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Welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast. In today's show Stuart is going to talk about a subject that most of you will be familiar with, and some of you may struggle with: That of the impact of Social Media on your life and relationships.

Welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This week Stuart is lightening things up with a podcast on how humor and positivity can create an attitude and purpose in your relationship that will transform your lives. Gratitude and appreciation are key ingredients in a loving relationship. Ways of showing love are showing appreciation, sharing your feelings, making your partner feel special and making them feel important. Small changes in behavior such as showing affection, a simple hug and kiss makes a huge difference. You can’t compel someone to do this; it has to come from the heart. We can ask for what we need and when our partner gives it to us, we need to recognize that as a huge step forward from what your relationship dynamic might have been in the past. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Ways to show gratitude to your partner  [7:09] Courting behavior and what it does for you as a couple [19:05] Learning the love language in multi-media [20:10] Sharing your passions a

This encore episode of The Couples Expert Podcast is all about appreciating all the special women in our lives, but particularly our mothers and the mothers of our children. Listen as Stuart recounts his growing up in a blended family and the lessons he learned about the importance of his Mother and her role in the family. He also had a Stepmother whom he loved and was very influential in his life. He talks about ways to honor the important women in your life this Motherâ•˙s Day, (Sunday, May 12th).   What you'll learn from today's podcast: Moms deserve your encouragement every day at 3:00 It helps when you're struggling to see your partner through fresh eyes at 4:17 Dad's responsibility on Mother's Day at 5:49 Some suggestions for making Mom's day special at 7:45 Recognize your partner for all they do and show appreciation at 10:49 Suggestions for a romantic Mother's Day treat for her at 12:05 If you listen you will learn what she wants at 15:19 Honor Mom and Grandmother on Mother's Day 17:44 Stepmoms are Mo

In this encore episode of The Couples Expert podcast, Stuart speaks of remarriage & the "Doubt Factor" with special guest Brian Mayer.

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This week on the show, Stuart is going to discuss the pain and consequences of financial infidelity. This kind of relationship injury has an incredible impact on a couple.

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is an encore episode of our show. Stuart talks about coping with separation issues in your relationship related to work. How do we keep a close and connected relations

Encore episode is about living and loving in middle age. Stuart answers some burning questions you may have about life after 60. Is it all downhill from here? Listen in as Stuart addresses the concerns that many of you have about love and aging.

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 146 of our show. We’re so happy that you’re here with us for the show. Today Stuart is discussing an all too common scenario for couples: When two people in a committed relationship end up living like roommates instead of lovers.  Listen in while Stuart addresses this familiar problem. Stuart often talks about the significance of 6 years. That’s the average amount of time that couples live with their problems before they seek help from a relationship counselor. Those 6 years can be a time of strife and conflict; or it can be a time of reducing your relationship to living as roommates. This is a terrible feeling either way. Feeling alone is so painful. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: The pain of having roommates [2:25] It’s painful to live without connection  [4:00] It doesn’t matter how long you’ve been together [8:20] Hallway sex- Where’s the passion? [9:04] Why you need to keep passion a prio

Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim The Couples Expert. Stuart is going to speak today about what it means to be a good partner in your relationship. About ways to assess if you’re being a good partner, and if your partner is being good to you. After all, it takes both of you contributing to the relationship in equal measure in order for you to have a true partnership where you both feel loved and important.  Stuart talks about the life of his Mother in Law Lolita who passed away last week. Stuart always felt included and loved and was brought quickly into the family when he and Debbie married. She and her husband were married for 64 years. Stuart is dedicating this podcast to her memory. We know there’s no perfect marriage. Every couple creates their own love story.What needs to be there is a passion for making your partner happy and for being the perfect partner for them. You see your partner’s happiness is as important (or more so) than your own.  Today Stuart wil

In this encore episode of The Couples Expert Podcast, Stuart is discussing a troubling topic today; infidelity. All of Stuart’s work centers around creating and maintaining healthy couple relationships. He believes that this is truly the cornerstone of a healthy society as a whole. Healthy relationships passed down from parents who model them for their children create generations of healthy relationships and a healthier society overall. Infidelity, whether it be sexual, emotional or even financial in nature, breaks down the connection and the trust that’s needed to keep the relationship healthy and happy. It’s his belief that infidelity causes some of the most severe relationship injuries that exist.   What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Infidelity destroys families and destroys connections [4:03] Infidelity creates personal emotional trauma [10:20] Men and women approach infidelity differently [14:22] Strip clubs, massage parlors and prostitution are a factor [16:24] Reasons why men cheat [18:05

Welcome to episode 189 of our show, this is an encore presentation. Your host Stuart Fensterheim has some insights to share with his listeners today about intimate partner relationships and sexual intimacy with your partner; specifically about banishing boredom from your bedroom.

Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 188 of our show. Thank you for listening today as Stuart welcomes guest Jim Thomas back to the show.  They will be discussing sexuality, emotional intimacy, and vulnerability.     What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: How to resolve differences in sexual needs [4:20] Being vulnerable sexually [6:40] Emotional and intimate [8:00] How do you define what sex is? [10:50] Is kissing more intimate than sex? [12:00] What about pornography? [14:40] A man’s need for more emotional intimacy [16:45] Average sex is good too [24:00] Use different approaches to sex [28:30] When to talk about your sexual desires and needs [31:45] Discover your sexuality [40:30] Throw the rules out [41:45]   What we want is to have a fun, loving, caring, vulnerable experience for two people who care about one another, an experience you don’t share with anyone else. Trust your partner, and that both of you want to feel loved and important to ea

This is an Encore Presentation, this podcast originally aired in January of 2017.  Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast with Stuart Fensterheim. Stuart is discussing how to set realistic and meaningful relationship goals for the New Year. We all want to do better and be better and the New Year is the new beginning that many of us use as a jumping off point for furthering our goals. The Couples Experts would like to thank you for a great 2018. Take a listen while Stuart discusses some ideas for 2019. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Why we set goals instead of resolutions –[12:20] Goals are promises you make to yourself –[15:00] How to follow up and check in with your partner regularly  –[16:18] What you should include in your goal lists –[21:15] Some important suggestions for your growth as a couple. –[32:00] Share your lists and compare together  –[33:50] The Couples Expert Podcast is sponsored by: Stuart’s Daily Notes: Subscribe and change your relationship in 5 minutes a day with a vide

Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 186 of our show. Happy Thanksgiving, Happy Hanukkah, Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa! Stuart wishes everyone very happy holidays. This year Stuart wants you and your partner to have a holiday season filled with love, togetherness and connection. Today is a really special episode, because today Stuart is taking everyone on a magical journey today. A special journey of attachment, and acceptance, one of vulnerability and love. Visit a strange land where you will be meeting people as the most authentic version of yourself. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Wearing masks [3:45] Recognizing when you are not being your best [5:00] Acknowledge your partner’s experience [9:00] Open the door to Attachmentland [11:00] Stop thinking you have to live up to an expectation [14:00] Being authentic [16:50] Dig deep and ask yourself questions [17:30] Stop surviving, and start living [20:00] That place where you are never alone [21:0

Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 185 of our show. Today Stuart is talking about boundaries in a relationship. There are many different boundaries that you can set in your life, and your relationship. Today Stuart pulls boundaries apart and helps you to learn how to set healthy boundaries in your relationship. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Are boundaries even necessary in a relationship [1:45] Boundaries should be clearly defined [3:17] What do healthy boundaries include? [6:43] Where are our limit? [8:42] Is it ok to have friends of the opposite sex? [9:20] How to set limits with your partner [12:02] Emotional affairs [15:17] Unconditional love [19:10] Honesty [20:30] Self-control [23:10] Looking inwardly [25:25] Learn how to forgive [26:30] Summary of boundaries [28:10] Unless your boundaries are clear, direct, and adhered to, your relationship is going to be a challenge. If you have that, your relationship will be one in which both of your f

Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 184 of our show, and it is dedicated to Alvin Fensterheim. Today Stuart is talking about the importance of Father and Son relationships. The relationship between a father and son is one of the most important relationship. This relationship will lead to a good relationship with your spouse. Stuart’s own Dad passed away almost 1 year ago, and his experience with the loss of that important relationship.  Stuart and his wife went to New York city recently where his Father is buried. Stuart’s family spent time reflecting on his Father, Alvin’s life, and the ending of a year of Shiva. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Love is the absolute most important thing you can share with your family [7:25] Teach your son about being a man, in the truest sense [9:45] Demonstrate every single day that love is pathways to having a good life [13:55] Having shared interests [16:20] You should never do anything in your life that you don’

  Hi and welcome to The Couples Expert with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 183 of our show. Today Stuart is talking about sexual communication inside and outside of the bedroom. This episode is for couples in a long-term committed relationship, you are there for the long-haul.  This is one of the more difficult discussion for a couple to have, and Stuart will help to make it easier. Today’s podcast contains adult material, so please use discretion when listening or use your headphones! Stuart and his wife are currently on vacation in New York city. They are visiting family, enjoy the culture and people watch, as well as visit the 9/11 museum. This is a time they they spend connecting and spending time together without the distractions. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Stop expecting your partner to read your mind [4:10] Your job is to keep your partner interested [6:30] When you want to talk about your sex life, don’t do it when you want to engage in sex [9:10] Give your suggestions bot

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast, with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 182 or our show. Today’s episode is full of tools, tips, and Stuart’s pearls of wisdom to create a marriage that will last a lifetime. Whether you had premarital counseling or not, this episode is to help you to learn how to make your relationship meaningful and significant. None of us get married to be finding ourselves in an empty, lonely relationship. Many times this happens because we don’t really understand what marriage is all about. Tune in today and keep your marriage alive, passionate, and close. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Authenticity and vulnerability 2:40 You need to have a plan 7:25 Learning how to communicate with your spouse 10:40 Triggers 16:45 3 main elements of communication 19:40 How do we learn how to navigate challenges 20:45 Setting yourself up for having realistic expectations 22:25 Children 25:45 You have to work on the trust you have for each other 28:05 What is going to c

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast, with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 181 or our show. Today, Stuart talks about the difference in sexual desire. We come together quite often with different types of libidos, but when we first get together and the passion is there. After a period of time, you settle in with your partner, and reality and the stresses of life hits. We then begin to realize that our libidos are just not the same, and the sexuality diminishes. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Difference between two different libidos [2:00] Come up with a sex number [3:00] Compromise by broadening your range of activities that are sexual [11:00] Talk about how things are going sexually for the two of you [13:00] If you have a higher sex drive, you should not take it personally if your partner has a lower libido drive [14:00] Do not be critical and negative about your partner [17:00] The cuddle hormone [18:10] Where is the compromise [20:20] Being comfortable with masterbation [

Hello and welcome to The Couples Expert Podcast, with your host Stuart Fensterheim. This is episode 180 or our show. Today, Stuart talks about loving yourself despite betrayal in a relationship. Stuart will discuss 4 parts in today’s podcast: How do we really define what betrayal looks like in a relationship? What does the hurt look like, feel like, and what is the experience like? What are the long-term consequences of that? How do we recover from those hurts, and how do we move on? Stuart just returned from a cruise to England, where he and his wife had a lovely holiday connecting and enjoying each other. He also spent some time thinking about this podcast, and specifically this episode. What you’ll learn from today’s podcast: Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur Greetings [0:16] How do we trust again? [2:30] Can we really see ourselves as valuable in a relationship [3:50] How do we really define betrayal? [5:50] Your partner’s perception of you [14:00] Your partner becomes the means with which we define our wor