwhelmed Heart” eCourse https://CheriGregory.com/calm/ Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/

Have you ever felt like your big heart and deep emotions are both a gift and a challenge? If you’ve struggled with burnout — or wondered how to make a difference without losing yourself — this conversation is for you.  Today's guest co-host, Dorcas Cheng-Tozun, shares how to ... use your emotional intensity and empathy as strengths …   care for yourself while caring for others … and serve others in ways that don’t leave you utterly depleted.  Listen in for truly practical tips on setting boundaries, practicing self-compassion, and sustainably serving the people God has called you to serve.   Links mentioned: The Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe:  https://CheriGregory.com/Cafe Take the “Am I a Highly Sensitive Person?” Self-Quiz: https://CheriGregory.com/hspquiz/ Dorcas Cheng-Tozun:  https://www.chengtozun.com/

During holidays, many of us feel the bittersweet tension between joy and grief … especially when there’s an empty chair at the table. This week's guest co-host, Cheri Fletcher, is here to share a glimpse into her journey through the uncharted territory of grief after losing her beloved daughter Annie more than a year ago. She offers candid encouragement and practical tools to help us honor our loved ones, navigate heavy emotions, and hold space for mourning and meaningful connections. So whether you’re grieving or supporting someone who is, you’ll find comfort, understanding, and actionable insights to help you lean into both  love and loss during this tender season. Links mentioned in episode: Cheri Fletcher’s podcast episode: “Now What? When You Pray With Holy Expectations but the Unexpected Happens“ Blog post I wrote years ago about Cheri Fletcher’s reaction to learning that she’s a Highly Sensitive Person: “The One Truth Every HSP Needs to Know“ Get your sample set of Cheri Fletcher’s conversation

Have you ever felt like a failure at gratitude? Like no matter how many lists you make or journals you keep, this whole “giving thanks” thing (which seems to work for everyone else) just doesn’t “work” for you? In this episode, Cheri Gregory and Lori Margo discuss why typical gratitude practices can fall flat, and introduce a fresh, faith-filled alternative: “Tracking God.” This simple yet powerful approach helps you notice God’s presence in deeply personal ways, even in the hardest moments. Tune in for an encouraging conversation about navigating life’s challenges while growing closer to God. Links: Check out the episode web page at https://CheriGregory.com/episode278 Take Lori Margo's "What Does My Faith Really Need Right Now?" Quiz at https://LoriMargo.com/quiz Enroll in "Overcome Procrastination & JUST WRITE! 7 Surprisingly Simple Strategies to Get Your Words Flowing" at https://WriteBesideYou.com/join  

Are you tired of tying yourself into a pretzel just to prove you're not “high maintenance”? In this episode of Grit ‘n’ Grace — The Podcast for Highly Sensitive Christian Women, Cheri Gregory shares three simple but life-changing habits to help you stop merely surviving and start truly thriving as a Highly Sensitive Person. Learn how to stop force-fitting yourself, discover what genuinely works for you, and find assurance in the custom-tailored care of Jesus. Let’s move beyond the overwhelm and step into thriving together! https://CheriGregory.com/episode277

Have you spent your life hearing, “You’re just TOO sensitive?” Are you tired of the overthinking, overwhelm, and exhaustion that come with being a highly sensitive person (HSP)? Ready to stop worrying that something’s wrong with you and start  understanding and nurturing yourself as an HSP? Welcome to Grit ‘n’ Grace—The Podcast for Highly Sensitive Christian woman. Your safe haven. I’m your host, Cheri Gregory. I'm an author, speaker, coach, and founder of the Sensitive & Strong Community Cafe. Every week, I’ll guide you through building resilience, practicing self-compassion, setting healthy boundaries, unlocking your creativity, and learning to embrace—not fight—your God-given sensitivity. Each episode offers connection, honest conversations, and practical tools to help you navigate a world that often misunderstands HSPs. Together, we’ll cultivate awareness, trust and confidence in how God wired you — at the DNA level — to be an HSP. You were made to thrive, and Grit ‘n’ Grace is here to help you do ju

What happens when you step away from what you thought defined you? In this heartfelt episode, Cheri and Amy reunite for their 2024 “Catch-Up Convo,” sharing their personal journeys of transformation over the past 14 months. Amy opens up about leaving behind vocational ministry to dive into a completely new real estate adventure, while Cheri reflects on the power of self-compassion in difficult seasons. Together, they discuss finding joy in unexpected places, letting go of old identities, and embracing God’s grace in every chapter of life. It’s a conversation filled with laughter, honesty, and hope! Get full notes and a transcript at: gritngracegirls.com/episode276

Do you ever feel like "It's just too late" — to get un-stuck or to start something new? Cheri and Amy are here to remind you that fresh starts and new adventures are always possible—no matter where you are in life. In this episode, they explore the joys of letting go, lifelong learning, and making room for what truly brings you joy. You'll hear stories of stepping out of comfort zones, setting bold boundaries, and embracing the idea that it’s never too late to begin again. Join them for a heartwarming chat about discovering new possibilities, pursuing passions, and living with intention at every age. Get full notes and a transcript at: gritngracegirls.com/episode275

Do you ever watch other women start living big new adventures and wonder, “How does she do that?” In this lively episode, Kathi Lipp shares her unexpected journey from city life to becoming an "accidental homesteader" on 33 acres of wilderness. Kathi opens up about how a series of "what if" moments led her to embrace adventure, grit, and a new way of life. Whether it's raising chickens or building a greenhouse, Kathi encourages listeners to step out in faith, take small risks, and see how God uses their curiosity to create unexpected opportunities. Tune in for laughs, wisdom, and inspiration to pursue your own "what if" moments! Get full notes and a transcript at: gritngracegirls.com/episode274

Christian women are often told that being "too emotional" is a weakness, but what if our emotions are actually a source of strength? In this episode, Cheri and Amy debunk that myth, diving into an honest conversation about buoying life’s heaviest moments with the promises of God. Reflecting on their interview with Michele Cushatt, they explore how naming and sitting with our hard emotions Debunking the ‘Too Emotional’ Myth actually builds resilience and deepens faith. If you’ve ever felt like your emotions are “too much,” this episode offers real talk, validation, and practical steps for approaching your feelings as tools for healing and growth.   Get full notes and a transcript at: gritngracegirls.com/episode273