But First Coffee ... Wake Up Call

How do you know if your relationship is correct or not? What if your paths don’t cross anymore? Letting your partner be their differentiated self. The unconscious manipulation we use on others. And other relationship related things. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

What’s it really based in? Isn’t change the base of our biological and energetic mechanics? Why would something so foundational to us be a fear? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

As we change from tribal and “we gotta reproduce” to a whole different need & style for relating, are you ok with it? Or are you still perpetuating the old-school dynamics in the posts you share & comments you make? --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Are you in the pre-frame or post-frame personally? We’re in a pre-frame collectively. What’s that even mean? Why does it matter? --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

This season is different in a lot of ways but mainly bc these episodes are more for new than they are for you. This season is about externalization. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

I love this episodes topic. Self ownership is coming into complete self acceptance and alignment with who you are - past, present and future. It means no one can ever use anything to manipulate, coerce or blackmail you. They cannot shame, blame, guilt trip or embarrass you with any part of your life or who you are bc you own it. You’ve faced it all and come to a deep acceptance and love for yourself, your decisions and your actions. People will try but you won’t respond in the way they are trying to make you. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

I am no stranger to gossip and slanderous things being said about me and used against me. Let’s talk about my personal design to give you some specific examples and things to look at and consider in your own. Not to be ironic but learning about others is how I’ve learned about my own (the true Projector way) so here I am telling you to use mine to start understanding your own. Confrontation, provocation, & challenge are all required for growth yet so many avoid it. Why is it easy to interact with some people and not others? What’s the point of differentiation? How learning my design has helped me stand in my own, accept myself and not take anything personally anymore. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

“Self projecting” episode today. Talking out some of the thoughts in my head about our continual avoidance of discomfort and how this is a choice to develop weakness instead of strength. We have lost our resiliency so I also talked about what can allow us to become resilient again. Note: true self-projection is a mechanism in channels and authority for specific designs. When I’m correctness, self-projection says what it says. Period. I used the term today to refer to outward express in an effort to sort through thoughts. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

Digging deeper into one of the most watered down and unhelpful things we’ve been taught and that we teach our kids. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

There’s this thing that floats around the coaching/spiritual/mindset world that says when you make a decision the universe will test you on it. I’m calling bullshit and offering you a different perspective on what happens when life puts obstacles in front of you. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

Let’s chat about this concept of getting in your own way, being distracted and self sabotaging. It comes back to control and judgement and it’s just not true so I’ll offer some new perspectives on our free will, the awareness of the other options and choices available to us and what’s actually important to be focused on when we’re moving forward in our lives. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

In this episode I ended up talking about having an emotional authority (defined solar plexus in your human design chart - 50% of the population has this) and offering some questions and ponderings about anxiety. We have entered a new world after the past two crazy years. It’s time to find our footing and figure out what this new normal is and how we move forward in it. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

With spring weather starting to make an appearance in Michigan I’ve started seeing a lot of comments and remarks about how the weather is making people sick. #fakenews The weather doesn’t make you sick. Being out in the cold doesn’t give you a cold. Today let’s talk about how to nourish your body better and how to support our kids health more effectively. Yes, even as the weather changes and physically impacts our bodies. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

When talking to those that people please to the detriment of themselves they will not change because it's hurting themselves. They're already used to sacrificing themselves and focusing on everyone else outside of themselves.  The perspective that needs to "click" for them isn't about them,  it's about the other people in their life.    People-pleasing and being the one who has taken it upon yourself to constantly take care of everyone else's problems and keep the peace in the family/relationship is HINDERING those you care for and not helping them. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/butfirstcoffee/support

The most human experience we can have is feeling emotion. Denying the "negative" emotions that you're feeling or the negative thoughts you may be thinking creates resistance which keeps you stuck in the lower vibrations and the struggle and suffering that we can experience as humans.    Acceptance releases resistance. This allows HARMONY between all parts of ourselves which is what ultimately allows us to experience less suffering, more of the upper end of the emotions and a better life.    Our natural state is high vibe. We naturally operate at higher vibrations, it is our resistance to feeling and acknowledging the lower vibrations and emotions that keeps them present and stuck in our lives. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Because of where we are in the crossroads of change right now, the transition from breakdown to breakthrough, the people in your life are changing. Get curious about the people who have come into your life in the past 3 months. These people are here to make an impact on you that is more potent than normal. They are catalysts in your journey and transformation that you need right now so you can have what you want most in life in the next chapter.   So, who's new? Get curious. Ask what they make you feel and what they trigger in you. Look at what you want with them and what boundaries you want. Don't let yourself get sucked into the current labels, boxes and definitions society gives us for our relationships. You decide. Let yourself discover what it is.   Your role, your purpose and souls mission, in this lifetime is not to be just like everyone else and follow all the rules some old white dudes decided on hundreds of years ago. We are demanding our autonomy, uniqueness and sovereignty be h

For the visionaries, leaders, teachers and healers… what happened and what you decided at the end of 2019 has determined a lot for you. We are at another crossroads, just like the fall of 2019. It's a time to choose. What you decided back then has brought you here and you are asked again, "yes or no?"   I also talk about the importance of the next SMALL step and what it means to engage with your decision.  --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Let’s get back in the swing of this…. - what was talked about before 2020 and how is that different from now - what you might be experiencing & feeling now bc of what’s coming - it’s not means to be HARD but it will be uncomfortable - why is tension building - what is going to change the most after the tension breaks And some of the other pieces coming in other episodes --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Today’s episode is about why and how boundaries need to be clarified in yourself and your relationships so that trust can flourish. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support

Oh how the spiritual manifestation law of attraction coaching peoples love to misinterpret what “ease and alignment” really means. So let’s chat about it. Today I talk about: - why language is the most powerful tool of manipulation - what being “happy” really means and feels like - how to actually make quantum leaps - why your goals and desires feel really hard and like they aren’t happening for you  - what people typically thing ease and alignment means - what ease and alignment actually means And more! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/butfirstcoffee/support