Project Love

Hi lovely, We are coming to the end of 28 Days of Love, our self love challenge that we have been running since Valentine’s Day. And in this week’s episode, we talk about what we have each learnt from doing this self love challenge, particularly during lockdown and after almost a year of living in a global pandemic.    If you have been doing 28 Days of Love with us (yayyy!) then we would love to hear how it’s been for YOU and what lessons you are taking away from it. And if you would like to start the challenge then you can do it anytime - simply head over here and download your free PDF guide to getting started (plus you’ll also find a big list of lockdown-friendly ideas to get you started on your self love journey). It’s a great one to do with friends!   Whether you are new to self love or you are wanting to deepen your self love practice, we hope these lessons and insights will inspire you on your own self love journey

Hi lovely, I have a gorgeous episode for you this week! I got to interview my dear, wonderful friend Eve Lewis on all things meditation and mindfulness. Eve is a mindfulness and meditation teacher and she is the director of Meditation at Headspace.  I have a real soft spot for Headspace, it is the app that taught me how to meditate, around 10 years ago. It’s one of my favourite apps and a firm staple in my self love toolkit

Hi lovely, It’s Selina here today, bringing to you what I feel is such a powerful and important conversation about a topic that many of us (myself included) really don’t talk about enough. And we need to. In this episode I had the wonderful opportunity to talk to Anna Lyons and Louise Winter, authors of ‘We All Know How This Ends - Lessons about Life and Living from Working with Death and Dying’.  Anna is an end-of-life doula and Louise is a progressive funeral director and together they have written an incredible, practical guide to navigating death, dying, grieving, losing ones we love and supporting those that have lost a loved one.  They teach us how and why we all need to think about death in a radically different way and why it is important for us all to talk more about it more. And so that is what we did in this episode. We talked about death and dying. From arranging funerals and the creative ways you can do it, to end-of-life care and how wonderful hospices in the UK are, to the best way to

Hello lovely! If you’ve been following us for a while then you’ll know that we like to challenge the modern day narrative that love is something that comes from that one special romantic partner in life. This is one of the reasons why we like to hijack Valentine’s Day and use it to celebrate love in all its forms. And this year is no exception!  On Sunday we kicked off the start of our self-love challenge, 28 Days of Love and if you’re not already taking part, we’d love to invite you. This is our sixth year running it and it is always such a gorgeous four week journey, but this year, it feels like we all need it more than any other (right?!). If you’re worn out from global pandemics, lockdown, homeschooling, working from home, not going on holiday for over a year...then self-love is the balm that will help you recover, reclaim your energy and navigate the Coronacoaster.  If you’d like to join us then head over here for all of the details (it’s totally free!) And to get you in the mood we have pulle

Hi lovely, Vicki here - I hope this email finds you safe and well ❤️ In today’s episode, I answer some of your questions on dating and relationships (thank you for sending those in!) Really loved creating this episode for you. There were lots of questions relating to attachment theory (which is great as it is my favorite topic to talk about!). Specific questions that I answered in the episode: Is it possible for an anxious and an avoidant person to develop a secure and loving relationship? How do you deal with an avoidantly attached partner who isn't always sure they want to repair their attachment issues?  How do I start calling in a securely attached partner rather than the avoidant ones I usually find myself drawn to?  My partner and I are exclusive but he said he’s not ready to call me his girlfriend yet. Is this a red flag? I’m just about to move in with my partner. What are your tips for starting the next chapter of our lives in lockdown? How do I find the balance in my relationship, so I don

Hi lovely,   It’s Selina here

Hi lovely, How are you doing this week? Here in the UK things have not been easy. A lot of people are really struggling with this latest lockdown, including us! So if you’re one of those people, then know that you are not alone. This is tough and while resilience, resourcefulness and inner strength will help us get through this, sometimes you have to stop being the strong, resilient one.   If you tend to be the one that is often there for others, if you identify with being a good coper or pride yourself on being strong in times of struggle, then sometimes you need to drop all that and let yourself feel all the feelings, without judgement. And NO telling yourself that you shouldn’t be feeling that way because other people have it much worse than you. Your feelings need to be acknowledged and felt. Suppressing them and brushing under the carpet DOES NOT WORK.  In fact I have a whole section on that in my new book Burnt Out and I share how one tool, in particular, in there has really been helping me over the

Hi lovely, I have a fascinating episode for you today! I got to speak to Margee Kerr and Linda Rodriguez McRobbie about their new book, ‘OUCH!: Why Pain Hurts, and Why it Doesn’t Have To’.  In this episode, we talk about: Why pain isn’t all bad and how we can develop a healthy relationship with it Resilience as a skill - something we can practice and cultivate over time Why we need to come up with a bigger vocabulary for pain (because one word is used to describe so much!)  Heartbreak and why it hurts so much How we can support our loved ones when they are in pain And so much more! I loved this conversation with Margee and Linda.  Really hope you enjoy it too! Order your copy of ‘OUCH!: Why Pain Hurts, and Why it Doesn’t Have To’ for the UK, Aus and US. Love, Vicki x

Hi lovely, How are you doing this week? The general mood here in the UK seems to be

Happy New Year lovely, We are so happy to be back on the podcast

Hi lovely!  Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.   In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!).  If you haven’t yet listened to the earlier episodes in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here, episode 2 over here, episode 3 over here and episode 4 over here

Hi lovely!  Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.   In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!).  If you haven’t yet listened to the earlier episodes in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here, episode 2 over here and episode 3 over here. In today’s episode, we share the fourth step to designing a life you love: choosing a focus and setting an intention for the year ahead.  Listen in to the episode, grab a cup of tea and your journal and ENJOY And if you loved today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today

Hi lovely!  Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.   In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!).  If you haven’t yet listened to the first two episodes in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here and episode 2 over here. In today’s episode, we share the third step to designing a life you love: allowing yourself to dream (and taking your dreams seriously). Ooh we love this one!  Listen in to the episode, grab a cup of tea and your journal and ENJOY And if you loved today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today

Hi lovely!  Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.   In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!).  If you haven’t yet listened to the first episode in this series, then we recommend that you do as each episode is designed to build on the last. Listen to episode 1 over here. In today’s episode, we share the second step to designing a life you love: creating a list of all the things you want to fill your life with.  Listen in to the episode, grab a cup of tea and your journal and ENJOY And if you loved today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today

Hi lovely!  Welcome to this 5-part mini series on ‘How to Design a Life You Love in 2021.   In this mini-series, we’re going to be taking you through our 5 simple and powerful steps that will help you to design a life you love in 2021 (even in a global pandemic!). In this first episode, we’ll be sharing the first practical tool to designing a life you love - to pause and reflect on your journey so far.  We loved creating this series for you, we hope you love it!  And if you enjoyed today’s episode then head on over to thegoodbyehellojournal.com and order the Goodbye 2020, Hello 2021 journal for you and your loved ones today

Hi lovely, We’re almost there! Almost at the end of 2020...phewf. It has been a tough year, there is no denying it. But it’s so important that rather than just writing it off altogether, we do take a moment to reflect and take a closer look at the year we’ve been through and in particular what we did manage to make happen in our lives despite it all.  You have. You have had ideas and dreams that have come to life. There are things you wrote into your Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 at the start of the year that are now in existence in your life today. You did that. And so, before we all close our Goodbye 2019, Hello 2020 journals for good, we have a bonus exercise for you: A Final Reflection, where you take a look back at what you wrote in your journal a year ago and see which of those dreams and ideas that were first written into the pages of your journal, did in fact become a reality.  We want you all to see that even during a global pandemic, you did still bring some of your dreams and ideas to life. 

Hiya lovely,  I’m so excited to share this week’s episode with you (my first solo one!) ✨ In the episode, I share the 7 lessons that I’ve learnt about love, dating and relationships as I celebrate 7 years of love coaching.  The lessons that I share are about what I’ve learnt when looking at my own relationship pattern through the lens of attachment theory (anxious attachment) and how this has shaped my love coaching work too.  Tune in to hear me share: The three main Attachment styles and how they influence your mindset and attitudes to love, dating and relationships  Why anxious attachers are attracted to the people that are the least likely to meet their needs (inc why you’re attracted to the unavailable ones) The Pursue-Withdraw pattern in relationships  The power of our minds in hindering or or helping us to move forward in our love lives My own personal story of becoming more secure and fulfilled in love The importance of self love and vulnerability on a dating journey  What it means to redefi

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Hello, it’s Vicki here and I have a brilliant episode for you today.  I got to speak to dating coaches David and Ahmad - to talk about Dating in Lockdown and how lockdown, with all of its restrictions, can be a really positive time for dating and making new connections with people. David and Ahmad are dating coaches who empower men to create meaningful and passionate connections based on authentic expression and emotional intelligence. And they do that through their Podcast ‘The Authentic Dating Series’, their talks, events and coaching. In this episode, David and Ahmad share their own personal dating journeys and how they have overcome fears of commitment and the fear of rejection and it’s this male vulnerability (and how they celebrate this in the work that they do) that I love about these two - something that is so often missing from the dating conversation.  I really hope this episode supports you on your dating journey. And if you are looking for some support and guidance on your dating journey